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A girl I like didn’t invite me to her brday, and invited others including my mates at work.

Anyway after she did a sponser walk, my mate said I should have sponsored her the most £20, she messaged every1

I didn’t sponser anything, he goes there’s no difference beetween you and her she gave you a chance.

If I helped her this would help me to show I’m above all these games?
 

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A girl I like didn’t invite me to her brday, and invited others including my mates at work.

Anyway after she did a sponser walk, my mate said I should have sponsored her the most £20, she messaged every1

I didn’t sponser anything, he goes there’s no difference beetween you and her she gave you a chance.

If I helped her this would help me to show I’m above all these games?
take the damn hint SHE DON"T LIKE YOU, move on
 

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Was it some charity walk thing? Most of those are a scam, anyway. The money goes to pay the salaries of the charity execs, and the rest is often given to pharmaceutical and other giant corporations. Susan Koman walks are like that, all rah rah hype to trick women into fleecing their friends and family out of money.
 

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Yes charity walk
In my 30,s

My friend also said in past I made a mistake when she was messging me on my birthday.. I asked about a drink I and she didn’t say yes or no, she sent a few other messages and goes are you back to work on Monday...indirectly asking me out
I said yes, but after ages I asked her for a drink, she never replied. (friend said only 80% chance of sucess, if I said straight away 100% chance.)

Also in same text she was off on my bday, so I said I saved her a chocolate cos I gave everyone elese one at work(friends advice), when she came to work, I said I was joking she said that’s fine.

I know people say move on, last thing is I had two argument a with her over text.

One was where I asked for her advice she didn’t give me it..so then I messaged Few days later saying maybe I shouldn’t have ask you..that’s when said you need to stop messging and coming to my desk, even though it was only occasionally (different friends advice)

Next time I messaged her 2 months later I wanted to tell her about being me attacked at home..face to face she said messge me I said I need to say face to face was having none of it, I said thought we were mates, she ignored that then I made a joke and she leave me alone

I’m thinking if I bump into to her just to say I miss you and maybe ask for a hug.
What’s the point?, and say last thing I wanted to tell you wasn’t about you...so it does end on a sour note,
 

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Troll, this thread and posting history
 

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Yes charity walk
In my 30,s

My friend also said in past I made a mistake when she was messging me on my birthday.. I asked about a drink I and she didn’t say yes or no, she sent a few other messages and goes are you back to work on Monday...indirectly asking me out
I said yes, but after ages I asked her for a drink, she never replied. (friend said only 80% chance of sucess, if I said straight away 100% chance.)

Also in same text she was off on my bday, so I said I saved her a chocolate cos I gave everyone elese one at work(friends advice), when she came to work, I said I was joking she said that’s fine.

I know people say move on, last thing is I had two argument a with her over text.

One was where I asked for her advice she didn’t give me it..so then I messaged Few days later saying maybe I shouldn’t have ask you..that’s when said you need to stop messging and coming to my desk, even though it was only occasionally (different friends advice)

Next time I messaged her 2 months later I wanted to tell her about being me attacked at home..face to face she said messge me I said I need to say face to face was having none of it, I said thought we were mates, she ignored that then I made a joke and she leave me alone

I’m thinking if I bump into to her just to say I miss you and maybe ask for a hug.
What’s the point?, and say last thing I wanted to tell you wasn’t about you...so it does end on a sour note,
so if I change work for school it will look like you have 10, I will repeat SHE DON'T LIKE YOU move on
 

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I know she doesn’t like me
I just wanna rectify the mistakes

Mistakes I made
- telling other people I like her and asking for advice
- Giving gifts
- Telling her I liked her
- Following people’s advice what to message/say to her


I wish I could turn back time, never tell her I like her and just ask her out twice, then just move on we would at least have a amcimable relationship and maybe even friends

Before I like her I use to flirt and she did use to say how heartbroken I would be, if she went other guy...I could have had so much fun if I didn’t say I liked her
 

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Holly Sh*t, you are basically chasing this girls and she loves the attention and not you. Why are you even wasting any brain power on her. A high value male (which looks like you are not from the context) asks a girl out once and keeps it moving. Almost 99% of guys act like you thus guys being fustrated with women.

Your friend is a moron as well, I would not listen to his advice either because clearly he does not get it either. He just told you that you should have sponsored her so you can show some value and win her over for a date...this is weak.

My advice is keep it moving, if you see her keep it cordial. If she wants to get with you she knows how to contact you. Go hit the gym and work on yourself and girls will be asking you out, actually if you can get to a certain level girls will be nervous around you in a good way because they will see you having too much value in their insecure minds
 

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rectify? only way to fix this is never doing this again, learn and move on, don't hold friendship with woman in any regard, they are not really good friends, also to save your own mind never keep "friendship" with a woman you wanted, just drop and move on and stop wasting time
 

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Holly Sh*t, you are basically chasing this girls and she loves the attention and not you. Why are you even wasting any brain power on her. A high value male (which looks like you are not from the context) asks a girl out once and keeps it moving. Almost 99% of guys act like you thus guys being fustrated with women.

Your friend is a moron as well, I would not listen to his advice either because clearly he does not get it either. He just told you that you should have sponsored her so you can show some value and win her over for a date...this is weak.

My advice is keep it moving, if you see her keep it cordial. If she wants to get with you she knows how to contact you. Go hit the gym and work on yourself and girls will be asking you out, actually if you can get to a certain level girls will be nervous around you in a good way because they will see you having too much value in their insecure minds
If she loves the attention why would she have said leave me alone.
Because I care about her it’s not easy to find someone you genuinely like and care about no matter how many girls you meet.

Gym i tried I hated it what else can I do.

I know this may sound sad but I wanted to tell her about being attacked for sympathy.

Thanks for advice I do appreciate it.
I wish before I met her I went gym and workers on myself then she would be with me now, yes I can do that now and will meet other girls, but not her again
 

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rectify? only way to fix this is never doing this again, learn and move on, don't hold friendship with woman in any regard, they are not really good friends, also to save your own mind never keep "friendship" with a woman you wanted, just drop and move on and stop wasting time
Loads of people say this but I don’t see anything wrong with being friends with a girl you like, why’s it wrong..lots of people friends with their exs, and girls they like
 

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I know she doesn’t like me.

she did use to say how heartbroken I would be, if she went other guy...
You wore your heart on your sleeve sticking so far out that she saw it, and now you want to remain friends with her…
Take her clue to you, vacate her vicinity forever, and find a girl that likes you in return…
 

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If she loves the attention why would she have said leave me alone.
Because I care about her it’s not easy to find someone you genuinely like and care about no matter how many girls you meet.

Gym i tried I hated it what else can I do.

I know this may sound sad but I wanted to tell her about being attacked for sympathy.

Thanks for advice I do appreciate it.
I wish before I met her I went gym and workers on myself then she would be with me now, yes I can do that now and will meet other girls, but not her again
Hey buddy, every guy has been there. Us men are built to take rejection because girls cannot handle it thus we have to risk it. You have to force yourself to get in the gym, once you are a week or two in you will crave it.

You think this girl is some unicorn but you do not even know her, you will realize that most girls have crap personalities and are just horrible people in general just like most guys. You are just mezmerized by her looks and you forgot about everything else that matters. Once you get to a place internally to a high status level you will drop girls because you will realize they are no worth it long term.

You need to use each experience that you have with a girl as an educational piece of what you are actually looking for in a person.
 

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I use to go gym I couldn’t wait to stop it’s so hard and boring.
 

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Loads of people say this but I don’t see anything wrong with being friends with a girl you like, why’s it wrong..lots of people friends with their exs, and girls they like
yes and most of time one of the exes want to get back, trust the wisdow of people who already did all this sh!t before and saw this over and over, move on,the very reason she don't even your atencion means you are nothing to her, you are so insignificant to ehr, even your atencion is unwelcome, she don't even want to be friends because she knows you will be annoying

and I can't say she is wrong

I am not a troll
I use to go gym I couldn’t wait to stop it’s so hard and boring.
then find something else to do, crying will not solve the problem
 
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