Is it reasonable to charge her rent
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I'm definitely pulling the plug on this one.
To get a feel for how things would be, I let them stay over thursday through today. I've learned that her son is beyond the need of a positive male role model (his dad is actually involved a lot in his life). He needs professional help. The first night he was ok, whined a little like always. Friday night he stays up to watch a movie with us and then cries for two hours, until 1:00 am, saying please mommy please I'll do anything just let me watch one more movie, it's not fair, stomping his feet on the ground. Yesterday, took him, my nephew, and my friend and his son to the batting cages because he likes baseball. While we're there he gets so upset that he starts crying and throws his helmet on the ground and hits it with the bat. Then this morning my girlfriend is in the shower and he's outside the door saying he's going to cut off his hand if she doesn't let him in and give him a Tums because his stomach hurts. I tell him I have Tums in the kitchen. But no, he wants mommy's Tums. So what does he do? He actually cuts his finger and slides the knife under the door to show her blood. I didn't even know he actually had a knife. WTF!
This sucks because she's a good woman. I'm not having any issues with her at all. But I just don't need this drama in my life. I'm not sure what I'm going to say yet.
To get a feel for how things would be, I let them stay over thursday through today. I've learned that her son is beyond the need of a positive male role model (his dad is actually involved a lot in his life). He needs professional help. The first night he was ok, whined a little like always. Friday night he stays up to watch a movie with us and then cries for two hours, until 1:00 am, saying please mommy please I'll do anything just let me watch one more movie, it's not fair, stomping his feet on the ground. Yesterday, took him, my nephew, and my friend and his son to the batting cages because he likes baseball. While we're there he gets so upset that he starts crying and throws his helmet on the ground and hits it with the bat. Then this morning my girlfriend is in the shower and he's outside the door saying he's going to cut off his hand if she doesn't let him in and give him a Tums because his stomach hurts. I tell him I have Tums in the kitchen. But no, he wants mommy's Tums. So what does he do? He actually cuts his finger and slides the knife under the door to show her blood. I didn't even know he actually had a knife. WTF!
This sucks because she's a good woman. I'm not having any issues with her at all. But I just don't need this drama in my life. I'm not sure what I'm going to say yet.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I think as soon as you took the kid to a child psychologist or pediatrician and told them the story about him cutting himself, they would put him on antidepressants immediately, or at least some sort of medication. The fact that he did that is crossing a big threshold. Next he's going to be threatening to kill himself.
That's what I'd tell the woman - your kid is a danger to himself if he doesn't get professional help. But don't dump her in the same conversation. Give her a chance to do the right thing and see what she does. I would guess that she won't take the child to a professional. I would also guess that a lot of his behavior has to do with parenting mistakes of hers in the past. But give her a chance to do the right thing. Then when she doesn't you can dump her for being a bad parent and not because she has a bad kid.
That's what I'd tell the woman - your kid is a danger to himself if he doesn't get professional help. But don't dump her in the same conversation. Give her a chance to do the right thing and see what she does. I would guess that she won't take the child to a professional. I would also guess that a lot of his behavior has to do with parenting mistakes of hers in the past. But give her a chance to do the right thing. Then when she doesn't you can dump her for being a bad parent and not because she has a bad kid.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear JC,
"I'm definitely pulling the plug on this one."Well that is good News...The problem is that the less she has contributed,then the more the Court will award her...In this Country she would get 60%... I think you should start another thread maybe just headed " I'm definitely pulling the plug on this one"perhaps Suffixed,without losing my priveleges LOL..
I still think some assistance in helping her find and get on her feet somewhere equidistant from you and her Uni would be constructive...I would further stress....This Home of yours is a Bollard,in times of financial hardship,you can move paying guests in...I do this and it works really well,keeps me sane too(Perhaps debatable LOL)
"I'm definitely pulling the plug on this one."Well that is good News...The problem is that the less she has contributed,then the more the Court will award her...In this Country she would get 60%... I think you should start another thread maybe just headed " I'm definitely pulling the plug on this one"perhaps Suffixed,without losing my priveleges LOL..
I still think some assistance in helping her find and get on her feet somewhere equidistant from you and her Uni would be constructive...I would further stress....This Home of yours is a Bollard,in times of financial hardship,you can move paying guests in...I do this and it works really well,keeps me sane too(Perhaps debatable LOL)