is it good to FAKE being nervous?

[powpow]

so recently I am having a new problem.

you know, over the years, pickup becomes more of a second nature. some of you guys know what I mean first hand. mistakes slowly are erased, and the proper action, the proper thing to say, they are written in its place. we forge almost a routine, an algorithm, a flow chart, of if this, then that. we can navigate our own labyrinth with ease after time.

the problem that I am having recently is
girls notice it
they notice that it is nothing new anymore.
you know how a guy can tell if a girl is sloot by just looking at her and talking to her for like 5 minutes?
I feel girls have the same power, to see if a guy is nervous at all.

one of the girls I am talking to straight up told me, "the night we met, you were doing pickup right?"

I asked her how she knew, because I am generally super ****in suave about it.

she said that I was too good about it, and that no normal person is that at ease socially with a stranger without having practice at it. she said she almost didnt come to my house because she was worried that I was too much of a playboy, and that she would be hurt.

I was so surprised to hear this, especially since I wasn't always comfortable socially.

so, my brothers, my question to you is, is it good to feign naivety? to give the girls just a HINT of deer in the headlights, even if it is just for show? to make them feel like they are a little bit special?

 

[FairShake]

I don't believe that conversation ever happened.

However no, don't fake being nervous. There are plenty of people who aren't particularly nervous being social around new people.

 

[Fatal Jay]

lol why fake being nervous that sounds weird

 

[sageproduct]

I think what you're saying is true, that with some girls coming off as a player is a BAD thing.

I don't think acting nervous is necessarily the way to handle that. Maybe downplay the whole "I am the prize" "I spin 999 plates" "bow down to me b1tch i aint taking your bs" stuff a little. And the more you really connect, the less it'll seem like a pickup.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

First off, NEVER admit to a girl you were doing a pick-up. Of COURSE you were doing a pick-up, that's how you got her, but that's not the point. The point is, even if a girl feels like she's being gamed, you NEVER admit it. There should always be an air of mystery about whether or not you've done this with other girls.

Second, no one says you have to tell girls everything. If some girl asked me if I was doing a pick-up on her, I'd either jokingly play it off ("Pick you up? I don't know - how much do you weigh?") or act like I'm just a natural when it comes to talking to people. Again, ADMIT NOTHING.

Lastly, if you'll notice, her thinking you were doing a pick-up did not stop her from coming to your house. Why? Because, on some level, she's flattered that you decided to choose HER to pick up. Just because a woman looks like she may be mad at you for doing something doesn't mean she is, and you shouldn't feel bad about it.

There's no need to fake like you aren't good at what you do. Women fall for guys all the time that they KNOW are players, pimps, womanizers, etc., and it's because they secretly WANT a guy that knows how to play the game better than they do. Consider what she said to you a compliment to your abilities and keep on doing what you do!

 

[sageproduct]

^I disagree, women aren't fwcking stupid. You approach her at a bar, what does she think you want, to be omg bff with her?

If a girl asks are you picking me up I'd say fwck yeah I'm picking you up. Why the fwck else would you be talking to her and flirting with her?

Women like to be picked up if done well. They don't like being "just another number". OP, my guess is that your problem actually is you're bored with your interactions, and the girls can sense this. You need to have more fun.

 

[powpow]

thanks for the good insight.

I guess one can categorize the strength of the game based on effect.

I just wonder how many girls have turned me down not based on that I wasn't good enough at conversation or game or attractiveness, but by the fact that they recognized that I am the fox and they are the hare.

I guess the game is to hide this fact.
I guess even if you dont hide it, some girls will be lured in either way.

some things are difficult to hide tho, and the way I see the game as predator and prey, I feel like girls have a natural prey instinct, but also a natural instinct to sacrifice themself to the best hunter.

fun fun fun.

by the way, I just adjusted by downplaying the plates, upping the romantic kino, and upping the "getting to know you" conversation while decreasing the "building status and attraction" conversation.

gha I love this game ITS A BINGO

 

[Dominance]

You shouldn't fake being nervous if your not. That makes no sense at all. Maybe there is something about they way you do it that made it obvious, do you use any canned stuff? If so that isn't the best idea.

 

[Neil Skywalker]

First off, NEVER admit to a girl you were doing a pick-up. Of COURSE you were doing a pick-up, that's how you got her, but that's not the point. The point is, even if a girl feels like she's being gamed, you NEVER admit it. There should always be an air of mystery about whether or not you've done this with other girls.

Second, no one says you have to tell girls everything. If some girl asked me if I was doing a pick-up on her, I'd either jokingly play it off ("Pick you up? I don't know - how much do you weigh?") or act like I'm just a natural when it comes to talking to people. Again, ADMIT NOTHING.

Lastly, if you'll notice, her thinking you were doing a pick-up did not stop her from coming to your house. Why? Because, on some level, she's flattered that you decided to choose HER to pick up. Just because a woman looks like she may be mad at you for doing something doesn't mean she is, and you shouldn't feel bad about it.

There's no need to fake like you aren't good at what you do. Women fall for guys all the time that they KNOW are players, pimps, womanizers, etc., and it's because they secretly WANT a guy that knows how to play the game better than they do. Consider what she said to you a compliment to your abilities and keep on doing what you do!

This!

Never feign nervousness. It makes you look dumb if you're not doing it right.