Monogamy is a myth, or at least it's becoming a myth in my life. I'll explain why.
Before I discovered mASF and sosuave, I really believed monogamy was the only way a person could be happy. I mean, as much as I envied the benefits of a player-like lifestyle, in the end I always thought it was an empty existance.
So I started applying knowledge from gunwitch, mASF, sosuave and started getting results. One of the first things I learned, was that it was 10x easier to steal somebody's girlfriend then it was to keep one. Which leads me to my next argument, who cheats more, women or men?
Women by far. I don't want you to think I'm being bitter towards women or anything like that, I love women, despite their flaws. But lets face the facts.
As men, it is up to us to do all the approaching. The only way for women to approach men in the way men approach women is for the man to look like an underwear model or have a celebrity status. An important thing to consider is: a man who is happy with his partner will not bother looking for a replacement, because he doesn't need the extra effort it takes to attain something that he already has. By being in a happy relationship, he will not make that extra effort to place himself in a position where he may consider cheating.
A woman on the other hand, especially a beautiful woman, will always get approached by guys wherever she goes. She will always be approached by single guys, mostly afcs, and she will always be put in a position where she may consider a replacement.
Picture that, as a guy, if you were in a relationship, even if it was a happy one, but you were approached by 5-10 women a day who showed low to high signs of interest in you, how long could you hold out? A week? A month? Suppose you had a week long fight with your partner, and got approached by 5-10 women the next day that showed signs of low to high interest in you, would you stay with your gf and work it out, or give into the temptation for just a little while? What if one of those girls put you in a sexual state within 10 minutes of talking to you, and you knew in your head that if you didn't take this oppurtunity, you'd prolly miss out on some of the best sex of your life?
When humans enter sexual states, they will disregard the world around them. They will forget their morals, social values, their good upbringing, and will just give in to it. Gunwitch method is based on this human weakness, and that's why it's so successful. The simple truth is, if you can put a girl into her sexual state, she will forget everything. She will forget about her boyfriend, about what's right and wrong, and just cave in. I have been involved with women that had boyfriends at the time, and I've had oppurtunities (which I never took) to be involved with engaged/married women.
So now that I know all this, now that I know how fragile humans are when the heat is on, how can I ever put all my trust into one girl? There is no way I can ever believe that one person is so special and unique from the rest of the world that they will resist the temptation if it happens. The fact is, if the oppurtunity is tempting enough, every girl will become a hor [(c.) PRL].
What is monogamy? It is an investment of time. You invest your time into one, and one person only. Listen, no matter how good your stock is, its value will go down over time. Sooner or later, you have to get rid of it, or it will ruin you.
The funny thing is, I'm typing all this while in a monogamous relationship with a great girl. She's respectful, fun to be around, and an amazing lover. However, I don't trust her. She hasn't given me reasons not to trust her. She's been nothing but great to me, and has yet given me a reason to question her loyalty. I don't trust her because I know that humans are fragile, and if put into a position where the temptation is too strong, I know she will cave like everybody else.
So now I'm getting to the point where I think monogamy itself is an empty existance. I mean what's the point of investing all your time in one person, if you can't trust them? I'm re-evaluating everything I've learned and am starting to see the simple beauty of a polygamous/player lifestyle. Your partners invest in you, you invest very little into them. If your investments start to fail, it doesn't matter, because you still made all the profit you wanted, and have other investments to fall back on. You never lose.
Out of respect, I plan on riding this relationship out till its end (or until the girl gives me a good reason to walk), but once it's done, I'm probably done with monogamy for good.
my 2c.
