Is my girl a slut?

[Fly By Night]

So this girl I've been into for the past couple of months is cool and all. She never flaked on dates until about last week (did not ask her out since then). She does not appear intimate when necessary (just goes with the motions). She always stops me from having sex with her (LMR?). But get this, SHE'S NOT A VIRGIN. She says she "loves" spending time with me, but then I want us to become exclusive (not bf/gf yet) and then she starts telling me **** like, "she's not looking for anything serious."

I mean we still make out and such and such, but then she hardly ever texts me. My gut tells me she's sleeping around (or maybe just messing around) with other guys. I just took a more detailed look into her fb (yeah, I be creepin' when my *****es act up) and sure enough, I would see random guys saying "hey" and "sup girl" to her. Who knows how many more message her? But, those were in her past, idk if she changed? (Doubt it)

I don't want this post to get too long, but I feel like I was being treated unfairly. I talked to other girls, but I actually stopped myself from going out with them. I have to admit, my game feels like it has actually GOTTEN WORSE and those number would not have converted into anything, but damit, if she's ****ing other guys, I at least want to have the same treatment before I keep it moving.

The one thing I wanted to get from SS was getting a quality woman that I could have a relationship with. She was a candidate at first, but not so much anymore.

I have zero proof that she is with other guys at this point in time. And she is pretty much my last non-flaking plate so I will hit rock bottom again if I lose her. (I'm not scared to lose her, I will just dread to start back at square one again)

So my questions are:
Was I just a time filler to her?
Should I just move on without caring if I got some or not?

 

[flashpoint]

two things:
first: she "'s not looking for anything serious." - with you at least.
second: you have invested alot so far without much benefit. obviously more than she did. it might be tempting to pursue this thing because of that investment, but that is very rarely a good idea. as in business you gotta cut your losses and go after something (someone) more promising.

concerning your questions:
a) who cares
b) yes and see a)

 

[Skalioppe]

You're the "banker" - the person who is 100% available on demand to give her some company and to make her feel wanted and attractive.

She'll make out of with you occasionally to maintain your interest, think of it in terms of a Scooby snack you throw to a dog to keep them obedient. Even if she's not fvcking other men, she almost certainly wants to and is probably "window shopping" for c0ck. She won't flake on you because she values you as her friend and puppy dog.

Truth is, your behaviour toward her isn't Alpha enough for her to want to fvck you, so you're more in the friend zone than in the fvck zone. You're too easy to manipulate for that to change.

My advice, flake on her a bit (shows her she isn't the centre of your world), leave delays between contact etc. Don't be so needy and escalate your texting into sexting so she knows you're Alpha and have needs.

 

[Purefilth]

Friend - Zone! NEXT!!!!

 

[Mike32ct]

Three options:

1. Be her makeout buddy for a long time and maybe (10% chance) of F-ing her months from now if she doesn't disappear soon.

2. Put your foot down. Make out a bit, then politely tell her you have to go. Leave. When she texts you or asks you why, tell her you aren't interested in an eigth grade relationship.

3. Just delete her number.


I would do #2 first, then if she doesn't play ball, #3.

 

[Fly By Night]

Thanks guys. Some of the responses were harsh but if I ****ed up then I probably deserved it. Since she was my first in a long time (at least first since I came to SS) I kind of told my friends about her. They are AFC and pretty much when I said I had a a woman, they were all like "DUDE GO OUT WITH HER". Now, almost every time I see my friends, they are like "how is [chick's name] doing?" I've been with her for a few months and I only made one other post about her.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192640

you have invested alot so far without much benefit. obviously more than she did. it might be tempting to pursue this thing because of that investment, but that is very rarely a good idea. as in business you gotta cut your losses and go after something (someone) more promising.

True, true. I've been working on my game over the summer, but very low success. I really gotta get back on the saddle when I get back to college.

Truth is, your behaviour toward her isn't Alpha enough for her to want to fvck you, so you're more in the friend zone than in the fvck zone. You're too easy to manipulate for that to change.

My advice, flake on her a bit (shows her she isn't the centre of your world), leave delays between contact etc. Don't be so needy and escalate your texting into sexting so she knows you're Alpha and have needs.

We'll I've been forward with her, I made the first kiss, advancing towards her place, but then it seems like it just hit a peak. Still don't know what I did wrong but I probably shouldn't try to fix this one.

And like in the previous post, she never texts me. Never. I ask her out on dates like ONCE IN TWO WEEKS. Low interest much?

What is this quote about? Are you asking to be exclusive before you have fvked her?

Never ask a girl to be exclusive. And certainly never do such a thing before you have fvked her.

To quote Rollo: If you are not fvking her, then you are her girlfriend.

Time to find some other girls to game. This is isn't worth the effort and sounds like she's already friend-zoned you.

I hate, hate, hate the friend zone. After all this time of trying to avoid it, I end up back in it in another form. Thanks for the advice though.

1. Be her makeout buddy for a long time and maybe (10% chance) of F-ing her months from now if she doesn't disappear soon.

2. Put your foot down. Make out a bit, then politely tell her you have to go. Leave. When she texts you or asks you why, tell her you aren't interested in an eigth grade relationship.

3. Just delete her number.

We'll since she never contacts me, I'm probably just going to go NC. That will probably be the last time I hear of her. :crackup:

Lessons?
-Don't ask for exclusivity
-Eff her on the first go, because 'gina juice dries up pretty fast