Hey guys !
Have a situation with my girlfriend and would like some input ... it is the second post about that particular situation now that I have a bit more data.
to make a long story short my young gf who I have been dating for 6 months left travelling with her boss a third time ( this time oversea ) for a little more then a week. the first 2 trips where only for 2 days and 1 was with another colleague of her...
Everything seemed fine until on the second trip she went alone with him and 1 learn while she was on the trip that the guy rented a airbnb (small appartement) with separate room. I tough this was highly unprofessional thing to do.
I also learned that the trip oversea was also going to be just the 2 of them travelling together and meeting a bunch of colleague over there (they have an office on that location ).
I asked a bit of question telling her it seem inappropriate to be renting an appartement and that I had a feeling this whole thing looked a bit sketchy from my perspective. She said she had not tough about it and that they were just friends. She also agreed it might have look a bit suspicious but that there was not much to say (did not seem overly defensive and listen to my concerned and understood them). She also told me she was going to stay with a friend while there...
We have a really good thing going sexwise and she is the good girl type ... only had one bf for a long time ... she is very serious with her job and is looking into someone to settle down. I am natural alpha and she responds very well too me I have a feeling she might be more in love then what she is letting me know.
I never really was a jealous guy but this situation has me a little and not sure on what is the proper way to move forward. Since things have been going really well and her interest level in me is very high I decided to bite the bullet trust her and not display any jealousy insecurity appart from the one time I questioned her a bit. Since arriving there she has been contacting me everyday and I make sure she initiate most of the texting etc ...
But a few things have me a bit worried. She told me she would no longer be staying at her friend and they found them (probably talking about her and the boss ) a nice hotel. From what I understood she has a room with her bed and its a possibility another room connect to hers with 2 beds for her boss. ( not sure about that they might be in totally different room she did not say and did not further question ). On the weekend they also travelled and went to the beach and other travel location with 1 gf and the boss.
Anyways I never was the jealous type in my life because I never really needed too be and I always have a policy of trusting the girl I am with. I also was never faced with a similar situation before.
I have to admit tought that I am a little indisposed with the situation. I am about 50/50 on this one. 1 scenario is that my girlfriend is enjoying the travel and free food but feels nothing for the boss etc...
and the other would be I am getting badly played. I am slo thinking this might be a huge **** test ... who knows... everybody that know me and her told me she was not the type etc but they would also be unpleased with the whole thing ...
Some further info about this that might be useful.
-she wanted me to come with her and asked me a couple of time when the trip was first planned. also says she misses me a lot and that she did not want to go.
-The day before she left was amazing we had some of the best sex.
-She says she won't be travelling for a while after that.
-I am naturally of a dominant caracter in and outside the bedroom and she is very pleased with it. She also knows I am not afraid to walk away and stand my ground because I did it with earlier **** test.
-her boss is married w/kids and in my eye not physically attractive... he might be charming tough never met him yet.
Let me aslo had that she has been nb 1 ever since I started dating her she removed herself from the dating site right away and she told me recently about kissing another guy when we just started dating witch i tough was very honest.
How would you guys react to this type of situation ?!
Is questioning her some more about where she is staying too insecure ?!
I know jealousy and insecurity is one of the biggest panty dropper out there but are they situations where jealousy is warranted and a good thing ( ex to show you care and have backbone etc ). I feel just blindly trusting can sometimes be
I am a little lost on this one. My initial plan was to question her once she get back and asked her flat out if anything happened and that she putted me in a weird situation and moved from there...
She knows I am not super kool with the situation altough I did not act over the top jealous and concern and it creates a bit of tension.
I like a lot her and see potential LTR material within her but I am also ready too walk away if needed... I just really started to become more involve emotionally in the last few weeks.
thx in advance for any positive input !!
Have a situation with my girlfriend and would like some input ... it is the second post about that particular situation now that I have a bit more data.
to make a long story short my young gf who I have been dating for 6 months left travelling with her boss a third time ( this time oversea ) for a little more then a week. the first 2 trips where only for 2 days and 1 was with another colleague of her...
Everything seemed fine until on the second trip she went alone with him and 1 learn while she was on the trip that the guy rented a airbnb (small appartement) with separate room. I tough this was highly unprofessional thing to do.
I also learned that the trip oversea was also going to be just the 2 of them travelling together and meeting a bunch of colleague over there (they have an office on that location ).
I asked a bit of question telling her it seem inappropriate to be renting an appartement and that I had a feeling this whole thing looked a bit sketchy from my perspective. She said she had not tough about it and that they were just friends. She also agreed it might have look a bit suspicious but that there was not much to say (did not seem overly defensive and listen to my concerned and understood them). She also told me she was going to stay with a friend while there...
We have a really good thing going sexwise and she is the good girl type ... only had one bf for a long time ... she is very serious with her job and is looking into someone to settle down. I am natural alpha and she responds very well too me I have a feeling she might be more in love then what she is letting me know.
I never really was a jealous guy but this situation has me a little and not sure on what is the proper way to move forward. Since things have been going really well and her interest level in me is very high I decided to bite the bullet trust her and not display any jealousy insecurity appart from the one time I questioned her a bit. Since arriving there she has been contacting me everyday and I make sure she initiate most of the texting etc ...
But a few things have me a bit worried. She told me she would no longer be staying at her friend and they found them (probably talking about her and the boss ) a nice hotel. From what I understood she has a room with her bed and its a possibility another room connect to hers with 2 beds for her boss. ( not sure about that they might be in totally different room she did not say and did not further question ). On the weekend they also travelled and went to the beach and other travel location with 1 gf and the boss.
Anyways I never was the jealous type in my life because I never really needed too be and I always have a policy of trusting the girl I am with. I also was never faced with a similar situation before.
I have to admit tought that I am a little indisposed with the situation. I am about 50/50 on this one. 1 scenario is that my girlfriend is enjoying the travel and free food but feels nothing for the boss etc...
and the other would be I am getting badly played. I am slo thinking this might be a huge **** test ... who knows... everybody that know me and her told me she was not the type etc but they would also be unpleased with the whole thing ...
Some further info about this that might be useful.
-she wanted me to come with her and asked me a couple of time when the trip was first planned. also says she misses me a lot and that she did not want to go.
-The day before she left was amazing we had some of the best sex.
-She says she won't be travelling for a while after that.
-I am naturally of a dominant caracter in and outside the bedroom and she is very pleased with it. She also knows I am not afraid to walk away and stand my ground because I did it with earlier **** test.
-her boss is married w/kids and in my eye not physically attractive... he might be charming tough never met him yet.
Let me aslo had that she has been nb 1 ever since I started dating her she removed herself from the dating site right away and she told me recently about kissing another guy when we just started dating witch i tough was very honest.
How would you guys react to this type of situation ?!
Is questioning her some more about where she is staying too insecure ?!
I know jealousy and insecurity is one of the biggest panty dropper out there but are they situations where jealousy is warranted and a good thing ( ex to show you care and have backbone etc ). I feel just blindly trusting can sometimes be
I am a little lost on this one. My initial plan was to question her once she get back and asked her flat out if anything happened and that she putted me in a weird situation and moved from there...
She knows I am not super kool with the situation altough I did not act over the top jealous and concern and it creates a bit of tension.
I like a lot her and see potential LTR material within her but I am also ready too walk away if needed... I just really started to become more involve emotionally in the last few weeks.
thx in advance for any positive input !!
