Is monogamy a myth?

[MindOverMatter]

MOM, although your explanation is great...in theory...its not how real life works.

No offense, but you are 17. You're still in high school, your definition of real life means little to me. The girls you're dating, and the girls you will date after you graduate college are completly different species.

Why do you think so many beautiful women say they can't find a guy?

Because they're attention whores, and are trying to get you to feed their ego. It's also a test to see how interested/desperate you are and AFCs fail this test all the time. A hot girl will say she can't find a guy anywhere, and he will be like "wtf I don't believe that for a second" or "im right here!".

"Taken" women are very unapproachable. Maybe its just me, but I'm the kind of guy girls wish they COULD say they belonged to. Some guy comes up... "ahhahaha, no im sorry, im with HIM"

A woman who is proud of her man will give off body language that screams "go ahead, try something, i dare ya, itll give me an excuse to show off my great bf."

See this is why I bust on you for being young. You're very naive. First, you assume that people only hit on your girl in front of you. Yeah no sh!t, if she's with you, she will shoot down the guy hitting on her, because she wants you to trust her. You think she's gonna act the same when she's with you, and when she's with her girls out clubbing on ladies night? Sure thing kid.

Taken are unapprochable? Wtf are you smoking man. Taken women are just as approachable as every other girl. My last 3 girls ALL had boyfriends when I met them, and only one of them told me she had one BEFORE we went to my place. And I still hooked up with her despite it. Girls will only tell you about their boyfriend if they're flat out not interested in you, or if they're feeling guilty and want you to convince them they're not a slut.

All girls love attention. There is a reason they dress sexy, wear make up, spend half an hour styling their hair. They WANT to be noticed, and approached. They do it so that when they're in a public place by themselves, a great guy will come out of the blue, notice her out of all the other girls, and approach her. And you're telling me that if she has a boyfriend at home, she will tell the guy this? BS. If she's in a happy relationship with you, she will just use him for attention while keeping him as a backup in case her relationship goes south. If she's not in a happy relationship with you, or if he puts her in a sexual state, that girl is gone.

You have a lot to learn...

 

[A-Unit]

Throwin' in some words.

IMHO, beautiful women aren't attention *****s, sluts, or any of the above, they're just what they are beautiful.

I recall the story of the Ugly Ducking very often, because many girls, or even guys, myself included, were once very shy, timid, and self-conscious people when we were younger. Very awkward. In turn, while the outside changes, the inside doesn't.

The same happens with many beautiful women, it can go either way. I've met bitter, fat women who, out of the treatment of throughout their lives, in turn FEEL all beautiful or at least PEOPLE BETTER LOOKING THAN THEM, are pieces of shyt with no respect for others. The same result was possible with a female friend of mine in college. She was bout 250. Awesome personality, friendly, got along with guys (probably because she wanted 1 so bad), but she always felt we wanted "a blonde, with big boobs, and real skinny." Well, in most instances that is the opposite of what I want, and she is. I like brunettes (normally), tanned, perky boobs, and thick. Aside from that, her assumption always led to friendly tension because I was angered, but understanding of her negativity.

ALOT of girls I know blossomed late in life, and due to male/female cycles, will also wilt as we MEN are continuing to bloom and grow. So take heed, I'd say the shelf life of a beautiful woman is from 16 to early 30's. Unless she takes care of herself, and ignores the genetic gifts she has, she'll follow that cycle. Aunts of mine who are MILFS, run alot, they're active with kids, and look great at 40. There are the rare birds who make it to the 40's and look like Sex kittens, but they are RARE. At some point the woman can choose 2 things...

1) Settle down with a regular partner. OR,

2) Become a weather bar hoe trying to pick up the straggling men, both older and younger.

My friends who are single or going to be divorced by their late 30's or early 40's would take a long term partner, but decline marriage BECAUSE...

1) They have ALOT to offer, while a woman of the same age has very little. With so much wealth afforded the single man, what incentive is there to marry, unless she's much younger??

2) Why get tied down? Most plan on having NO kids, or already did.

3) There's more to lose by divorce than there is beneifically gained by marrying.

Later in life, toward the end, marriage behooves a woman who has stayed single so long. She can take advantage of what a man has earned, or acquire his Social Security as well as assets at his death, by law. With marriage, she has no entitelment unless he deems so or it's common law marriage at that point.

The only reason I'd marry is for kids. If I elect children, aside from donating or adoption, I plan marrying, too. Frankly, there's enough abused, abandoned, and endangered kids to NOT do it right. If you plan kids, plan marriage. And plan to do it right, or don't do it at all.


B.E.A.R.

 

[Raptured Phoenix]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
See this is why I bust on you for being young. You're very naive. First, you assume that people only hit on your girl in front of you. Yeah no sh!t, if she's with you, she will shoot down the guy hitting on her, because she wants you to trust her. You think she's gonna act the same when she's with you, and when she's with her girls out clubbing on ladies night? Sure thing kid.

Yeah I am young. How old are you?

Also, for one thing, this chick was in no way 'mine,' secondly I was standing there watching her talk to the 'playah' guy for a few seconds. She is rather hostile. I came up because that guy was about to get kicked in the testicles, and I dont like seeing her in the mood she was in.

Someone mentioned that marriage is an investment, its not only an investment for the man, its also an investment for the woman. SHE is also investing time in YOU. A lot of chicks DO want good returns on their investment and they wouldnt throw it away for one night of ass from some guy she met in a bar.

I'm not saying that its impossible to influence peoples decisions...but how many guys do you know that are succesful hypnotists?

All I'm saying is that although..yeah there is a chance she will cheat on you...that chance is not as high as you make it sound.

 

[dietzcoi]

Akindof blu

I won't even waste my time trying to argue with you and your so-called scientific studies.

You'll think just like me when you are 44!

I stand by everthing I stated.. learned from LIFE EXPERIENCE!

You haven't learned anything yet... you are 24.

However, I do wish you luck. If you have a long term monagomous marriage and feel you are happy, more power to you.

Hell, even some slaves reported being happy on the plantation!

Dietzcoi

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Chasing hors for a lifetime is too strenous for me - I leave that task for the pimps!!

I'd take one good spiritual dedicated virtuous loving 16, I mean 18 year old woman over 100 sloppy masculine ill-mannered loud mouth disease infested hors!!

Dietxcoi, I understand uyour pain and I am extremely fortunate not to have suffered your fate but I want a connection beyond the physical !! If I were to marry a woman it would be based on matters beyond the physical - I can get a HOR every week - so what!!! - Hors are 'physical' and nothing else - a truly devoted
spiritual woman is beyond the physical and one whom I seek!! A woman sacrifices herself for the upliftment of the man!!!!

I may have to go to another planet to seek my prize!!

 

[dietzcoi]

PR_L

You will have to go to another planet....

My point is not that you cannot eventually have a monogamous marriage... of course you can!


My point is not to marry the first girl you meet when you are 18... just like you have done, people need to date and even experience the biatches and hos before they can decide what is right for them...

I cannot believe you would want to go into marriage as a young 18 year old man and stay married to the same female for 70 years!!!

Sounds like a life sentence... but then again I am a bitter old man and you know why!

Dietzcoi

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

In the past when there was very few options regarding a man's choosing of a wife living in his immmediate vicinity - marriage at 14 was not uncommon! To marry today at 18 is insane because society is more complicated and women are much much much more devious!!! Hell, back then cousins married!!!

This is why one must choose based on spirituality vs. physicality because many of these young boys are 'lusting' after the flesh and getting trapped and burned at such an young age!!


Women trap men with their beauty which is inextricably and closely tied to their 'youth!'! Men are more rational as we get older and see women differently as we age!! We look for things that are beyond the physical lustful makings of a woman and see her as she is!!!

So yes, wait until you are older and wiser to make the marriage decision!! Obviously, there are those who married very young without divorce but this is the exception and not the rule!!