Is it true, that all guys suck bad the first time they have sex?

Jariel

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My first time was terrible, I went limp from nervousness, I didn't have a clue what I was doing and I really didn't enjoy it at all. From what a lot of guys say, it's quite common.

The worst mistake a lot of guys commit is jumping straight into the action and going at it like a porn star.

However, unlike a man, women need to be warmed up so the best advice I can give you is to really take your time. Before you even consider sex (oral, or otherwise) Work on kissing her body all over, drawing close and then moving away from the erogenous zones. Constantly tease her and keep doing it until she starts getting restless. Then move onto the nipples for a while, then maybe oral sex, providing she hasn't already climaxed (which often happens).

Basically, what differentiates the expert from the inexperienced guy is patience.

BTW. I discovered this purely by chance because I got performance anxiety and was playing for time. :)
 

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If you're actually worried about it enough to post it on here, you probably won't do that well.... haha, j/k.... but seriously, stop worrying, it doesn't help.
What this guy told you to do is take it really slow, basically make her beg for you to finally bang her brains out.
 

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Foreplay! Hype her up for an hour or so.
 

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ya... you're gonna suck your first time, but just play it off buildup right away and hop back in there like you never got out of it

Unless she's like disgusted by your performance and walked off by then.
 

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Porn does brainwash many many guys. With women, they are emotional creatures for the most part. For an enjoyable first time, you'll need to warm her up. I'd say start with a nice massage 3 mins or maybe 4 max. Move up, kiss her neck while stroking her hair (if she has hair....i'd hope so). You should do that for about a minute maybe even a minute and a half. Slowly begin to move down to her upper chest right before you get to the breasts. While you're there you should one of her hand and massage it while kissing that area....be sure to use a little bit of tongue...not too much tongue....just use the tip of your tongue and imitate how a snake thrusts its tongue. Do it with rhythm use the tip of your tongue. Be sure to do each side. I'd give it about 4 or 5 minutes on that. Move down and skip her breasts....it's an unpredictable tease if you do so....and move to her abdomen area and kiss....I'd recommend using you the tongue for this area...If you decide to use your tongue....do semi long strokes with the tip of your tongue......your tongue should barely be touching her body. She should experience a tickling sensation when you do this. Kiss for for 10 secs and then use your tongue for 5 seconds and then go back into kissing. Now, while you kiss, you should give a light massage to the ribcage area...and then use the tongue again...be sure to look into her eyes this time...and then continue back to kissing. I'd say you should give about 30 secs to a minute on the abdomen area. Move down to her pelvis area. right for you reach her c!it a kiss that area....definetly use your tongue and tease it. You can combine semi long tongue stokes and snake tongue thrusts to give much pleasure. For that area.....massage her upper thighs while you do this. I'd say that maybe 3 or 4 minutes would be good for this area...because it'll make her hot for ya.....If tries to get up, light push her back down.....and then go into the inner thigh area....right before you get to her pu$$y....You can do some major teasing around this area with kissing and doing a little something that I like to call the tongue slide...basically...the tongue slide is doing the horizontal version of the semi long stroke....all you need to use is the tip of your tongue and go from one side...and kiss....and then go to the other side and kiss....to make her even hotter....during the middle of one of your tongue slides....be very light circle her outer pu$$y lips...do it once counter clock wise...and then kiss....and then go back and do it clock wise and kiss....I would rub her leg while I did this......

At the very end....pretend like you're going in for the "kill" to eat her out......get you mouth close enough that she can barely feel it....and then....STOP....you can do this for about..that process should take about 4 or 5 minutes....and then whisper in her ear....."It's your turn".......and then if you did it right...she'll be ready to give you your pleasure.....there you have it...your sample of foreplay.....if you do things my way...you should be able to get about maybe 55 minutes maybe longer of good foreplay....because remember, she's going to want to do you well.....

After her turn....you may then give her the extra treats.....like nipple licking and eating her out.....but for nipple licking....use the tip your tongue and go in a circular motion....counter clock wise around her nipple...and then suck...for about 7 secs...and then go clockwise and suck....basically, you can be creative with this....whatever you think feels good....just make it flow.......

for eating her out.....I'm going to tell you that....the out area of the pu$$y is the most sensitive area (besides the cl!t).....just work the out area first and then if you want you can go inside of it....that's up to you....but if you don't want to...you make your way up to the cl!t...no biggie...and play with it...very similar to the nipple licking.....actually...you'll be doing just about the same stuff.

and then after that you can get her to do more stuff for you....for example....she just may want to suck ya...if you do everything right.....

between all of that...you've got probably about 1:45 minutes or more.....

Note: Be sure to do some massaging....but find a different area....don't go back to those areas mentioned...unles it's the inner thigh.....

After all that...you can figure out how to get her ready for the intercourse.

In which you will probably need to learn a couple of tips on how to hold in the ejaculation. It's not that difficult...just relax...

By the way...when you're inside of her...switch you thrust positions and angles....the higher the angle...the more intense.....learn how to tease her with intensity.


Good luck.:cool:
 

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What about if you fck for the first time a girlfriend or a person you see a lot.

If you suck at it then it may cause weird feelings when you see her. In your mind youll be thinkin "i was crap" or she could be thinkin "god i gotta talk to him and he was sh!te las night"

Do you know what i mean ?
 

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All I read was the topic.

I went for a couple hours the first time I had sex, and went three more times that night. So, no it isn't true that all men suck when they have sex the first time; however, it is true that some guys do.
 

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my advice is just to always fuc-k virgins.
 

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00Kevin, unfortunately, if you do that for too long, you might end up in jail for breaking certain laws.

They best advice I can give is just to not worry about it. If it's gonna be good, it will be. When you start over-thinking things, you will do things wrong. Take your time, relax, and let the moment take you away.
 

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Make sure you dont pee, thinking its ***.
 

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my first time... we came together.

it lasted for about ten minutes.

didn't use condoms ( stupid i know ), since it was on the spur of the moment. and i didn't expect to have done it then and there.

it was her first time too.

my arms were sore the day after from supporting my body. so was my back. :D
 

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unless you're just not sexually stimulated, there's no way a guy can pee while having sex. At least that's what I was told to believe. Heck I know there was a couple times when I was f-ing a girl in the past where I had to take a piss before but still managed to *** without pissing by the end. So I dunno?

From what I've come to understand. A lot of guys focus on getting themselves off and so if you're really concerned about her getting off, you're ahead of the game already. Instead of thinking about whether or not you're good at it, just take some tips from the board (make sure they're good ones) and focus on build up. Be prepared the best you can. Some girls like rough, some like gentle.

I've found that as much as one may want to blow their load in the first 2 minutes, that most girls will not want no two-pump chump. For girls I've found that it's about maintaining and building ESPECIALLY when it's time for them to orgasm. You can completely ruin it by bringing her close to the top and then slowing down for a "breather".

Besides from what I know, only some small percentage of girls actually reach orgasm. Its something like 20% of girls are able to reach orgasm during sex. There's a substantial portion that have never even had one so I "think" you'll be fine.

:)
 

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I think I was an ace the first time

she knew I was a virgin and she was really impressed and stuff

I used foreplay for like 30-40 mins. and maintained composure and kept my cool

I thought Id be nervous as heck but I was unbelivably comfortable being butt naked around her

I'm pretty proud to say that I lasted over 30 minutes my first run so I think I did pretty good, she was satisfied
 

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watch a whole lot of porn study the women's parts and were the gina is....see how he works the chick........but of course you can't f*ck her like a porn shlut...be gentle but PORN will make you more educated on sex garuntee
 

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Originally posted by Badmannaz
but of course you can't f*ck her like a porn shlut...be gentle but PORN will make you more educated on sex garuntee
unless she likes it like that ;)
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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^ I believe after the first time, SOMETIMES the girl would like to be banged like crazy... ONLY from experience though... I don't know how other girls are...
 

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Yes they suck. Mostly guys have problem with getting **** hard at first time or come too fust or simply suck.
But ive heard from a girl that she had sex with some guy, it was his 1st time andhe was great. He said he was watching lots of pr0n and that made him that good.
I dont know. Now im laaate befoe my first time and as far as i know im dope in bed. First time was ****ty tho.
 

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The girl I was with my first time didn't believe me when I told her, so I just took the compliment and shut up.
Basically we made out on her couch a few nights in a row beforehand, and I wasn't really going for the pu$$y, until she just got up, got naked, and layed back down. I can still picture her stripping, and remember thinking this is it! (yeah I know - serious AFC I was). At that point in my life I hadn't watched much porn at all, so there were no preconceived ideas on what to do. My thought process was to just go for it, and it apparently served me well. She was my gf for quite a while afterwards :)

If I were to say anything, it would be not to act overly anxious, but take your time. If it's enjoyable for you, she'll pick up on that, and it will be enjoyable for her. KillaCam said it very well - let the moment take you away.
 

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like i said be4 porn is like a big text book SERIOUSLY

Study that sh!t and you won't have to worry about sucking in bed just try doing some on the techniques on her...


and any chick who would love to get banged like a porn Shlut would be the type of girl i would like!!
 

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Wear a thick (less sensitive) condom for your first time if you're worried about premature ejaculation. Masturbation can also be used constructively to help you last longer and delay orgasm. Masturbating can be good practice for this purpose. Also, I haven't tried it, but some people say if you masturbate right before sex you will be able to last longer (you'd be less aroused I presume). Don't do that though if you are worried about keeping it hard, haha. Do what you think is best.
Just make sure you relax, take your time, and warm her up good before you drive her home.
 

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