oztradamus
Don Juan
I have been "talking" to this particular girl for about a month. We knew each other for about 2 months prior to us going on our first date. Before we went out we would speak every now and then since we had the same circle of friends but we were not actual friends more like very good acquintances.
Anyway, since we have gone out, everything has changed. Since she is shy and has never had a boyfriend or even dated anybody(even though she is a sophomore in college) at first she would act distant and kind of ignore me in public but when we were alone she would open up a bit and be more comfortable. I also had been told my her best friends that she was indeed interested in me and wanted to just see what would happen with us. So I decided to play it cool and not crowd her in public and just talk to her when she was alone. And after a while she even started to flirt with me in public in front of everybody. So what happend yesterday caught me by surprise.
We went to a party last night, she went with her friends and I went with mine. I danced with other girls and she danced with other guys, but we did dance with each other a couple of times. When the party was over I said my goodbyes to everyone and when I got to her I told her I would see her tomorrow because I asked her out on a 2nd date on wenesday. So when im getting to my car she run up to me and tells me she want to talk to me. When I ask about what, she tells me that she wants to talk about "us". That was the first time she had ever said "us". Then she tells me that she was unsure where we were going and that she seems me as just one of the guys. Then I ask her if she still wanted to go out and she said yes but as friends. So I told her that I would still pick her up and she said ok. At first I was in shock then just confused. So finally my question: is she serious about seeing me as a friend and not wanting a relationship or does she really like me and is just afraid of getting in a relationship so is just breaking it off now so she wont get hurt? Please help, I am a confused man.
Anyway, since we have gone out, everything has changed. Since she is shy and has never had a boyfriend or even dated anybody(even though she is a sophomore in college) at first she would act distant and kind of ignore me in public but when we were alone she would open up a bit and be more comfortable. I also had been told my her best friends that she was indeed interested in me and wanted to just see what would happen with us. So I decided to play it cool and not crowd her in public and just talk to her when she was alone. And after a while she even started to flirt with me in public in front of everybody. So what happend yesterday caught me by surprise.
We went to a party last night, she went with her friends and I went with mine. I danced with other girls and she danced with other guys, but we did dance with each other a couple of times. When the party was over I said my goodbyes to everyone and when I got to her I told her I would see her tomorrow because I asked her out on a 2nd date on wenesday. So when im getting to my car she run up to me and tells me she want to talk to me. When I ask about what, she tells me that she wants to talk about "us". That was the first time she had ever said "us". Then she tells me that she was unsure where we were going and that she seems me as just one of the guys. Then I ask her if she still wanted to go out and she said yes but as friends. So I told her that I would still pick her up and she said ok. At first I was in shock then just confused. So finally my question: is she serious about seeing me as a friend and not wanting a relationship or does she really like me and is just afraid of getting in a relationship so is just breaking it off now so she wont get hurt? Please help, I am a confused man.