Is it really good to sleep with multiple women at once?

gravityeyelids

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It's encouraged here to spin plates and presumably sleep with as many plates as possible. I've been doing well the last few months and getting results but is it really a smart move to be sleeping with multiple girls at once? And sometimes I feel bad because I basically just slept with this other girl a week ago because the online community is so adamant about going for the lay and I was drunk and I felt like I had to follow it to the end. And she's not some ratchet girl either, she's real cute and has her sh!t together. Shes a nice girl and I feel like I totally played her and just used her for sex and don't really have much intention to follow up.

I'm concerned mainly about the health risks. STDs aren't uncommon. And before you say "use a condom", I don't know anyone who simply makes out with a girl, wraps it up, and then sticks it in. Most sex involves kissing, oral, more making out, different fluids being intermingled, and most if not all STDs can and are spread via oral as well.

To be blunt, I got Chlamydia from a girl and inadvertently passed it on to my fvckbuddy a few weeks ago. And i contracted it whike using a condom, and passed it on WHILE using a condom. Luckily, its the most benign STD and is essentially cured with a one time antibiotic dose, and my fvckbuddy was mature about handling it and we're still sleeping together after both being treated and informing all those that might have been affected to get tested.

Not to mention the pregnancy risk if you slip up on using the condom.

I'm hesitant to keep going around banging girls. Even if you're sticking to banging hot girls and not resorting to banging 6-7s just for the hell of it... I can't help but feel it's not a smart move. Especially when my main fvckbuddy is hot enough and fun enough in bed to where I'm more or less satisfied. Luckily she's not someone I'd date, so my current plan is to keep doing her while being very picky and looking for a dateworthy, very high quality girl.

Mindlessly banging every cute girl in sight at risk to your health and future doesnt seem very DJ to me, yet that's what I feel like we too often advocate for here. Thoughts?
 

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I keep mine at 2 max.
I think the idea is to have girls that you can call on such as not to have a scarcity mentality.
I personally sleep with 2 , talk to about 3-5 others on really good terms and occasionally bang if it's opened. I respect the game of the guys laying down with a new female every week but that's not my style.
 

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Agreed with Fritters. Ultimately you do what YOU want and what YOU feel is best. The main point of the whole plate spinning theory is, as Fritters said, to keep you out of scarcity mentality. You shouldn't be getting too infatuated with a girl you've just met, plate spinning gives you some leeway such that if it isn't going well with one woman, you have other avenues of interacting with females romantically.
 

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One way you can counteract this is to develop a mindset. An abundance mindset. You can stick to one or two girls but always be of the mindset that you can always bang another girl if you wish.

Women typically behave well when they know the man they're with is very high value and can get any girl at the snap of a finger.

So basically, rather than banging anything in sight. Just maintain that confident mindset. That way you don't put your health or future at risk just to fight off potential one-itis.

In addition, having one or two f*ck buddies isn't 100% safe either because what is the guarantee that they aren't f*cking other people who are also f*cking other people.

Honest discussion, exclusivity and testing are some of the best ways to severely reduce your chances of STDs or pregnancy.
 

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One way you can counteract this is to develop a mindset. An abundance mindset. You can stick to one or two girls but always be of the mindset that you can always bang another girl if you wish.

Women typically behave well when they know the man they're with is very high value and can get any girl at the snap of a finger.

So basically, rather than banging anything in sight. Just maintain that confident mindset. That way you don't put your health or future at risk just to fight off potential one-itis.

In addition, having one or two f*ck buddies isn't 100% safe either because what is the guarantee that they aren't f*cking other people who are also f*cking other people.

Honest discussion, exclusivity and testing are some of the best ways to severely reduce your chances of STDs or pregnancy.

Yup.
 

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Yep i agree with what's been said.

PSA: ALL YOU MOTHERFVKERS LISTEN UP: MAKE SURE you get tested. A lot of these STDs don't have symptoms that are very noticible. All you have to do is ask your doctor. Mine was a simple piss test, was covered by insurance, and I heard back the very next day and had a $4 script waiting for me at the drug store. Relatively painless and if you're banging random girls you'd be smart to have this done regularly.
 

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Banged over a hundred no visible stds, hpv is possible/probable cause there are over 100 strains and 80+% have at least one strain. You're sweating too much but if you live in a bad section of the country then be cautious for sure. Be careful who you go down on too. Women catch stds like 70% more easily than men. "Cooties" as a child was a real phenomenon.
 

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One way you can counteract this is to develop a mindset. An abundance mindset. You can stick to one or two girls but always be of the mindset that you can always bang another girl if you wish.
Agreed. I've lived long enough that if my current LTR goes awry, I KNOW I can always get another chick. In fact, I usually keep a few options in the back of my mind anyway, because I'm always of the mindset that it can end at any time.

Kudos to the original poster. I know in the past here, people would bring up STDs and the natural PUA reaction would be to start shaming the guy: "STDs are WAY less common than you would believe. STDs are just part of the Disney society's way to control and brainwash you". Of course then some guy actually catches something or gets a girl pregnant, and are any of these shamers around to help him out? No. I mean people can do whatever they want, but many PUAs live in a fantasyland just as much as some AFC beta types do.
 

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yeah man, i keep as many as possible
 

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Live your life, but try not to live it carelessly. You can get a STD from a chick you been dating for awhile, if she cheated on you. None of my friends hardly use protection and they seem to be STD free. I went to the clinic with some of them so there is so truth to it. These dudes keep 2-3 chicks and get new ones every month or so. Herpes is nothing but gloried skin condition like acne or eczema. You barely get any outbreaks after the initial one, some people never even know they have it and never get a outbreak.

Does that mean not to use protection? Of course not, but think of how much booty the average male gets nowadays. Athletes, rappers and rock stars, movie stars.

HIV is actually hard to transmit to a man

All in all just where a condom bro and live your life.

I read on the cernovich site that he uses organic virgin coconut oil on his package for protection?
I wouldn't trust that but just strap it up
 
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