is it alright to pay for her if..........

[trevor2003]

......she has no money

this girl i know is always broke because she lives in an apartment with 2 of her friends

i heard that your not supposed to pay for the girls date.........but if she has no money how would it seem if you paid for her

when i mean pay for her i mean stuff like playing pool and mini golf

 

[Ashlee Angel]

So guys make girls pay for themselfs. But I always pay of women I go out with.

It's just something I do.

 

[Paul Owen]

I think its ok for you to pay in this situation.

The main reason for not normally paying for a girl, in my opinion only, is that it will diminish her interest level. I think the reason for this is that she will think, 'Oh this guy pays for everything. He IS eager to please isn't he? Obviously he thinks that I am very special to be paying for all of these things.' And subconsciously she will think the guy is 'below' her and him paying for everything is a way of evening things up.

In this case however, you paying for her is just a practical thing. Don't make a big deal out of it, do it very casually, let her pay occasionally and don't pay for anything too expensive.

Of course this advice would not stand if the woman was a gold digger. I am assuming she isn't.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Well, if you don't pay for her dates, then you're not going to have any with this girl. There's a huge difference, IMO, between a girl who's using you for a free meal and a girl who just can't afford to pay every once in a while. However, maybe she does things that don't cost money. Maybe she makes you your favorite meal, or does this, or that...it's the same gesture as the girl offering to pay so you realize she's not taking advantage of your wallet. Just in a way that fits her circumstances. It'd bother me if a girl didn't at least OFFER to pay every once in a while. I'd pay anyway, because no girl is paying my way...it's how I was raised, and I see nothing AFC about it. But if I knew that it wasn't possible for the girl to pay, I'd realize that she's probably embarassed, and not itching for the fact to be brought up, and pay..wouldn't bother me.

 

[iqqi]

there is nothing wrong with paying for a woman. it is old fashioned, not necessarily in a bad way. it goes with the whole mentality of taking care of a woman, and many men actually enjoy treating/taking care of a woman. i do not think this could possibly diminish a woman's IL, at all. If she is into you, this could only impress her, and she'll know you're the type of man who "handles things".

if you're that kind of man, remember, don't get stuck on what you think a dj should do and should not do. taking care of a woman goes with the whole "i am the man" mentality anyways.

i can't believe you would think paying for a woman on a date would diminish her interest level. hahaha. can't get over that.

 

[Paul Owen]

It would diminish her interest level if it looked like you were trying to buy her or impress her.