Is it AFC to Care?

[nan3109]

This idea came from a post I did earlier:

Do you fellow DJ's believe the role of a DJ is to either; fake caring or not care at all when it comes to a relationship?

I know if you dont give your heart, you have nothing to lose.

But would you consider yourself AFC for giving your heart to a woman?

Caring is the building blocks of love and marriage.

I think being a DJ is basically being a player - in a way. Why? Well, a playa goes from one girl to the next , regardless. A Don Juan goes from one girl to the next when things aren't going his way or a girl begins acting shady.

If your a DJ, your not looking for a real relationship. Real relationships involve sacrifice and commitment. A DJ apprently doesnt believe in sacrifice. "either you like me for who I am and what I'm about or I'll next you."

So is it AFC to care? Or is being AFC a step towards a serious LTR/marriage?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I don't think a DJ is a "player" in the pimpin' sense of the word. I think Don Juan loved his women (literally), players don't.

Originally posted by nan3109
This idea came from a post I did earlier:

Do you fellow DJ's believe the role of a DJ is to either; fake caring or not care at all when it comes to a relationship?

I know if you dont give your heart, you have nothing to lose.

But would you consider yourself AFC for giving your heart to a woman?

Caring is the building blocks of love and marriage.

I think being a DJ is basically being a player - in a way. Why? Well, a playa goes from one girl to the next , regardless. A Don Juan goes from one girl to the next when things aren't going his way or a girl begins acting shady.

If your a DJ, your not looking for a real relationship. Real relationships involve sacrifice and commitment. A DJ apprently doesnt believe in sacrifice. "either you like me for who I am and what I'm about or I'll next you."

So is it AFC to care? Or is being AFC a step towards a serious LTR/marriage?

 

[dionysius_d]

You're a human being.. so you have to care and love something in life.. or why be alive.

Being a DJ is about learning how to deal with your emotions right.. when to expose and when to conceal.

Most of the time your inner state should be for your own knowledge only.. others cannot understand.

 

[ZeeOwl]

Originally posted by nan3109
Do you fellow DJ's believe the role of a DJ is to either; fake caring or not care at all when it comes to a relationship?

So is it AFC to care? Or is being AFC a step towards a serious LTR/marriage?

I don't think it's AFC to care. That's a normal (and necessary) condition for a LTR, or even a STR to a lesser extent. What is AFC, is caring too much too soon. Being a DJ is learning to manage your emotions, so that they're not managing you anymore.

 

[stevey_2000]

as my friend mr. wilde says, of course it's not AFC to care but don't let them know you do unless your in the sack of course , but then...don't treat them bad either.

 

[Starman]

are u kidding???

women LOVE caring, loving, guys..who will loook to cater to a woman in every way she wants

who doesnt?? if a girl doesnt care about you...even if you are AFC..how long willl u stick around??

Caring about someone is a sign of love, respect, humanity..and it stems from a childhood need to be looked after

seeming like you care is critical..but care too much and you win a one way ticket to oneitusville

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by nan3109
But would you consider yourself AFC for giving your heart to a woman?

Yes, absolutely and without question.

Caring is the building blocks of love and marriage.

No, caring is the building block of emotional anguish.

Modern society has reversed traditional gender roles in the sense that men used to be the natural DJ in relationships with women. Now women have assumed that position and men have been relegated to playing the sniveling AFC loser. Hence the reason we come to this site. Which brings me to our next point...

Real relationships involve sacrifice and commitment.

You're half right. Real relationships today involve sacrifice and commitment by one party in the relationship (usually the man), while the other party takes advantage of that sacrifice and commitment. It doesn't always have to be the woman taking advantage of the man, but nevertheless, truly reciprocal relationships do not exist. The question then becomes: which party do YOU want to be? The one taking advantage, or the one being taken? As soon as you start to "care" you've already dug your own grave.

 

[WestCoaster]

Misinterpretations of the DJ philosophy

While this site has evolved into something unique, I highly doubt Allen Thompson thought it would be about f' buddies, negative hits, and basically being mysoginistic or narcissistic. Parts of this site have evolved into stuff that's really not the DJ philosophy.

Yes, DJ's care, probably care MORE than any AFC anywhere. An AFC (see me a few years ago) only cares about his needy emotions, the current state of affairs and immediacy. They are not willing to be cool or to have patience. They are in desparate need of love and like a starving man, need it now.

A DJ cares, but is willing to take the time to make a seven-course meal and enjoy it slowly rather than go through the McDonald's drive-through. He understands the building blocks of a relationship: attraction, pursuit, kindness, yes CARING, consideration, thoughtfullness, loyalty and commitment.

The caring and commitment are done frequently and at the appropriate times. What differs from the AFC is if the DJ is not being shown these things in return, if he is not shown caring, consideration, kindness, thoughtfullness, loyalty, and commitment, he respects himself so much that he moves on to someone else.

But yes, DJ's care: about their lover AND themselves.

 

[Don Rageta]

being DJ is like being a 'good fisherman'

its about knowing how to attract a fishes attention, and getting a fish to bite and when that happens you must learn to reel it in or else your line may break.

a 'good fisherman' knows how to gain the trust of fish, not scaring them away being too eager, untill lastly he lands the fish in his boat. a bad fisherman knows none of this.

now just as a fisherman decides whether he's fishing for fun (catching as many fish as he can, taking pictures and throwing them back after he lands them)

or he can be in it for the long haul. (catching the fish, putting it away, possibly scaling and gutting the fish. untill he catches the right 'big fish' he's been looking for. He mounts this fish over his mantle.

a DJ can care or not care. it really doesn't matter but its necessary to chose.



PS. for any of the dumber dj's out there...

the fish are the women

 

[MetalFortress]

Hmm, the Bible (not the DJ one) has something in it about this that I like:

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

Where AFC's go wrong is that they think that they belong ONLY to their gf, wife, whatever, and not to themselves, and even if they don't do that, they forget the first part of it. And the jerk only sees the first part but not the second part. Just as the Don Juan is the perfect combination of jerk and nice guy, a good relationship should have a combination of both of the above. Everything in moderation.

 

[Egyptiandude1]

DJ IronGirevik: noooo dont bring up the bible.. before Demon catches a whiff of it and starts another anti-christian seminar



as for your question, is it AFC to care, no, you wouldnt be human if you didnt

 

[John11276]

AFC is the default term for everything on this board. It's different to everyone. It's up to you what AFC. Some of these cats will call anything AFC. I've devised a way not to be AFC.

1) Move to the mountains.
2) Cut off contact with anyone.
3) Don't talk nor look at any girl more than once, that's oneitus.

Do what you want man, half of these guys are virgins anyway and have no idea about ****.