Exactly don't let your little friend get you into trouble. Whenever you really think she isnt' feeling you dont let your brain convince you she is just playing games. Just because you find her attractive that means nothing. Women always talk about "sparks", once you learn to start trusting your "gut" you will understand this.Originally posted by Reach
I need to be way more selective next time I go for a girl. Just do what you're comfortable with and when you're comfortable with taking a risk, that's when you should do it.
Originally posted by A-Unit
Your what? C0CK?
It clouds EVERY guys thoughts. It's clouded my thoughts, easily.
Personally, when that happens, I sit back and meditate, think on it, feel on it. Every guy knows what he feels for a chick and if it's going anywhere. If you dated a hottie, where she's inflexible, doesn't joke around, or ask questions back...then it won't end up anywhere better in the future. Most guys know this, few guys act on this. If you keep hope alive, you keep the pain alive. Discard the *hope*.
There's 2 emotions in life, only 2. Every other emotion is a derivation of these 2.
1. Love
2. Fear
If you get to the route of any emotion you will find it was fear or love. It can get much more complex than that...for instance.
A guy who lingers around a hottie who he has no rapport with does so out of HOPE for things to turn, or a longing to be OUT OF THE FRIEND zone. But what is the real emotion?
Fear -- Fear he won't find another hottie like this he can get close enough to. Is that true? For crying out loud, you don't have anything anyways. Move on. Fear invades all parts of life.
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For you, it might not even be a matter of being picky, instead, you might be looking in the wrong place. In "The Art of Macking", he speaks about how guys get their 'game' right from late teens to early 20's. Finally in their late 20's and early 30's, the guy has is tight enough to pull whoever he wants, for the most part. At that point, he's got money, some sense of identity, and enough experience under his belt to be comfortable with any woman. The only thing holding most young blokes back is that they're still cruising their hometowns. That's not a very wide breadth of experience and, if you're like me, who lives near a major city of 100k, with overflowing highschools, you'll find most of the money b!tches in Boston. The outskirts, women are scattered. And the young 1's are still hoodrat, chickenheads, into the little girl stuff and wooed by the crap on MTV. They'll get over it, once they realize no REAL relationship can be based on such immature and imagined things. Besides who a woman picks to be her husband has to be a role model for her kids, AND ALL WOMEN WANT KIDS. Don't fool yaselves.
The only lass that don't want kids is a lesbo, and EVEN THEY Adopt kids in a feable attempt to mimic HAVING kids. Look at Rosie. Look at all the gays parading to get equal adoption and parenting rights. No woman, hot or not, wants to end up alone. At some point, whether it's 30 or 50, her value declines. And most women, don't have much value anyways. They want US to provide a lifestyle, but they don't want to do the things necessary to fill the void: cook, clean, shop for the household. Unless a woman was to be bored at home for some reason, with no kids, I could see the duties being split 50/50. BUT, if she's caring for the kids and decides to stay home, carry the weight.
This all hits the EGO hard. It his all people who seek to FEEL like an individual who has opinions and choices hard...because to think you're interdependent connotates a certain air of "weakness." Not true. Every person is interdependent on someone else. A sales person, while they're making their own check, relies on the service team and customer care arm of the business, as well as the tech guys. CEO's build strong teams to manage companies. A golf relies on his caddy to choose clubs, pace the course, and line up putts. A quarterback relies on his WR to run the right route, on the GM to pick up the best draft picks, and the coach to design the right plays, as well as hoping his Oline holds out long enough to not get pummeled. A baby relies on a mother and parents until he learns WHERE to place his trust in life. It's a sham to think a person is so utterly independent. Even an employee at a company relies on a boss, and the corporation, and the stockolders. Nature relies on interdependent energies to survive. I.e. Tree ---> Light, CO2, Water, where does all this come from?
I'm going off point, to make a point...
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You can get above th C0Ck mentality when you first acknowledge your having those thoughts. Then you can step out of them. Push them aside and focus on WHAT SHE DOES FOR YOU. Your **** don't care what it gets, a feeling is a feeling is a feeling. What does she do for you? You and I both know, when you're driven sexually, you'll do anything in between to get it, so already know, that your interest in her comes with ALOT of assumptions about what you'll do. It holds the world over for guys, since most guys go broke for women, girl hear about guys taking care of them for no sex involved, so they know, even if it's NOT SPOKEN. It's true!
A-Unit
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I use this too...When I get that connection, it makes the interactions more natural...When I tried to get at a girl from some quick action or whatever, I always fukked it up cause deep down inside, I knew I really didnt want to bother with the girl, but I was lying to myself...I have to put alot of effort into talking to new people, if Im not feeling them I cant fukk with them, I figured I might as well do the same thing for girls...Im finally figuring out what kind of girls I like, and I feel alot better about it...Sure this means that I dont approach alot of girls, but Im only gonna try if its something I really want, so now I dont have to worry about game that much cause everything will just click for me and Ill feel wayy more comfortable...Originally posted by A-Unit
I'm not sure what you "specifically" call it, but it exists. P-S made this noticeable to me, as well, on the pimphop boards. It was so obvious, I was like "duh."
And even in Sexual Dynamics, which is grounded in psychology, nlp, science, and fact more than most systems out there, makes hints that we're already programmed to "go for 1 type of person."
I completely agree with this. You don't buy sneakers you dont like, you dont watch shows that aren't entertaining, so way waste time with a girl in which you feel absoultly nothing for.Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
I use this too...When I get that connection, it makes the interactions more natural...When I tried to get at a girl from some quick action or whatever, I always fukked it up cause deep down inside, I knew I really didnt want to bother with the girl, but I was lying to myself...I have to put alot of effort into talking to new people, if Im not feeling them I cant fukk with them, I figured I might as well do the same thing for girls...Im finally figuring out what kind of girls I like, and I feel alot better about it...Sure this means that I dont approach alot of girls, but Im only gonna try if its something I really want, so now I dont have to worry about game that much cause everything will just click for me and Ill feel wayy more comfortable...
Agreed. As of late i find myself missing in action. It's like my feel for women and my emotions dont exist anymore. Sure i can be standing next to a HB9 and not feel a thing.Originally posted by Royal Elite
I completely agree with this. You don't buy sneakers you dont like, you dont watch shows that aren't entertaining, so way waste time with a girl in which you feel absoultly nothing for.