Is it worth having a GF these days?

[Krueg]

Hey guys, new to the site. Mainly been posting in the Health & Fitness Forum.

I been single for awhile now, not having much success.. but, generally I like being single. I feel more free, can do what I want and mainly focus on numero uno! Though, there is times where I feel lonley or wish I had a girlfriend. I then realize all the B.S. and drama that comes with it.

I been there for my friends when they went though problems. Currently, a friend of mine is going through a break up w/ his GF. There still loiving together - mainly cause of their daughter but, she is moving out next month. During this time she is inviting guys over for drinks and staying out all night at clubs.

I live in a apartment complex on the more ghetto side of town cause my financial situation. I'm always seeing couples or hearing them fight and yell at each other. Or I'm hearing stories about how these girls are cheating or like hooking up with lots of guys.

I know not all relationships are bad and there is a lot of happy couples without the drama. But sh!t I hear and see makes me think twice or discourages me from wanting to find a girl cause I think most are sl*ts or something. I'm only 23 years old and maybe its just younger people like me in their 20's and are too young to really know what they want or how to act.

What are your thoughts?

 

[LostAndConfused]

Date around.

Women who like you will try to tie you down into a relationship, its inevitable. Either way, you lose power when you enter it. Much of modern man's power to women can be found in his mystery, and you become much less mysterious when you're in a monogamous relationship. You could play every move right with a girl and still have her cheat if she's a novelty seeker (edit: or more likely, her friends influence her away from you). The typical DJ solution is to go cold/NC for a couple of days. It works, (esp. when she's ovulating) but the fact that we as men have to EVEN go through such measures to keep an alpha edge in a relationship is fvcking ridiculous(ly) pathetic.

Relationships, just like marriage, are a raw deal for men, and the second you enter one you're already giving all of those other alphas vying for your girls' sweet, sweet ass a powerful, hypergamous edge.

And let's not forget the fact that you're missing out on dating all those OTHER girls, so that should you desire marriage in the future, you'd know exactly what to look for, nah mean?

:EDIT: There's an exception to this. If you're a stone-cold player who can use the girl to slingshot your way into more and hotter tang.

 

[handle]

I don't think explicitly _looking_ for a girlfriend is a good idea, but if you do meet a girl who meets your criteria of what you'd expect in a girlfriend and it feels right, then why not?

I've been in a relationship for several years with no fights and no drama. It's working out so far. I have friends in couples like you described though -- fighting all the time, bickering, no sex -- and I wonder why they don't go it alone. I think as long as you aren't getting suckered into one, relationships can be a good thing. But there is no need to make it a goal right now.

 

[bigneil]

(wrong OP).

 

[lexluciano]

i've always had this thought in mind too my brutha...

but when it comes down to it, we've been put on this earth to mate and create other generations etc. etc. You don't wanna be single forever! Especially if theres a good movie out in theaters. Who you gonna call? Your boys? Not to mention, you can't always go clubbing with your boys 24/7, going to bars. That shyt gets oversaturated after awhile.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Do what makes you happy.

 

[DonGorgon]

Only if she is Fing frequently and paying for stuff fro you.. other wise no...

never get a GF and expect her to be loyal or committed you have to focus on just getting sex and money from her.. cause that is easier to get than loyalty and commitment

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

As long as you make sure she is bringing some assets to the table. and Sex isn't an asset!

Most dudes noowadays enter in relationships where the girl is just bringing some ass and the dude is bringing money, food, shelter etc. Then your going to be mad as hell when she breaks up with you and your gioing to be questioning your decision to wife this girl up for a very long time. You wonder how I know? I've done it before. So before you get a gf make sure she is bringing things to the table.

 

[nismo-4]

Only if she brings more than beauty and sex to the table. Sex don't pay bills. Money does.

Otherwise, I think having a girlfriend is difficult and asinine, as there's no guarantee she'll be loyal to you. Especially if you're average. Same with marriage.

Case dismissed. I don't want no f**kin' kids either.

 

[Eternal_water]

I'd like one

 

[bigneil]

Most dudes noowadays enter in relationships where the girl is just bringing some ass and the dude is bringing money, food, shelter etc. Then your going to be mad as hell when she breaks up with you.

Brilliant! It's the Human Male Condition explained!

Actually, if you would please provide a counterexample to this standard of Humanity. Oh wait, I get it. When you get a girl who plays violin, you won't care if she leaves you! Because she was fat!

Or could it be that SHE will be equally mad when YOU leave?

 

[bigneil]

Only if she brings more than beauty and sex to the table. Sex don't pay bills. Money does.

That's called being a Pimp.

 

[coochieman]

The reason i'm in love with this forum is cos i find lotta fellows like myself. The whole mystery and dark edge about you declines rapidly after the first couple of weeks of a serious relationship.

 

[bigneil]

The whole mystery and dark edge about you declines rapidly after the first couple of weeks of a serious relationship.

Don't let it. Only see her every 10 days but spend 10 days worth of money on her then. You'll find her begging you to see her more, but decline 2 out of 3 times (because you can't afford it, but don't let her know that). And no texting in the meantime, unless to reply to her freaking out (she writes twice).

 

[zekko]

Wow, I live with my girlfriend and we don't get sick of each other. I don't get all these constant posts on here saying stuff like "Don't talk to her more than once a week or she'll lose interest in you".

Seriously, wtf? Some of you people must be practically unbearable to be around. Maybe because you're always playing PUA games instead of being real.

 

[perseverance]

That's entirely down to you.

I don't think having a girlfriend is worth it for me, purely because I don't want to be locked down in a relationship. Relationships deserve time and commitment and I am not prepared to offer the time, nor the commitment needed to make one work. So, rather than waste someone's time, I'll continue to fly solo.