Is internet dating always this methodical?

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by WestCoaster
Sorry. Done my share of religious women and they are far more mean than agnostics and athiests. I've been cheated on by two so-called Christian women. Hypocrisy at its finest.

Agreed there! As an agnostic myself, i don't really pay much attention to religious aspects. I have found the so called christian women to be quite the hypocrits myself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by myfriendblu
Yo,
yea sorry about that point. Starman really hit the nail on the head. What im tryin to say is that its IMPOSSIBLE to judge IL online. Sure, you may get 20 dates in one night. but how is the IL? You may be very well going out with 20 dates that go nowehere. How do you know? IL is impossible to judge online. I dunno how rich you are, but I surely don't have the time or the money to waste on all these online dates where I have no idea what the IL is. When you meet someone in real life and number them, you got a good idea of the IL and you can decide on wether or not she is worth the time and money. After all, you can yap all day long on a computer and never have an idea of what IL of the girl is. Meet someone in real life, you can judge IL in less than a minute. Its all about body language, tone of voice, little verbal and physical signals. Experienced DJ's, like myself, have got this down to a science. I can usually figure out a girls IL in me in about 20 seconds of convo. But there is no way to tell online. Could be good, could be bad. I think it all comes down to this simple fact -

A young DJ in his 20's doesn't need the internet to meet people. He can do it on his own. The net is better suited for older people who have a smaller pool to chose from. There, the time/energy/money drawbacks are worth it.

Im in my mid 20's.

With more experience you will realize that DJing is something you can do anywhere. And while its not readily apparent a womans IL online, it is possible if you ask the right questions.

Just like on the street, at school or in a bar, you can spend time 'yapping' with a woman for countless hours. They can have a low IL and still yap away because it is what most of them enjoy doing. So yes, you can spend countless hours anywhere and basically waste your time.

No matter where you are, you can easily find out a woman's initial IL after asking two (2) questions. Her home phone number and eventually a date. Thats it, theres nothing else to it, it doesn't matter if you are online or not.

Now if you are a PUA, using the Internet is like shooting fish in a barrel. You can even do this without joining dating sites. AOL, Yahoo, ICQ and MSN all have free chat rooms.

And dating itself does not have to be expensive. How much does it cost to meet at a coffee shop? Who says that you have to buy HER cup of coffee either. Getting there early and ordering your drink before she gets there easily gets you out of that predicament. It's just that easy.

Saying that it is impossible to figure out a woman's IL online is just a cop out for not putting forth enough effort to learn womanease. The Internet is just a medium like the telephone. With practice, weeding out the weaklings will become easy.

By the way, in a different thread you said

Originally posted by myfriendblu
"Why fish from a pond of a few trout, when ya can fish from an ocean with a million fish. "

Wouldn't the Internet fall into the ocean category?

 

[myfriendblu]

Hey, Im glad its worked for you. Everyones different. Bottom line, I don't need the internet. Its like a middle-man. I cut out the middle man and go right for the source. Im in contact with so many available chiks on a daly basis, there really is no need for it for me. And like I have said before, alot of people here have found my opinion/experiences with net dating similar to there own.

Still, I stand by my statement about judging IL. Its the number one most important thing in the world when it comes to getting chiks. And you just can not do that by asking questions threw a computer screen. it just does not work like that. You have to be there in person, to judge body language, tone of voice, and a general feel of the chemistry. Its that little hard to explain vibe that you get from someone. The only way to do that is by meeting them. You can go out and meet dozens of people in person a day, if not hundreds, in the real world. You can't set that up online.

 

[akindofblue]

My point was that if you know what you're looking for, online classifieds do a bit of the work for you and save you time and money that you might otherwise spend on dates. And if you're going to can a Christian, you're probably not going to learn about her faith for a few dates. In other words, you've just wasted time and (likely) money if you're keeping your options open for a LTR. Faith is something important to me, so onlines conveniently cut out the fluff. Respectfully disagreeing with you on the Christian/agnostic thing, of course, but what does that matter, anyway?

As for not being able to judge IL through a computer, that's not true at all. First of all, girls on online classifieds (particulary the attractive AND intelligent ones) can get hundreds of e-mails in a day or two. If they choose to reply to you, rest assured they have a decent IL. If they write you out of the blue with an e-mail that amounts to more than "Hey, you're cute!!!!!" or "Just wanted to say hi" and are somewhat attractive, you know they're interested, simply because they're getting those other e-mails from guys and actually take the initiative to write you. And the more they tell you about themselves, the more they're interested. Girls don't just pass that info on to everyone. Now if they start asking you about your profile, start relating to that profile, IL is pretty high. Just don't let them string you along for more than two or three e-mail exchanges.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by akindofblue
As for not being able to judge IL through a computer, that's not true at all. First of all, girls on online classifieds (particulary the attractive AND intelligent ones) can get hundreds of e-mails in a day or two. If they choose to reply to you, rest assured they have a decent IL. If they write you out of the blue with an e-mail that amounts to more than "Hey, you're cute!!!!!" or "Just wanted to say hi" and are somewhat attractive, you know they're interested, simply because they're getting those other e-mails from guys and actually take the initiative to write you. And the more they tell you about themselves, the more they're interested. Girls don't just pass that info on to everyone. Now if they start asking you about your profile, start relating to that profile, IL is pretty high. Just don't let them string you along for more than two or three e-mail exchanges.

Believe it or not it IS just that easy...

 

[MisterAl]

You can't get a meaningful IL reading from a woman online because you haven't even met each other. Physically meeting changes everything.

But you are dead-on right about the two questions that filter out the uninterested, getting digits and the date. This results in a pool of girls that are potentially interested, but at an unknown IL.

I had been using match.com and all that quite a lot recently. The kind of interest that can be generated in a woman online through a good photo and convo skills is just qualification. She picks candidates that look good on paper and interest her versus all the pervs and AFC that have polluted her inbox.

Once the date is set up and you meet, that's when you can gauge real IL and influence it with your presence. Sure there are the crazies and cows that fall in love with any piece of meat that gives them online attention, but that's not what we want.

I've dealt with flakers that act so interested and fill my inbox with mail and give me digits right away, and then they vanish after the phonecall or when I see her the first date just holds no physical chemistry for either she or I. Physical contact and presence is essential to determine true IL.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by MisterAl
You can't get a meaningful IL reading from a woman online because you haven't even met each other. Physically meeting changes everything.

Exactly. Computer screens don't give of body language, LOL. The day they do, hey, maybe I will go the online route.