is moving out of your parents place, important ?

donArjun

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I have a job, so I can move out into a nice area of NY, so finances is not an issue.... ..but its more convenient for me to stay home as my parents take care of lunch, laundry, a huge room...of course parents are a pain, I hate bring this up , but do you think moving away from your parents is that important ? I don't mind if you say it is, bc I manage to feel more freedom when I am away from them , but there is a trade-off bc living on your own, takes more effort and time etc. you have to do your shopping, laundry, cooking, household chores..
 

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donArjun said:
I have a job, so I can move out into a nice area of NY, so finances is not an issue.... ..but its more convenient for me to stay home as my parents take care of lunch, laundry, a huge room...of course parents are a pain, I hate bring this up , but do you think moving away from your parents is that important ? I don't mind if you say it is, bc I manage to feel more freedom when I am away from them , but there is a trade-off bc living on your own, takes more effort and time etc. you have to do your shopping, laundry, cooking, household chores..
You're 25?

YES.
 

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I just went on a stint of having my own place over summer andim coming back home now after about 5 months. It's alot of work, alot more then you think.

You miss the home cooked meals, all the free stuff lol. Most importantly if you livewitha roommate there is gonna be problems because you can't agree 100% of the time, and you may find out they are completely different then you thought they were. Thats basically what happened with me, my roommate and me just ended up hating eachother after 5 months because we found out living wise we were completely different people.

But on that note if you aren't in school (uni) and you're 25, you should be out of the house.
 

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I plan on moving out in the next few months :)

There comes a time where you just need your freedom buddy. I know you're craving to have your own pad, where you are the boss. Like Uro said, you're bound to miss the home-treats, such as yummy dinners and your dirty washing done, but that's not nearly enough drawback from the positives.

The real world awaits buddy.
 

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It really feeds the desire to move out when your parents buy and eat rotting fruit, burn almost every meal, let the laundry sit for two weeks before it gets done, and when it does get done, bleach is accidently spilled on your clothes. And if your parents are miserable, negative people, you'll be that much happier to get the hell out.

Living at home sucked compared to living on my own. I rarely burn what I cook, the laundry gets done every week, bleach NEVER gets near my clothes, and I'm happier than a pig in 5hit. Independence kicks ass! Also, you have the entire place to decorate with what YOU want. It's a rush to have that kind of independence.
 

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Desdinova's personal trauma aside...

Yeah, it's absolutely important. What makes a man is self-reliance.
 

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we were always taught that when you grow up , you leave the nest and fly away or when you grow up and become a man or woman you leave home and make a home for yourself and your family.
 

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No it's not. Self sufficiency is important. That means moving out of your parent's house and moving into your girlfriend's place doesn't count. Personally, I don't even feel that moving in with roommates count either.
 

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I cannot beleive that you would consider using your parents as slaves (cooking, laundry) and consider that a positive thing!

Wait until you are my age with your own kids.. the shoe will be on the other foot.

MOVE OUT and let your parents rest!

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I say once you can afford to live on your OWN, then move out. Too many people want to grow up fast. They end up scraping by because they can't handle financial responsibility. HDTVs, home theater setups, car audio, rims, whatever before the utility bills.

Or they're in such a hurry to move out that they end up living one block from the ghetto because it's all they can afford. There's nothing wrong with living at home, until you ready to move out. Just make sure the options you have infront of you are good options.

I'm only 22, I could move out. But I choose to stay home for another 3 or 4 years. Why? Because I'm starting to save for a down payment on a house. An apartment would be nice, but then again so would an extra saved $30k for the house vs apartment.
 

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Eccentric said:
...I'm only 22, I could move out. But I choose to stay home for another 3 or 4 years. Why? Because I'm starting to save for a down payment on a house. An apartment would be nice, but then again so would an extra saved $30k for the house vs apartment.
Or you could get 100% financing and forgo having to put any money down and move out now. It's a buyer's market in at least 80% of the US now but you guys want to wait a few years until you get a down payment. By that time the housing market would have rebounded, prices would go back up and your down payment would buy you even less. You'd think that these young adults who have lived at home for so long to finish college would have learned something about finance.
 

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I say its important, for the same reason that have been listed. Im 19 and still with my parents, Im only staying till Im out of school, Ill be 21 or 22 then, after that Im moving out. Most likely to a whole new state as well.
 

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It's a reason why alot of animals in the animal kingdom kick their offspring, espically males, out of the pack/tribe/house/whatever when they are of age to take care of themselves.

To put it in prospective, I wouldnt give a girl the time of day that doesn't live by herself, and I am a GUY,a nd I am dead serious, with the execption of going to school to be a lawyer or doctor or something like that.

the day I turned 18 I had to get out of my house. Tough love but I am soo glad my mom did that to me in a sense, becuase i look at my friends who are both older than me still living off parents.
 

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backbreaker said:
It's a reason why alot of animals in the animal kingdom kick their offspring, espically males, out of the pack/tribe/house/whatever when they are of age to take care of themselves.

To put it in prospective, I wouldnt give a girl the time of day that doesn't live by herself, and I am a GUY,a nd I am dead serious, with the execption of going to school to be a lawyer or doctor or something like that.

the day I turned 18 I had to get out of my house. Tough love but I am soo glad my mom did that to me in a sense, becuase i look at my friends who are both older than me still living off parents.
Congratulations for having the fortitude to embrace the concept of self sufficiency at an early age, it does seem rare nowadays. :up:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Or you could get 100% financing and forgo having to put any money down and move out now. It's a buyer's market in at least 80% of the US now but you guys want to wait a few years until you get a down payment. By that time the housing market would have rebounded, prices would go back up and your down payment would buy you even less. You'd think that these young adults who have lived at home for so long to finish college would have learned something about finance.
Yeah well I didn't go to college. I just got a job with the teamsters union, so I dont have a lot of money yet. I'm on 22 ****ing years old. I know I know, my lifestyle is wrong. Hell why not finance a Maybach and move to Beverly Hills because the market is good.
 

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Yes, it is. I'm in my early 20s, and I'm stuck living with my parents since I can't afford rent (no one seems to want to hire me, and my current job pays the equivalent of $4/hr. If it weren't for my allowance I'd be in serious trouble due to lack of pay.). I would love to live on my own, and the fact that you can reasonably afford it (by that I mean not some $h7+-hole in the ghetto) is reason that you should do it.

I once lived in an apartment by myself for a year. My parents paid the rent, which I wasn't proud of. But the simple fact that they aren't around makes the biggest difference ever. I had to come back since they weren't willing to pay my rent anymore, and I had no way to keep paying it. I still do grocery shopping sometimes, and I do laundry for my own clothes, so having those things done for me isn't an issue. I may not have utility bills (apart from Internet and cellphone), but I still have bills to pay.

To me at least, the work involved with maintaining your own place is of no matter compared to what you get from living alone. It's so worth it when you don't have to tell your mother that you plan to go to the bars and drink a lot.

Plus the older you get, the more embarrassing it gets. At least in your case it's different, because you CAN but DON'T, not like me where I CAN'T. I'm younger than you are, but I get flack from others because I live with my parents, and not through choice. People say "why not move out?" I always have to tell them "because I can't afford it." I'm reluctant to bring home people I know or just met (so I never do, I always meet them somewhere else), and if I want to "do the nasty" with some girl, I'd have to rent a local hotel room and can't take her home. Plus many people don't want to date those who still live with their parents (and I can perfectly see why).

Living on your own lets you grow more. When I had to move back, I was very sad. I felt like a part of me died.

I'm fully aware of the financial implications. When it comes to this, it's ultimately your choice (assuming you can afford it). To me, my sanity will depend on it. You have to decide which you want more: Additional money or additional freedom (well, I can do almost whatever I want, but I still have to explain what I'm doing. Plus no parties/get-togethers at home and no taking girls home.)? Personally, my plan is that as soon as I can afford it, I'll move out a month or two later, so I can save a little money for some more furniture.

At least you have the option of doing that, a fall-back plan. Unfortunately some people don't have that, and living with your parents sure as hell beats being homeless.


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I still live with my parents. I like it here, but I would like to live on my own. I think of them almost as roomates. If I could move out, I would, but that's not an option at this time. I hope that some day I will be making enough money to live on my own, but it's kind of tough these days.
 
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