SteR
Master Don Juan
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- Jan 9, 2004
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Okay so for the first time in a loooong time, I've actually found a girl who I'm seriously interested in. I've only met her briefly once/twice and she's a friend of a friend type thing. When I say I'm 'interested' in her, she seemed like a decent girl ie. someone I'd like to see more of. I know she's attracted to me.. just from her behaviour that evening. I last saw her on the weekend.
The problem is that when I met her I was under the assumption that she was taken (golden rule of mine not to mess with taken girls). It turns out she's single but I only found this out yesterday. There's a very decent chance I will see her again over the coming weeks (going to a party she'll probably be attending in a month or so) and it's possible I may see her again on random nights out as my friends hang out with her friends a fair bit.
Now the silly thing is I'm no stranger to asking girls out/getting their number. I would've liked to have done it that evening but I thought she was taken. She also seemed to be playing hard to get.
Anyway I figured since it's been a few days since I last saw her, I feel it'd be a little awkward for me to ask her out now.. I wouldn't be able to do it without getting her number off a friend too which seems a little creepish... especially because like I said, I didn't really get to 'open her up' and just had some playful banter going. I guess I'm just concerned about blowing my chances early. I also believe in striking while the iron's hot and it seems a little too late to make a last ditch attempt when it's very possible I'll see her soon.
Am I doing the right thing by waiting till I next see her? I'm pretty confident that next opportunity I get to meet up, I'm gonna chase her down like a dog, but it's screwing with my head because I can't get her out of my thoughts (sounds like oneitis I know). I figure during this time I can just forget about her and chase other girls to keep my mind in check.
What do the rest of you think about the situation? Any similar experiences?
Grrr, I hate over-analyzing **** like this. Thankfully I'm going away this weekend with the lads so they'll be plenty of opportunity for me to focus on other girls..
The problem is that when I met her I was under the assumption that she was taken (golden rule of mine not to mess with taken girls). It turns out she's single but I only found this out yesterday. There's a very decent chance I will see her again over the coming weeks (going to a party she'll probably be attending in a month or so) and it's possible I may see her again on random nights out as my friends hang out with her friends a fair bit.
Now the silly thing is I'm no stranger to asking girls out/getting their number. I would've liked to have done it that evening but I thought she was taken. She also seemed to be playing hard to get.
Anyway I figured since it's been a few days since I last saw her, I feel it'd be a little awkward for me to ask her out now.. I wouldn't be able to do it without getting her number off a friend too which seems a little creepish... especially because like I said, I didn't really get to 'open her up' and just had some playful banter going. I guess I'm just concerned about blowing my chances early. I also believe in striking while the iron's hot and it seems a little too late to make a last ditch attempt when it's very possible I'll see her soon.
Am I doing the right thing by waiting till I next see her? I'm pretty confident that next opportunity I get to meet up, I'm gonna chase her down like a dog, but it's screwing with my head because I can't get her out of my thoughts (sounds like oneitis I know). I figure during this time I can just forget about her and chase other girls to keep my mind in check.
What do the rest of you think about the situation? Any similar experiences?
Grrr, I hate over-analyzing **** like this. Thankfully I'm going away this weekend with the lads so they'll be plenty of opportunity for me to focus on other girls..
