Is it possible to have confidence if women reject you all the time

[skinnyguy]

So it seems that the solution for every guy who has problems meeting women is, "be more confident".

But let's say that this guy is really lonely, has very few friends, is a 3 or 4, goes out to clubs and gets turned down, and even gets turned down on dating websites. How is he supposed to be "confident".

You can ACT like you're confident, but sooner or later you'll stop being delusional and go back to being lonely.

 

[TheGambino]

You have to like yourself first be4 some1 is going to like you. Take care of yourself first, go to the gym, read about it and invest time in your body. Get a good haircut, buy good clothes, speak to a lot of women not even in a sexual way. Just to get the feeling.

I was there once, Im 172cm tall and weighted 250LBS. I lost a lot of weight and went to the gym for 2 years. I feel way better about myself, when I started to like myself and felt confident with my body I started to approach girls. Every1 gets turned down. Its part of the game, but the more you invest in yourself and learn about the DJ mindset the more it pays off.

And believe me bro, after all this it did pay off, I have a lot of plates and ye sometimes it sucks and you get turned down and sometimes I end up in bed with a girl while 3 others are texting me.

Most important thing dont let a girl ever get your feelings ruined man, just ignore and next man, dont give up, invest in yourself. Get your level up by taking care of yourself, again: go to the gym, get a new haircut buy nice clothes, it will help u get more confident and the girls will mention that

 

[NewJack]

Its possible to identify areas of your life where you are not loving yourself. The frame will just be a negative one... eg. "I suck for this, this and this reason."

Its possible to change those frames to be positive. To choose to love oneself. To choose to see the good. This is self-nurturing and is a source of strength, when society will not boost you up. Self-nurturing.

 

[evan12]

OP : I understand your feeling , I think you need to do some self brain washing to have confidant , google about how to do that

 

[corrector]

Didn't you make a thread about banging a hottie just a while ago and you did have a gf at some point in your past? There are other guys who never had a gf, been kissed, or touched a woman in their life. I think you are already doing better than 90% of guy out there (i.e. based on Stageer Lee's imaginary stats). What are you complaining about?

I don't see how you can have confidence if too many women are rejecting you because that confidence has to be socialized while you are growing up and throughout life.

There's even a thread about it here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208477

 

[Solomon]

Didn't you make a thread about banging a hottie just a while ago and you did have a gf at some point in your past? There are other guys who never had a gf, been kissed, or touched a woman in their life. I think you are already doing better than 90% of guy out there (i.e. based on Stageer Lee's imaginary stats). What are you complaining about?

I don't see how you can have confidence if too many women are rejecting you because that confidence has to be socialized while you are growing up and throughout life.

There's even a thread about it here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208477

The guy is phaggot who likes to troll excuse me a super faggot at that

 

[skinnyguy]

Didn't you make a thread about banging a hottie just a while ago and you did have a gf at some point in your past? There are other guys who never had a gf, been kissed, or touched a woman in their life. I think you are already doing better than 90% of guy out there (i.e. based on Stageer Lee's imaginary stats). What are you complaining about?

I don't see how you can have confidence if too many women are rejecting you because that confidence has to be socialized while you are growing up and throughout life.

There's even a thread about it here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208477

Ok look, I will admit, that girl was a sugar baby. I can't sit here and lie about it.

Anyway, I guess maybe I have more luck than most guys. It's just hard to put it into perspective.

 

[Stagger Lee]

It's not easy but it's possible to have confidence even if women reject you all the time.

Women don't really care about confidence if you're not attractive. So managing to have confidence won't matter much anyway.

Confidence without attractive appearance="creepy"

Your confidence will be twisted into a negative thing in the subjective minds of women. At best, females might respect you being confident, but that still won't make them attracted and they're going to decline your advances and walk away.

 

[GetFit66]

Confidence? Rejection!?!?!?!?!!!

Fvck man have enough confidence to put the hoe in your trunk and go.

And have the brains to disable the internal release mechanism of your trunk.

Jeez it doesn't sound like youve read the book of pook at all.

I PICK WOMEN UP ALL THE TIME. YOUR DOING IT WRONG MORON.

 

[adam225]

I believe we are having a mixup of confidence and arrogance gentlemen. A confidence person is one who is complete I.e. he doesn't care if he gets knocked back or rejected. ..

Read on: http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forums/showthread.php?t=24714

Also, I'll add this search in: https://www.google.com/search?q=con...pell=1&ei=Z0VJUvymHvKh7Aa-qYCQDA&ved=0CAoQvwU

P.S. Sorry I misread some info. Read through the links anyway.

 

[adam225]

That's it, exactly. Internal vs external validation. A confident person is internationally validated where as an arrogant person is externally. One who can truly enjoy life and not let others views/opinions knock him is confident. One who bases his life on how others perceive him is arrogant.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I believe confidence is the direct conseguence of success and positive feedbacks coming from actions.

One does not simply become more confidence just because he wants so, just like one does not simply become rich because he decides that its better to be rich than poor.

The only thing possible is fake it untill you make it to a 360 degrees, you bullsh1t others and even yourself till you get a base from which you can begin the snowball effect.

Confident people is confident because is used to win or get positive feedbacks from people, I simply fail to understand how a beggar can go to a bank and show "confidence" so the banker will grant him a loan.

I consider confidence as a rating no different than the one nations and companies get according to their value, sure there can be a mistake but hardly nigeria and switzerland will have the same rating.

 

[marx77]

So it seems that the solution for every guy who has problems meeting women is, "be more confident".

But let's say that this guy is really lonely, has very few friends, is a 3 or 4, goes out to clubs and gets turned down, and even gets turned down on dating websites. How is he supposed to be "confident".

You can ACT like you're confident, but sooner or later you'll stop being delusional and go back to being lonely.

It's hopeless, don't bother.

Just put up a profile on POF, go for the first fat, ugly chick that will put up with you and pretend you're happy. Deal with it, this is life.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Jackals are scavengers that live off the efforts of much bigger animals like lions that hate the jackal.

Does the jackal let the lions presence deter him from his dinner?

Yet every day the jackal keeps on keeping on..

A bite here, a nip there... always hated but always present.

He manages to survive in a world against him.

Be the jackal my friend.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Jackals are scavengers that live off the efforts of much bigger animals like lions that hate the jackal.

Does the jackal let the lions presence deter him from his dinner?

Yet every day the jackal keeps on keeping on..

A bite here, a nip there... always hated but always present.

He manages to survive in a world against him.

Be the jackal my friend.

Love this.

 

[sambwoy]

StaggerLee's point on confidence/looks could be explained in the reactions to that Jack Daniels ad with the guy on the beach a while back that I caught on YouTube. I guess the purpose of the ad was to be one in the eye for the ads depicting chiseled, ripped hunks. BUT because it broke convention, it got a lot of naysayers in the comments section.

 

[Who Dares Win]

What's better? A paraplegic who convinces himself that it's impossible to swim?

Or the paraplegic who refuses to accept limitations?

In my opinion, it's ALWAYS better to tell myself that I CAN.

"Can't" is not part of my vocabulary.

Why would I EVER want to doubt myself?

As a general rule I agree with what you said and in any case where there is a chance, the problem is that a paraplegig that doesnt believe he can do will sit near the tv and do nothing in his life, a paraplegic which believes in himself will probably try to walk and fall down the stairs...

I believe its much better to acknowledge our limits and work in the right direction more than have an optimism based on nothing, instead of suggesting guys here to "believe in themselves", would be a much better suggestion to say guys to do something that its hard for them but doable, once done shot higher and higher slowly till a natural confidence based on facts exists.

I recall george sodini after reading material and seminars and having some "fake" confidence because some pua told him so, tried to cash it only to fail miserably, what happened later we all know.

Thats my opinion of course, I believe optimism is vital as long as it has some bases, weak bases but still some while optimism based on nothing doesnt help and its also dangerous, its the same unbased optimism that suggests 35yrs old slvts to keep their standard high so prince charming will come.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

apparently, only women are allowed to base their validation and self-worth on how men perceive them but not the other way around, but anyway I know my confidence and self-esteem should, needs to be higher in order to get women, girls, but going back to the gym and exercising, working out again increased it significantly, lost a lot of weight

 

[marx77]

apparently, only women are allowed to base their validation and self-worth on how men perceive them but not the other way around, but anyway I know my confidence and self-esteem should, needs to be higher in order to get women, girls, but going back to the gym and exercising, working out again increased it significantly, lost a lot of weight

Self esteem should be an inward thing, but it's not always that simple, especially if you are sensitive or get rejected a lot.

I rarely ever try in the first place. Saves a lot of time, energy and effort on both our parts, me and the girls.