I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this: is it possible for a girl to be interested in you but not want to communicate via text when you're apart?
I consider myself experienced with dating, but this girl is a bit confusing. Normally, if a girl is interested, she will want to stay in touch through text or calls (does not need to be much, but at least a bit). But with her, it's different. I'm trying to figure out if she genuinely doesn’t like texting or if she’s playing games.
Here’s some background:
I met her around November 15 at work, and we clicked right away. We both like tennis, so after having coffee at the office, we went to play together. It went well, and I got her number. The next day, I texted her a photo from my run with a joke, and she responded, “Do you want to play again next week?” We played again the following week, and I jokingly proposed a prize for the winner. Over text, she gave a neutral reply, but in person, she seemed more interested — a sign that she might not like texting much.
After that, I won, and she agreed to a dinner date. The date went well, she dressed up, and we had a great time. Later, we went to a bar and kissed. We were enjoying the moment, but she stopped things, saying she didn’t want to do everything in one night, which was fair.
The next night, there was a company Christmas party. We didn’t communicate much beforehand — just a couple of sticker exchanges. When we saw each other at the party, she came close. We had a great conversation for about 1.5 hours, and she didn’t seem bothered by people seeing us together. Then, before I left, I suggested a chat outside, and we ended up having sex.
After that, we went home for Christmas, so we’ve been apart for about 2.5 weeks.
Now, my confusion begins. I’ve been texting her, keeping it light with 2–3 messages per day. While she responds and sometimes asks questions or sends emojis, it feels like talking to a stranger. She doesn’t initiate conversations, and sometimes it seems like she’s just replying out of politeness. Yet, she has shown interest, like mentioning she’s looking forward to the Christmas gift I promised when we return to work.
To change things up, I decided to call her. We had a 30-minute voice call, and I asked about our texting dynamic. She admitted, “I really don’t like texting or calling that much.” When I asked how she would’ve communicated if I hadn’t reached out, she said, “I probably wouldn’t have sent anything.”. She is the type of girl that would never say she likes me over text.
This behavior doesn’t match what I’d expect from someone who’s interested. So my original question: Is it possible for a girl to be interested in you but genuinely dislike texting or calling?
I’m curious to hear about your experiences!
I consider myself experienced with dating, but this girl is a bit confusing. Normally, if a girl is interested, she will want to stay in touch through text or calls (does not need to be much, but at least a bit). But with her, it's different. I'm trying to figure out if she genuinely doesn’t like texting or if she’s playing games.
Here’s some background:
I met her around November 15 at work, and we clicked right away. We both like tennis, so after having coffee at the office, we went to play together. It went well, and I got her number. The next day, I texted her a photo from my run with a joke, and she responded, “Do you want to play again next week?” We played again the following week, and I jokingly proposed a prize for the winner. Over text, she gave a neutral reply, but in person, she seemed more interested — a sign that she might not like texting much.
After that, I won, and she agreed to a dinner date. The date went well, she dressed up, and we had a great time. Later, we went to a bar and kissed. We were enjoying the moment, but she stopped things, saying she didn’t want to do everything in one night, which was fair.
The next night, there was a company Christmas party. We didn’t communicate much beforehand — just a couple of sticker exchanges. When we saw each other at the party, she came close. We had a great conversation for about 1.5 hours, and she didn’t seem bothered by people seeing us together. Then, before I left, I suggested a chat outside, and we ended up having sex.
After that, we went home for Christmas, so we’ve been apart for about 2.5 weeks.
Now, my confusion begins. I’ve been texting her, keeping it light with 2–3 messages per day. While she responds and sometimes asks questions or sends emojis, it feels like talking to a stranger. She doesn’t initiate conversations, and sometimes it seems like she’s just replying out of politeness. Yet, she has shown interest, like mentioning she’s looking forward to the Christmas gift I promised when we return to work.
To change things up, I decided to call her. We had a 30-minute voice call, and I asked about our texting dynamic. She admitted, “I really don’t like texting or calling that much.” When I asked how she would’ve communicated if I hadn’t reached out, she said, “I probably wouldn’t have sent anything.”. She is the type of girl that would never say she likes me over text.
This behavior doesn’t match what I’d expect from someone who’s interested. So my original question: Is it possible for a girl to be interested in you but genuinely dislike texting or calling?
I’m curious to hear about your experiences!