Is it ever ok to say this to your girl....?

mecca411

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Things like, "I love you" or "i miss u". I'm dating my girl long-distance (but we see each other every weekend) for the past 8 months and she really gets off on the mushy and corny stuff. I'll admit that I have indulged her in the past, but it's because she just eats the stuff up. Haven't said "i love you" yet (she's said it to me, but thought I would soon). Almost like it makes her even more into me. What do you think? Should I knock it off or should I turn it up?

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REARLY, If you do it everytime you talk to her, she'll get used to it and puirty soon it won't mean sh1t. find other ways of making her feel special (with out saying it right out, or bying gifts)
 

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Don't overdo it. While it may seem like she likes it, it might not be a good thing. Women are strange creatures. She may *seem* like she likes it. She may even *say* that she likes it. But what a woman thinks she wants and what she really wants, on a deep instinctual level, are very often different.

It's very counter-intuitive for some guys, but you have to learn to not listen to what she *says* she wants all the time.

Anyways, just give her enough to keep her interested. If you overdo it, while she might say that she enjoys it, you might actually be turning her off.
 

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Originally posted by DJHoolahoop
now italostud, why is that?
Women need to feel a challenge. I'm not saying *never* say things like "I love you, miss you etc". But if you say it too much, you're taking away all the challenge. A woman will become bored with you if you're always professing your love to her every 5 minutes.

There's a balance you have to find between giving too much affection, and not giving enough.
 

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It's not verbalizing affection that scares a woman off...it is being too needy and insecure. If a guy is constantly seeking acceptance, affirmation and whatnot from a woman THAT is what suffocates her and chases her off. Saying "I love you" constantly is overkill sometimes, but if you like to say that to each other when you say goodbye to each other it's not a big deal.

Say whatever you want to say, just don't de needy or dependent on her or seek her approval, acceptance and affirmation.
 

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Why would you never say "I love you." That is stupid as hell and you're insecure because you're afraid 3 words will lose the girl. haha losers. Say it when you mean it. When you just have nothing to say, just shut the fvck up. Don't over use it, don't abuse it, but cherish it. Make it mean something more than words. Make her feel it. You get the point. Seriously if you find that the bible says to never say I love you, then . . .


the bible lied my friends. (don't cry)
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
REARLY
I agree, there's no better time to say "I love you" than during a doggystyle session :p

I think you can say whatever you want, as long as you keep her on her toes. Always tell her new stories about girls picking on you, and teasing you, and you telling them you're taken. That'll make her buurnnnn inside.
 

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Only say "I love you" if you really mean it. Otherwise you're just lying to yourself and to her, and that's not cool.


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read craftylefty and italostud's posts..

they got it right on the money..

the funny thing is...these guys read the DJB and follow every letter always forgetting the most important part of all of this DJing minusha...

HAVE FUN, BE NATURAL, KEEP IT REAL
 

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Why would you never say "I love you." That is stupid as hell and you're insecure because you're afraid 3 words will lose the girl. haha losers. Say it when you mean it. When you just have nothing to say, just shut the fvck up. Don't over use it, don't abuse it, but cherish it. Make it mean something more than words. Make her feel it. You get the point. Seriously if you find that the bible says to never say I love you, then . . .

the bible lied my friends. (don't cry)
agreed
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
Have any of you even read the Dj bible? YOU ARE NEVER SUPPOSED TO SAY "I LOVE YOU"

go read the DJ bible before you give out more wrong advice to people :p

Euh....in my understanding, the DJ Bible says not to say I Love You when you are just starting going out with a girl.

Mecca411 has been dating this girl for 8 months now, so i think it's about time he says those 3 words, IF he really means them. And mecca411, dont tell her by phone or email. See her in person and look her in the eyes while saying this. I am 99% sure that she will be impressed and will FEEL the meaning of your words.

Of course, like others have said, do not say I Love You or I Miss You too often, as she won't take it seriously after some time.

I guess an average of once every 2 conversations could do the trick, although it depends on the girl's need to be told those things. What do others think the average should be?
 

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I wouldn't measure it out in conversations, I would save it for special romantic moments to give it some extra oomth.

It needs to be tense enough so my girl jumps my bones when I say it.

Meanwhile I give her affirmation in other ways


Kaine
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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As much as you hear around here that you shouldn't so much as listen to what a girl says as pay attention to her actions you must realize that most women are doing the same right back too you. You can express these thoughts by actions rather clearly without a need for verbalizing them.

The flipside of this is that most women that I have encountered will have a window of opprutunity that lies right around your timeframe of whether or not things are becoming serious based on communication. One of the things that women qualify a LTR material man on is his ability to communicate. Most of the woman that I have encountered have felt that if a man doesn't verbally express that they are in love within a year that they are wasting their time. If you actually do love the girl then do as kerensky advised. Say it when you mean it and say it when it is appropriate. If you do not love this girl than dont tell her that you do. The only thing that will come out of that is you being in a relationship that is based on false hope and her expecting complete and endless devotion from you.

Cliff notes: Women can be overly emotional and verbal. Say what you mean and only if you honestly mean it. Saying what you dont mean is going to get you into a situation you probably dont want. Not saying what you want or acting in a manner that displays your true intentions will leave you with a swollen forearm.
 
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