“Sex” is a symbol of her female love, admiration, submission, commitment etc.
It’s also a narcotic that is addictive. But so is porn. And so is jerking off. After you jerk off, you are temporarily relieved of all interest in pursuing women.
If a woman is giving you sex, without the accompanying “love”, this is the starfish sex that men complain about. Men are very ego-sensitive and they need the approval of a woman saying he is good at sex. A mom’s encouragement.
This is what men want.
It’s not the sex. It’s the symbol. If men were addicted to orgasms no matter what, we would all just be gay and/or jerk off every day. It wouldn’t be worth the hassle with women. Women symbolise a lot more than sex (as a P in V activity) for us, it would seem.