Is Love real?

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I thought I'd come up with a topic slightly different then the others here, just ot get us thinking about something slightly different, yet still in scope.

SO is love real? Wether it is or not in any sense what is it?

If you want my opinion here it pretty much is in essay form lol feel free to read it if you want something thought provoking:

Love is a word, used far too often for the wrong reasons, people wanting to love, hoping they do, believing that the club fling is all so real. A word, nothing more. What matters is the emotion the word implies, the way we feel is real, love, a word, will never be real, except in the minds of the hopeful and hopeless. Once the connection is made every cloud has a silver lining, nothing can go wrong, nothing matters but the 'love' two people share. Therefore it would seem that love is bliss, wonderful, at least perfect, but only to the ignorant and those who hope for a world that will never exist.

'Love' provides a greater feeling than any other can possibly hope to achieve, but to lose that love, to lose grip on that connection, is unbearable. To lose the emotion is to lose yourself, the loss of this emotion makes death by any means seem like a relaxing get away, get away from the rotting corpse your heart has become. Many have died because of 'love', or at least claim to.

'LOVE', something that will never be real, people claim to kill themselves for love? If he kills himself for her, and she kills herself for him, do they really die for love, for each other, or simply die for themselves ? They are dieing for their pain not their partners. No one can die for love, because there are always others that love you, to kill yourself for what you think may be love is to kill love itself, one can not die for love, only for selfishness.

He who created the word love may just as well have created an endless cloud of piercing needles overlapping the Earth's skies. Don't get me wrong, I think the emotion called 'love' is the greatest thing there will ever be, unmatched by anything. At the same time i resent it, because I know that everything with a beginning must have an end, and the end of that emotion is the one, the only end i fear. In my opinion 'love', 'Hope', 'Dreams', are all exactly the same thing. They put images in our head, blissful images that we almost create as our reality, all three guide us and make us feel like we have something to live for, but Dreams end; we wake up, Hope fades; we lose sight of what was hoped for, Love dies; though it may never have even been there it still seems to die and take anyone holding onto it with it.

But then again if we didn't have a percieved reason to live, like pursuing love, our hopes and dreams.. then really why would we be living at all.. So in conclusion; Love is an emotion we strive to feel in our own pursuit of purpose.
 
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I think this is a great discussion, and it's about time we start to put our minds and talents into some topic and learn something.

I'll add something to this tomorrow. But for a quick answer, love is real....however, it doesn't look nor present itself the way you thought it would.
 

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Love is dopamine over a cingulate gyrus. Dopamine is an addictive substance, so love is a drug that one produces with their own mind. The need for this drug is what causes reproduction to happen.

Like any drug, it can create miserable addicts. Usually AFC's and drama queens.
 

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Great definition dude. It really does make you think.

Heres my personal thought/definition on the word love:

Girls feel love. Guys make love.
 

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love is induced chemically in the brain.

it could simply be the human brain attaching meaning and "poetry" to simple animal, reproductive drive, lust.

dopamine plays a part. as does seratonin. as does oxytocin.... lust - pleasure - attachment - affection - love.

it's all chemical. but that doesn't let anything off the hook.

we're all chemical. everything about us.

it's as real as anything else in our lives.

and people will die for it. kill for it. lie, cheat and steal for it.

he!! yes it's real.

delta

p.s. actually, i think MEN are far more SENTIMENTAL and SAPPY than women. for us, love is much more superfluous. it is all about fun and pleasure and so we have a tendency to romanticize it (all that crap in the old movies where the women are like that - that's what the male writers WANTED women to be like!). women are actually MUCH MORE PRAGMATIC about it because of the biological consequences of mating for them. that's why some of them seem like "cold hearted, money grubbing b1tches...." biology makes em that way.
 

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Love between to friends is a different kind of love than that between a man and a woman. The love between two friends is not influenced by attraction or the lust from the opposite sex, friendship is something that you can easily decide whether you want to hang around with that person or not. It is a logical and concious decision therefore platonic love is more real because it is made on a logical and concious decision.

However love in a sexual way normally between a man and a woman is not real to the person, it is not a concious decision that we have arrived at, it simply happens and is instead controlled at a molecular level as opposed to a concious thought process.

Unlike platonic love which is simply a meeting of minds, sexual love is based upon lust something out of our control so in essence it isn't real or at the very least sexual love is not as 'pure' for want of a better word than platonic love. :rolleyes:
 
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Is planet earth real?
 

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Awsome posts all.

Now remember you can even use this an opening line, since it's not like most and shows your sensitive side. Open a set by saying something like, "My friends and I were debating if love really exists or not, so i was wondering if you guys/girls could help us end the debate?" Then after they explain there interpretation, you explain yours(or someone elses written here lol) slightly and your in.
 

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^ No, that's creepy.

And of course it doesn' exist.. It's just everybody thinks it does so it confuses you sometimes. Even when the person doesn "love" anybody they will still insist they will one day and it will be perfect etc.
 

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Mabye I didn' get what you were saying or something.

You talked about going up to a girl and showing your sensitive side, lol it sounds like "I didn't think love was real.. until I saw you." lol

Mabye you say it in a different way. lol anyway.. I find I'm happiest when I'm not "in love" with anybody. As I'm a bit of a cynical person and it's basically like constant pain.
Not a good feeling.
 

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fromt the greek-

phileo - love between friends... platonic love.

agape - unconditional love of parent or god

eros - sexual love

eros is the only love that is completely SELFISH. we do not love in this sense for the sake of another. it is for us. we do not date for THEIR BENEFIT (and unfortunately, women will not sacrifice and date us for OUR benefit!). it is for us. all about what we want for ourselves. self interest. one of the reasons why we must always appeal to self interest and never to pity or sympathy.

delta
 
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