Is It Time To Next This Plate For This Offence??

[soulforge]

Been seeing this milf who i met on pof..

Recently i have noticed her attitude is getting a little ****y.. maybe another guy in the picture..


Anyhow last night she accidentally sent me a picture of herself on whatsapp.. not exactly a rude one, but just a little cheeky.. with the following message

"How About This One? Xxx


Then she quickly sent me a mesaage apologising and saying, sorry that wasn't for you..

My guess is she was sending that pic to some dude she is chatting to, and maybe hooking up with.. and by mistake she sent it to me instead.

How should i respond back to this?????? Should i send her the below message, or say nothing at all and just ignore her, and go GHOST

"I think your getting me mixed up with the other guy haha"


Its pretty obvious she is either planning to branch swing, or she is a decietful biitch..


Do i need to NEXT for this offence?

 

[soulforge]

What's my best response guys???

 

[pyros]

no.

P.S.

Your reply was sh.it. You cannot send anything else more beta, really.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It was intentional to let you know that she's not exclusive to you. She very well might be exclusive but messing with you.

Keep pounding her hard and never waste any time between trying to catch up to her.

 

[skinnyguy]

I stopped reading when you mentioned pof

You're better off masturbating to porn my friend

 

[Desdinova]

If you're not in a LTR with this chick, then you should know that she's only worth a lay and that's it.

If you want to respond, just say "That's not a very nice picture to send to your mom! "

Don't overthink this 5hit if she's not your GF. Instead, you have a clear picture of her low quality rating.

 

[RecoveringNiceGuy]

If she's not exclusive with you, then you shouldn't care what she does. If she's sleeping with you then you have to accept that she sleeping might be with other guys too. Of course her actually telling you about it, on the other hand, does seem a bit disrespectful and/or needy on her part.

I wouldn't tell a woman I'm dating about any of the other woman I'm dating. She should understand that's a possibility as long as we're not exclusive, and it seems pretty insecure attempt to "prove" your value by bragging unnecessarily. Not sure what I would do if a woman did that to me, but I would definitely lose a lot of respect for her. I guess it would depend on what you're looking for. If you're just looking for sex than why do you care who else she spends her time with? If you're looking for the right woman to have a long term relationship with, I'd recommend you move on because she sounds very insecure and disrespectful.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I feel that she did it intentionally to dent his ego and tell him he's not the only one. He can do the same to her, but he doesn't even have to.

If penetration is what he wants out of this situation, as long as the dates result in penetration without consuming too much of his time and energy, all to the better.

He can also leave his phone open in her vicinity with convos with other babes he's sleeping with if he would like to rebalance her.

 

[soulforge]

Well here it is guys... it was a little bit more than just sex with this one, we was spending time together too..

Sooo, she either did it intentionally (**** test) or she is lining up other guys.

Either way i found it disrespectful.. and this is the 2nd incident of disrespect from her!!

01.

I either downgrade to fuk buddy, no more sleep overs, going out for meals etc, watching movies together etc.. all tho i don't see how that would work as she drives over an hour to come see me

02.

Do not react to this at all, and just GHOST??

 

[soulforge]

I am having sex with her, just once every two weeks or so...

But sometimes i do find her behaviour a somewhat disrespectful

 

[soulforge]

who are you kidding.

she probably wants to take it to the next level and this is her way of getting that ball rolling (via shlt testing, drama etc) and honestly it sounds like you would too. youre more invested in her than you want to admit. if she was really just a "plate" you genuinely wouldnt care or you wouldve known what to do without having to ask for opinions here.

im calling bs on how you percieve her. if you really wanna take it to the next level with her just do it. dont pretend like going on dates and bonding with a girl beyond whats neccessary for sex is just a plate.

This is just pure speculation.. yes this may be her way of trying to take it to the next level... or she could be genuinely chatting and setting up something with other dudes!!

We don't know for a fact what her intentions are.. from what i have seen of her so far, and this incident into consideration.. i think she is low quality

Yes i did consider maybe more with her, depending on how things went..

But now i feel the only option is downgrade to fuk buddy... or walk away


I found her actions very disrespectful

 

[soulforge]

I,m getting the impression off some people that putting up with DISRESPECT is ok, aslong as your getting sex out of it?

If she did it by mistake, the she is obviously lining up other guys..

If she did it itentionaly then that is obvious disrespect..

 

[soulforge]

Should i respond with this?

Your getting me mixed up with the other guy, haha

Or say nothing at all?

 

[Desdinova]

I,m getting the impression off some people that putting up with DISRESPECT is ok, aslong as your getting sex out of it?

It's okay if you expect only sex from it. If you're trying to progress the relationship, it's not acceptable.

If she did it by mistake, the she is obviously lining up other guys..

If she did it itentionaly then that is obvious disrespect..

There's two ways a woman will attempt to progress toward a relationship... She will either have "the talk", or she will pull stupid 5hit like this. It really gives you insight into how she'll handle problems in the future. I guarantee that if she's pulling this 5hit to get you to commit, she'll pull this 5hit again to send a message that she's not happy with something you did.

This woman doesn't sound like relationship quality.

I'm going to ask you this... Have you actually ever been with a decent quality woman? If so, what did she treat you like in the beginning?

 

[pyros]

women from POF..."la crème de la crème".

You can only find trash in sites like POF. I dont know what OP thinks of himself but I would never, ever, have any serious relationship with a girl from those sites, unless I were stupid of course. They are spoiled in too many ways. This is why they are on POF.

Besides...using POF is just a "rejection buffer". Instead of going out and trying to pick up a girl you like, you prefer to be at home, drinking beer and sending messages to trashy women, just because it is easier and if they do not reply, you do not even care. You're too horny so when you see their pics, even if they are not hot, and they look nuts, you text them anyway. But it is just a way to avoid rejection.
If women from POF were ok, normal people I would find it ok, but that's not the case.

See this, I'd rather get rejected by three girls I find attractive (and are probably normal women, not like the ones from POF) in real life, than waste my time meeting up with sh-itty women from those sites. It is really a waste of time, money and resources.

I deleted my account from a similar site like 1.5 years ago. I got tired of looking at fatties, single moms, psychos, wh-ores, weirds etc.

 

[old_skoolr]

OP you have caught feelings, otherwise why would you care what a chick on POF does?

Drop her or keep fvcking her.

The decision is up to you.

 

[guru1000]

Soulforge, if she's a plate, her other communications are irrelevant.

Notwithstanding the above, I think you need to identify why exchanges like this happen to YOU. Perhaps, you are not building deep rapport and not giving the prospects what they NEED. Read some of my other posts referencing this.

I usually have the reverse problem of plates saying they love me within 30-45 days, and my having to mitigate their feelings.

Focus on building stronger rapports with your prospects. Better to have an army of plates ready to serve and willing to die for you than contrariwise.

 

[soulforge]

no, this is speculation.

what you consider disrespect i consider to be silly female antics.

why?

because if i was in your shoes and it happened to me (and it has happened to me plenty) i really wouldnt care because it truly means nothing. my thoughts would not wander on to "what ifs" and other dudes. partly because i have other women to talk to if i felt like that might be case but mostly because it does not matter. like i said, the reason you feel so slighted is because you are too invested whether you choose to accept it or not. shes just ONE girl. if you had other girls to talk to you would naturally/instinctively just laugh this off. a boy gets worked up over something like this. a man ignores this and finds other women to fvck. ofc if this was your gf or wife you drop her. but she is a "plate" right?

Good question.. is she a plate? To honest it was becoming more than plate.. but this incident has reminded me what i am dealing with here..

I need to get my shiit together and realise this here is low quality..

If she did that intentionally.. then it clearly shows what i could i expect from her in the future.

If she did it by mistake, then she is obviously lining up other guys.. either way there is no long term potential here.

So i either drop her.. or i keep banging her, but only as a fuk buddy

 

[soulforge]

I was considering more with her... but now definitely a plate, or fuk fuddy.

I could easly drop her, but why deprive myself of sex...


On the other hand if there is anymore disrespect from her, then i will just get rid of her.

 

[soulforge]

What if i said, that i may have wanted to escalate things into a relationship? And i saw her as bieng more than a plate.

What are my options now..

Downgrade her and just keep her around for sex??

Or just drop her??