Was in an intense relationship for a year with this woman. She was in love and so was I and we even discussed marriage. I freaked out and told her I needed space to think. For an ENTIRE YEAR she tried everything to get me back! I was still just too confused and scared. Well eventually she hooked up with another guy and I think they've been dating for a year now.
Well one of her good friends told me six months ago after a conversation as to why I never frequented some places anymore and I told her that I was still deeply in love with her and I did not want to have a run in. She said I should contact her and flippantly dismissed that she was seeing someone else. So after a letter of apology for my actions was received well by my ex thanking me for my kind words. I thought so far so good.
Then I confronted her in person not long after and I spilled my guts and told her she is the one and that I was in love with her and would do anything to get her back. She was shocked and at a loss for words. She did though, without hesitation, agree to meet me for coffee. We hugged. This was all in public by the way and her supposed boyfriend works right next door! It seemed like everything was on track.
I never heard anything about that coffee for two weeks. Her friend that had been telling me to try, started dropping hints in a very indirect manner as to where I should be and to continue trying. She never said that she was trying to help me but it was obvious! I even remember hearing from one of my friends that she took my ex to two bars that I go to and she never goes without any sign of her supposed boyfriend with her! Just her friend!
For a solid month I began going to the coffee bar where her friend, who incidentally worked at this coffee bar, indicated quietly I should be and she gave me the times. I wanted to see if I could get her comfortable with seeing me again. Well after three encounters there, she acted nervous and uncomfortable. It was just me saying hi and how have you been, and I would finish by reminding her of the coffee she promised me. She always acknowledged with a "Yes. OK", then she would go about her business with her other friends with her. I even remember turning to look as I walked away her friend (the one trying to help me) and her lock eyes and smile big. Everything seemed to be on track.
Well here comes the finale! The last time I went there I decided to go for broke and ask for a specific time to have lunch. I was going to be bold! So I arrived, she was there with a friend drinking coffee. I approach her giving loving squeeze to her shoulder, we exchange hello's, then I moved to get my coffee. On her way out of the place I turn to her, she smiles at me and touches my shoulder and squeezes a little. I then thought: "I'm In!!" I stop her and ask if she wants to get lunch Saturday. She went from smiling to stone-cold straight faced. She said she would think about it. I assured her was was no big deal.
Two hours later I get an email stating that she was very busy, had many problems in her life she needed to solve and had no ENERGY to have lunch or a coffee with you and to please stop trying to ask.
SO WHAT IS GOING ON!!!! I'm confused. Her friend was obviously trying to help me and knew something I did not and I never asked as I could tell she did not want to say much except to try! I have thus stopped going to the coffee bar out of respect for my ex's wishes. But I suppose sooner or later I need to ask her friend what the truth is! Is there still hope or am I just delusional?
