Is it better to be divorced or single in women wanting you?

[Pumpndump]

We all know women value getting married. Being single for X number of years and never married would if all women value getting married lower your value as they see you aren't wanted THAT bad where no woman actually married you.

If you are divorced even a few times it proves to them you've had a woman or a few that actually married you and some married you even after you were divorced. It shows women that you not only have had women wanting to commit for life to you but you also have experience over a single schlub who no woman took the step to marry you.

Divorced men have the upper hand over single 4 life dudes.

 

[Pumpndump]

Good question, like there are men that like divorced women, there is also women that like divorced men or that have kids. But most do it because they like to be part of the drama with the ex spouse. I especially hate the ones that like to break up marriages.

Exactly. There are homewreckers after married men and that ring on their finger is a symbol some other woman claimed that man. Single women all like to be FIRST to get married. They all want to one up each other. And if you are a single 4 life dude your value is lowered in their eyes as they see the taken men got scooped up quick. They want to be the one to take that man away. Or if divorced at least see the man was wanted to where a woman or women were not only ready but DID commit to that guy. And if divorced a few times women see that women STILL wanted that man even AFTER her was divorced. He becomes a hot commodity whereas some schmo who's single 4 life in the clubs is seen by them as a LOOOOOSER that no one wanted to give themselves to in marriage and actually MARRY them.

 

[skinnyguy]

I don't care what women think.

I'd rather be 60 and never married than be divorced.

Can't imagine having a marriage blow up in my face. Much less have a kid and then make them live in a one parent household.

While I do think there are advantages to marriage I do think the huge downside is that you're highly likely to get divorced in this period we live in.

I would never want to attract divorced women - they are the worst!!!

 

[El Payaso]

I don't care what women think.

I'd rather be 60 and never married than be divorced.

Can't imagine having a marriage blow up in my face. Much less have a kid and then make them live in a one parent household.

While I do think there are advantages to marriage I do think the huge downside is that you're highly likely to get divorced in this period we live in.

I would never want to attract divorced women - they are the worst!!!

This so much.

 

[corrector]

I'm divorced and what the OP is saying is nonsense. I haven't noticed any difference in terms of attracting any new women in my life after the divorce compared to before the marriage (i.e. with the exception of my ex-wife of course!). Skinnyguy is spot on. I had a marriage blow-up on my face (no children of my own were involved) and I can tell you that is one of the worst things to go through. I could not afford a lawyer to do any divorce and had to be my own DIY lawyer and failed the initial application as I didn't know what I was doing. Crazy mess.

The only difference I can see in my life is people are not badgering me when I'm going to get married. Also, I'm not gun-ho about getting into another relationship with any woman.

 

[TheGambino]

Doesn't mean crap, all of that.

It's about confidence, fun, appearance, vibe, taking what you want, enjoying the moment and being alpha af.

 

[Mike32ct]

One SLIGHT advantage to being long term single is that women will wonder about you and want to know what your deal is. That “mystery” that piques their curiousity isn’t a bad thing.

But if it goes on too long, it will sabotage any chances you have in a social circle because they will give up on you. But for new women outside your circle, it can work.

For example, I have no chance with any women I know socially because the cat is out of the bag. They all know (or have sensed/figured out that) I’ve been single for too long.

But if I meet somebody new from say online, then it’s possible because I have a “clean slate.” Then, on our first date, she will interrogate me for hours under a bright light until I fold under questioning and confess why I’m single lol. But at least the mystery will pique some interest.

 

[TheGambino]

Bvllsh1t thread for real. Who gives a sh1t? She doesn't care. She cares about your dominance, leading, attitude, frame, looks, money, positive vibes, humor, alpha, respect.

And you should care about you.

 

[Trunks]

Well, assuming you don't have kids, do you even need to tell them you are divorced? At that point you might as well tell them you are single, I would think.

 

[That_dude]

Dating someone who's been thru a divorce can be complicated. Been there done that. I prefer less baggage