Is my friend able to be saved?

[Purefilth]

"There is a one and a million chance that all of this could be legit. People win the lottery sometimes. But do you play the lottery and think a woman is equivalent to a multimillion dollar cash prize?"

Yeah the phone rings:

'Hello Sir, youve won the Nigerian national lottery, can I take your bank details'

LOL

 

[blind_one]

He told me that he talks to her via Skype. I assume they talk on webcam... but I've never pressed him on that part. Lol

It is a shame, but I've come to grips that there isn't much I can do at this point. I've just want to get the community's POV on this and as I thought, it matches my own POV.

I know how, you feel I've been in simmilar situation as you AND that guy too, I know you want to help you fellow chap but I just don't know they way how. It's hard to come to terms with it.

 

[zekko]

Because to us it doesnt make sense to have any emotional attachment to a woman

I agree you should not be dependent on a woman and you certainly cannot rely on one. But do you really mean to say you should never form any sort of emotional attachment with a woman? In other words, never form an emotional bond with one? Because that seems a little extreme to me. Is that what SoSuave is really teaching?

I know any time emotions are involved, you open yourself up to the risk of being hurt. But so what? The pain is temporary, and it seems like the alternative is to not really live. Guys here seem so intent on never getting hurt here, I just don't think it's possible without completely numbing yourself.

 

[Purefilth]

I agree you should not be dependent on a woman and you certainly cannot rely on one. But do you really mean to say you should never form any sort of emotional attachment with a woman? In other words, never form an emotional bond with one? Because that seems a little extreme to me. Is that what SoSuave is really teaching?

I know any time emotions are involved, you open yourself up to the risk of being hurt. But so what? The pain is temporary, and it seems like the alternative is to not really live. Guys here seem so intent on never getting hurt here, I just don't think it's possible without completely numbing yourself.

Oops meant to say a woman that youve never met lol:crackup:

 

[Gray The Prince]

I'm sure this doesn't have any relevance to the overall situation, but in case you guys are wondering, I have never seen a full body pic of this girl. I went through all 150-200 of her photos on Facebook and looked at all of her profile pics. She has a nice face but she's always wearing makeup in her pics and they're always of her face and at most, her shoulders. She's obviously angling her pics and holds the camera in the air and whatnot. My friend told me she wasn't "skinny" but he never went into specifics.

I'll update this thread every now and then. If he's gonna destroy himself, I might as well keep logs of it.

 

[Vidrio]

Whatever happened to your friend?

 

[Crazystarf]

I know any time emotions are involved, you open yourself up to the risk of being hurt. But so what? The pain is temporary, and it seems like the alternative is to not really live. Guys here seem so intent on never getting hurt here, I just don't think it's possible without completely numbing yourself.

This generally applies to long-term relationships; when emotional bonds form and break, it affects both parties in various ways (only when feelings are mutual).

The thing is, emotions should be involved slowly w/ the other person; you can't just dump all your emotions in a single moment and expect the other partner to do the same; it just doesn't work that way.

 

[Dali_tx_o]

If you really care for your friend and can afford it, buy him a ticket to Peru.

Tell him that you thought about the situation, and realized you are not the one to take decisions for him. Tell him you are supporting him in whatever he decides, and you are always there for him, to make it up for doubting his decisions, you bought a ticket, so he can go and see the girl. Maybe tell him you can't see him just spending his days next to the computer, and you want him to be happy and finally see the girl.

Be careful when wording it, if you say "You want him to make sure the girl is really what he thinks she is" you might make him defensive and suspicious. Sure, that is your goal, but don't say it.

Kidnapping/kidney stealing risk aside, if gets to see the girl face-to-face, there's a few scenarios I can think of:

1) The girl is just as he imagined, they both really like each other, and know they fell in love or whatever. Be happy, your friend found someone he really likes, and at least he got to kiss/bang her. He will love you for this.
2) He finds out the girl is actually fat, obnoxious village slut that has been milking him, or something like that. His illusion of the perfect girl gets shattered.
2a) Some doubts will enter his mind. It might take awhile, but the seed of dissatisfaction will be planted and he will likely break up with her after some time once he comes back, when he realizes she's nothing special, or that he can do better.
2b) He will drop her right there because he realizes it all was a lie he manufactured himself, spends a couple of days in Peru crying, then comes back to US and thanks you.
3) She plays him well, he comes back home happy, after a while girl moves to US and just milks him for money/visa, or whatever her original plan was. Which would happen anyway, if it were to happen.

Of course, a ticket to Peru might cost you a bit of $, but that's the question of what is more important to you.

 

[Purefilth]

Im on the kidney thieving idea