Is just completely forgetting about outcome when approaching girls good?

[ElStud]

Is completely forgetting about outcome when approaching girls good? I want to know this because usually when a guy goes in worried about outcome, he fails. I'm talking about just going in there not wanting a number, not wanting a kiss, not wanting sex, not wanting anything from her. I'm talking about simply going up there and having a good time with the woman, not caring if you get laid or not. Just going up there genuine, with no agenda. So I guess what I'm asking is, is it good to approach with this mind set? Not expecting anything from her?

 

[EFFORT]

Yes, thats a great mindset.

 

[sandman6991]

I say it's better to have a mindset of not CARING, instead of not "expecting" anything.

 

[Chase12]

actually its whatever mindset u have that should be avoided

have u gotten a number yet? even 1?

 

[ElStud]

actually its whatever mindset u have that should be avoided

have u gotten a number yet? even 1?

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[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Is completely forgetting about outcome when approaching girls good? I want to know this because usually when a guy goes in worried about outcome, he fails. I'm talking about just going in there not wanting a number, not wanting a kiss, not wanting sex, not wanting anything from her. I'm talking about simply going up there and having a good time with the woman, not caring if you get laid or not. Just going up there genuine, with no agenda. So I guess what I'm asking is, is it good to approach with this mind set? Not expecting anything from her?

Bad mindset, cause you're basically talking to a girl for no reason and she'll probably see that and have very low interest.
But, I agree with not caring about the outcome.
Show the girls that you're interested in them, but also transmit the message that you don't need them and could find another girl easily (it's best to give this message indirectly).

 

[Alphamale1821]

I always go out with the mindset of having fun and making a new friend. That key word fun is simply what allows me to not worry about getting laid, or anything of the like. If a chick rejects me, so what i'm still having fun. If i get laid or kissed that night, i'm happy but regardless even if i didn't i'm still going to have fun. My mindset is "**** it go with the flow and have fun" I'm always down to make a new friend and try do something, new, fun and exciting

 

[Alkali]

Depends on the type of person you are.

If you're petrified by failure and choke when expectations are present, sure, whatever helps.

If you thrive on tense situations, it's always good to have an objective to surpass.

People are different.

 

[unnamed04]

Yes it's a good mindset for an AFC, because it'll help you get over any anxieties you may have. But it doesn't really help your inner game, unless you aren't interested in becomming a real man, rather just another fake guy who gets a lot of girls (which I have no problem with, but it's definately not the life I want to live).

The best mindset is being a MAN. If you're out with a girl, just have fun. Don't restrict it to friends. Embrace your sexuality. If the opportunities arise, kino, escalate, kiss, whatever is needed.

Whenever the outcome is not what you had hoped it would be, WHO CARES? You can't do anything to change it so don't worry about it!! It wasn't meant to be just be happy you gave it a go, laugh it off with your mates over a beer and get on with your life.

Life's too short to worry about anything - just live it.

Most people's view on failure is an illusion. NOT going up to a girl and talking is FAILURE. Any second that passes that you aren't furthering your success is true failure.

Having a nice chat to a hottie at a cafe but her rejecting the number, that's just plain BAD LUCK my friend... Say "well see you around then, have a nice day", give her a nice smile and walk off laughing - learn from the experience. The only time you ever have the right to be pissed off is if you ever get rejected rudely or anything like that, which in that case, do whatever the **** you want because that ***** isn't worth your time of day.

 

[Bvbidd]

People talk to talk, concidering that's what a "normal" person does your probally better off with that mindset.

 

[Maxtro]

It is a great mindset to have when you are starting out. Your main goal is to be relaxed and have fun.

Once you are ok going up to and having a fun time with girls the you can start worrying about getting their numbers and asking them out.

 

[Kev07]

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I'm taking that as a no, come on bro, CLOSE!!!!!!!!!!


As for your original question, i say a good mindset is to not give a damn if you get rejected, or even better, laugh at it.

 

[Last Man Standing]

If you are an American then you are most likely approaching hors - and why should you worry - when, if you are successful in attaining such an incongruent beast, you have failed!!

 

[MooseGod]

If you are an American then you are most likely approaching hors - and why should you worry - when, if you are successful in attaining such an incongruent beast, you have failed!!

I like that... "incongruent beast."

I think approaching without visualizing an outcome is one of the best things you can do... you can't really judge attraction until you at least talk to the girl. And regardless of how you may feel, you don't need a woman. You need food, shelter, and clothing. Everything else is just icing on the cake. So fvck your fears, fvck what anybody else thinks of you, fvck outcomes, and you might just fvck the girl if you play your cards right.

Edit: Does anybody else think these forum filters are a bit ridiculous? We should all be adults here, why can't we use swear words to emphasize a point? Jeez, I hate censorship.

 

[dav22]

I swear i replied to this, did you delete and repost it again?