Is it Ok to be angry???

[mystic03]

Hi everyone....

I posted a thread a few days ago (what to do??), some of you may remember it..anyway the thing is that afer some of you gave me advice I realized the mistakes I've made with this girl... now I feel really angry about how she treats me (the "let's just be friends" bull**** everybody talks about) Now I don't take her calls (now she calls me like 5 to 6 times daily), I avoid her all the time and as each day passes by I feel more angry about her. I don't know if this is normal or if this is better than wanting to be with her.... any ideas??


Mystic03

 

[legolas]

Mystic, I believe it is okay to be angry, or sad, or depressed or any other emotion as long as:

a) You don't harm anybody or anything
b) You don't overdo it and exagerate it
c) You snap out of it after a while
d) You use the energy of the emotion by channeling it into something useful like working out, or laughter.

Bottling emotions in and pushing them down can lead to a lot of more problems later which may not be related at all. If you've seent he movie Anger Management you'll know what I'm talking about. So let go ahead and vent for a while but be careful.

Oh and about the girl, go find yourself another one. This one already created an opinion about you. It is harder to change a person's opinion on you than to change your opinion of yourself.

 

[Quick]

It's fine to be angry. That'll help you get over her a lot quicker and give you motivation to not be in this position again. You should also be most mad at yourself, because she couldn't use you without your permission. If you had more self-respect and less fear, you wouldn't have wasted your time chasing something you couldn't have and that wasn't worth the effort. Legolas is right that you need to funnel it. You need to use it to motivate you to get out in the field and stop wasting time, and to make sure you don't repeat these mistakes again.

 

[Starman]

Yo, its OK to be angry. Anger is caused when something doesnt go your way or somebody crosses a threshold to trigger that anger..

Im not sure what the state of affairs is with you and this girl..but if you are trying to NEXT her..the cycle seems to be

1) Denial (ohh she must like me..see she calls 5-6 times a day! even tho se blows me off), then

(2)Anger (stupid B1tch! who the **** do you think you are? you wouldnt be sh1t without that slit between your legs!, then

(3)bargaining (sometimes) "Maybe if I started playing my cards right I could win her heart..or is it just me? Can I change?

4) Depression "Im no good .. this chick was probably my last hope at being happpy..why cant I just find 1 DECENT girl?? *sulk*

5) Acceptance..you've realized this byatch isnt worth your time and energy and the negativity it creates..you are sick and tired of the emotional roller coaster..and have moved on...

not all these phases occur in order..so just be happy that you are at least OUT of the denial phase(The most important)

or are u?

 

[mystic03]

Starman, I almost got back to the denial phase but instantly I remembered the ljbf S**t and my anger was back on (gladly).

Right now all I want is for her to stop calling me a try to mess with my head, that's maybe why I'm angry, she seems "inocent" but all she want's to do is serve her needs and fu** me up.....

She is in the NEXT process....

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Emotions are for PU$$IES!

Never get emotional over anything.

 

[mystic03]

wheelin&dealin, I guess you are a robot.... we humans have emotions....you are welcome to re-join the human race anytime...cheers

 

[Starman]

ahahah wheelin..are you a server? Unix? Bot?

Mystic..its easy to fluctuate back and forth..because the little games some byatches play..Just when you are ready to move on..they flirt with you just a tad more to keep you coming back..thinking MAYBE you misinterpreted or maybe you made a mistake?

Then they will do it again..

This should be a DJ technique..but women shouldnt be able to use it

 

[Kwah]

Are you insulting Unix?

Emotions are tools just like anything else. If we dont control them we get hurt.

Use them to your advantage but dont let any one emotion rule you. If shes truely pissing you off tell her to leave you alone, be calm and cool with her. Save your anger for someone or something that deserves it. This chick isnt worth getting worked up over dude, your already over her.

 

[pilot0001]

Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
Emotions are for PU$$IES!

Never get emotional over anything.

Wheelin&dealin: I like your input on these boards but I have to disagree with you here. I think being a DJ is all about learning to control your emotions in a way that isn't self degrading.

Maybe we're saying the same thing. Don't get OVER emotional about anything.

 

[Starman]

getting emotional in front of a chick is lame..having emotions is human