Is it just me or can you guys not stand talking to women for over 15 minutes?
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yep. to some girls. my best friend who is a girl talks and talks. i have to hang out with the gal this weekend, & i'm thinking of a way to cut it short. she's a great friend though. always there when i need her. :wave:
Miguel
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You guys, I don't mean this harshy, but you're probably having problems because you're all bad conversationalist. I know, I'm in the same boat as you, but I realized it. Spend some time on learning how to chat too people, study it with the same intestity as you would game, and you learn alot of things that you guys have been doing wrong.
For example, always try to talk in statements FOLLOWED by questions. Heck even just statements are okay. [Such as " I love this band".] It shows comfort and actually goes to show that you're intrested in the other person... and you don't get the werid interogation feeling. Secondly, make sure that when you ask a question, it's open ended. Finally, ask and clerify. Restate what they said, ask them to eleborate on things, go into the detials... thats where conversations come from.
For example, always try to talk in statements FOLLOWED by questions. Heck even just statements are okay. [Such as " I love this band".] It shows comfort and actually goes to show that you're intrested in the other person... and you don't get the werid interogation feeling. Secondly, make sure that when you ask a question, it's open ended. Finally, ask and clerify. Restate what they said, ask them to eleborate on things, go into the detials... thats where conversations come from.
jafyk
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verysuave said:
It is you. I had women that I've been able to talk to for hours and not get bored. I've also come across women that it's such a strain to hold a conversation. Those women are normally hit and runs for me. I'd rather have the the woman I can have more interesting interaction with than just sex, which after a while gets boring.
I am very good when it comes to talking to people. Like, the subject will always be about YOU and not sound like a freakin interview.Miguel said:
Why would you want to talk to women for +15 minutes? It's just weird, my primal instincts kick in. As my primal instincts says - the more conversation, the higher the chances they'll turn the table around against you. 99% of this only applies to WOMEN i want to bang I suppose..
I feel like the more I talk to women, the more we just become the "FRIENDS" type
jayfk, you should talk to TOM LEYKIS and see what he would have to say about YOU.
You don't need women friends to have INTERESTING convos with, you can do that with guy friends.. that is if you have any guy friends if YOU KNOW what i mean.
You don't need women friends to have INTERESTING convos with, you can do that with guy friends.. that is if you have any guy friends if YOU KNOW what i mean.
Poonani Maker
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I hate it when some women will agree with everything you discuss, but if you say, "let's have sex" they start closing up shop.
Paintballguy
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It does get annoying listening to women blab on about themselves.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
You CAN'T have intellectual conversations with women, they will get BORED. maybe a .01 % of them and normally, those are the homely ones.Paintballguy said:
The only guys women talk to for HOURS and HOURS are their gay friends who they will not have sex with.
Yeah, can you seriouisly imagine a bad boy talk to a chick for hours and hours and hours just to try and get laid.
Cuz, I would get bored too if all she did was blab.
bigjohnson
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Depends on the girl, the more generic version would be "I can't stand to talk to most PEOPLE for more than 10 minutes", let's face it a lot of people are boring and moronic.
I find talking to many girls can be interesting if they are interesting. My own issue as a younger man used to be that when I was talking with a girl I found attractive I couldn't get my mind off what you could call the goal zone. Always trying to work an angle, always alert and on edge. It's exhausting.
If you just relax and TALK to her you will find some have interests and views that are legitimately worth the time, just like people in general. Maybe socializing in mixed groups will help you.
I find talking to many girls can be interesting if they are interesting. My own issue as a younger man used to be that when I was talking with a girl I found attractive I couldn't get my mind off what you could call the goal zone. Always trying to work an angle, always alert and on edge. It's exhausting.
If you just relax and TALK to her you will find some have interests and views that are legitimately worth the time, just like people in general. Maybe socializing in mixed groups will help you.
I have met girls who I can talk to for ages sometimes and other times just be bored with nothing to say. It depends on how you feel and your attitude. Be happy and you'll have happy conversations. Be boring and you'll have broing conversations.
Don't look for others to have a nice conversation.
Don't look for others to have a nice conversation.
It's interresting. A nice thing is to always be looking for something in their personality... One of my friends does that and people LOVE IT. LOVE IT LOVE IT. Once I saw that in action... Wow that's fun!
Like whatever a person does, he can tell something about their personality and it's so interresting! Then he steps in the convo and just says: Wait wait, I just realised something about you! You're so____ or you have this thing, etc. etc. The guy is the best conversationalist I know. I never get bored with him, this guy can talk about his desodorant for 10 whole minutes and people just don't get bored. (Well our group does, because we know him and all, but other people find it interesting). Proof that how you say it matters. People are always eager to hear him speak. (Combined with a great voice).
So thanks to that, I'm always looking for (positive) things about people's personalities.... Then people do that to me, and it makes the whole thing so interresting!
Back to subject, I don't get bored talking to girls I am really interrested to. Sometimes I think I'm interrested, but they're boring, but if I really really like a girl, I could enjoy a conversation for a long time, especially in the early stages.
Like whatever a person does, he can tell something about their personality and it's so interresting! Then he steps in the convo and just says: Wait wait, I just realised something about you! You're so____ or you have this thing, etc. etc. The guy is the best conversationalist I know. I never get bored with him, this guy can talk about his desodorant for 10 whole minutes and people just don't get bored. (Well our group does, because we know him and all, but other people find it interesting). Proof that how you say it matters. People are always eager to hear him speak. (Combined with a great voice).
So thanks to that, I'm always looking for (positive) things about people's personalities.... Then people do that to me, and it makes the whole thing so interresting!
Back to subject, I don't get bored talking to girls I am really interrested to. Sometimes I think I'm interrested, but they're boring, but if I really really like a girl, I could enjoy a conversation for a long time, especially in the early stages.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Paintballguy
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He was saying how Dane Cook can talk about nothing for 10 minutes yet still be funny somehow.Groovy said:
I did not get it.
If you're making fun of me
If not explain
I've yet to meet a woman, within my age bracket, who can hold a conversation that interests me. That said, I've yet to meet anyone, within my age bracket, who has something worthwhile to talk about. There are far too many drab and unexciting people out there.
If you're like me, then you need to find activities to do with other people. You need to find fun activities that require coordination, such as rock climbing, paintball, or even cooperative video games. Or you can do what most successful adults do: hit the bars and clubs, or become a networking-event junkie.
Conversation is great and all, but you don't need a whole lot of conversation to make a dynamic work.
If you're like me, then you need to find activities to do with other people. You need to find fun activities that require coordination, such as rock climbing, paintball, or even cooperative video games. Or you can do what most successful adults do: hit the bars and clubs, or become a networking-event junkie.
Conversation is great and all, but you don't need a whole lot of conversation to make a dynamic work.
Paintballguy
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I definitely agree. hahDemon said:
