Is it hopeless for me??

[I_Will_Win]

Hello I want opinions on whether I belong here or not. I just lost the mother of my kids whom I was with on and off mostly off for the past 12 years. I am 28 overweight 6' 2" 310lbs I have a part time job I only get about 25 hours a week and only make 7.02 an Hour I live at home with my Mom but I do have a car. Now what my question is Is it hopeless for me to get a girlfriend? I am not into fat chicks whatsoever so thats out. I know what it says in the DJ Bible about not placing your happiness on a woman but I KNOW if I had a woman it would make me want to live,loose weight, go to school all of which I have no desire to do now. So is it hopeless for me or not? Where should I start.


As in meeting woman I only have 2 good friends 1 I never see anymore because he works 2 jobs and got a girlfriend now and my other friend goes to work when I get off of work. So I really can't go anywhere besides I don't drink or like bars there are no clubs around here. what can I do.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

dude read your screen name then read your title - do u see any contradictions - yes u do

i will win! vs.

is it hopeless for me?

from a staement of victory

to a question of doubt and disbelief

which one do u believe in the most

that iwill be the outcome!!!!!

 

[xblitz44x]

Your beliefs, views, outlooks, perceptions that you have INSIDE will always create the reality that lies before you. If you truely believe you will fail, you will do things in such a way that will eventually lead to that outcome. Conversely, if you truely believe that you're in a slump, and that this is just an obstacle in this thing called life, you will make it out of this and discover strength which you never knew you had.

These tough times, and obstacles are not here to bring us down and to destroy us, they are there to make us stronger people...to discover a part of us that we never knew existed. Thats' what this is right now. You will get by this, so long as you sincerely believe you will..

Start here. Use this desire and desperation as fuel, fuel to succeed. Let it drive you. You have beautiful children, let them drive you.

1) Figure out where it is that you want to be. Financially, physically, emotionally.

2) Figure out what it is inside you that is preventing you from getting there. Don't blame this on outside factors because only YOU will decide if your dreams come true or not.

3) Destroy those self-limiting beliefs and misperceptions. An example of a misperception may be "I'm fat, hot chicks don't like fat guys." That is a misperception, and false. and if you sincerely believe that, you will make sure that you'll never get a hot chick. CHANGE that model, that perception. See the reality that a beautiful woman once loved you, and that another sure will. You can't expect somebody else to love you if you don't love yourself.

4) Set specific goals that will add-up to equal exactly where you want to be in life. Stick to those goals. When times get rough (and they will) remember your children, and remember that each tough time is designed to make you stronger. Laugh about it. Because now you know what it is, and why it's happening.

-Blitz

 

[usdaprime]

dump some of that weight quit talking shlt on yourself and read the bible. I am still learning myself. good luck peace

 

[I_Will_Win]

An example of a misperception may be "I'm fat, hot chicks don't like fat guys." That is a misperception, and false.

So are you saying if I trick myself into believing chicks like fatazzs that will work? Thanks for the advice. I guess this falls into Pooks Think and you shall become? I am thinking I am Courtney Cox's Husband I hope this works lol.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

What they are saying is STOP TALKING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF and pump up that selfesteem! Start working out at a gym etc!

 

[So pimp its scary]

Hey man... I once was at one point thought I was a hopeless case. I learned that changing is not easy, you have to fight the current the whole way...

But once you get some momentum it starts to get easier. Untill something will smack you down, and you'll start flowing with the current again, but then you just gotta get up, shake yourself off and keep on pushing along. Eventually, you'll get to where you wanna go.

The other thing I wanted to mention was this "For those hot guys, getting girls is easy. But for us guys that aren't as good looking, getting chicks takes a little bit of effort and alot of intelligence. Look at me, by all standards I should not be getting chicks... yet somehow I continue to get laid." - paraphrased from the guy in 'the tao of steve' I suggest you watch it 2-3 times.

 

[mrbreeze]

Directly from the bible...

The Relationship Begins Before You Meet Her


http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16013

 

[DJZ]

I KNOW if I had a woman it would make me want to live,loose weight, go to school all of which I have no desire to do now.

Thats ridiculous! You are putting the cart before the horse. You think a woman is going to make you a better person? You think a woman is going to motivate you to better your self? BS! Having a woman will only make you lazier. Why do you think people get fatter after getting married! Now should be the time for you to focus on YOU!

First off - you need to decide if you want a woman. If you don't, then continue what you are doing. If you do, then you need to start exercising. That will be your first step. The best thing for you to do would be to start out jogging (or walking) a mile a day, 5 days a week. Once you can comfortably do that, step it up to 2 miles. Continue stepping up the mileage as you become comfortable with each distance. Once you lose some weight and start feeling better about yourself, the other stuff will begin falling into place. You gotta take it all in steps...

 

[Devestator]

I'm a bit overweight myself. I still approach women. I look at it like this: if I practice at a high weight, I'll have developed so much personality that I'll be invicible later at a lower weight. Can you imagine the game you'll have at 210 when your personality can compensate for being 310?

Think of it as a challenge, not a limitation.

 

[DEKKA]

what right do you have to be so discriminatory toward fat chicks if you yourself are fat?

to answer your question though. no. no its not hopeless. its never hopeless.

the only thing that holds us back is unsubstantiated fear.

 

[B9]

Originally posted by I_Will_Win
I know what it says in the DJ Bible about not placing your happiness on a woman but I KNOW if I had a woman it would make me want to live,loose weight, go to school all of which I have no desire to do now. So is it hopeless for me or not? Where should I start.

Do just those things. You just KNOW you will get a women if you do.

It just doesn't work the way you want it to.

I am sorry, but if you don't want to improve your own life for yourself, then I would say, go back to your room, hide and continue your assumingly miserable existence. It is obviously not bad enough for you to want to change it.

 

[Doppler4000]

You have to get it in your mind that there's no quick fix... Like the other guy said, set personal goals and don't expect any of them to start paying off for like a year or so. First step is to get a better job and get your own place.

 

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Originally posted by usdaprime
dump some of that weight quit talking shlt on yourself and read the bible.

thats about it...get to it.