Yes yes, I know. Girls always say they want a guy with humor. They say that it is a key quality of a guy and is something they look for in a bf. Do you think this is true? I mean, of course I want a girl that is fun to be around, but does humor really create any sexual attraction? When girls say something funny to me, it doesn't make me want them any more or anything like that. It makes me feel more comfortable around them, which is good, but I don't feel anything sexual. I just wanted your thoughts on humor and if it really even plays that important of a role in seducing a women, because I dont see how just humor can create a sexual attraction. I may be all wrong, but I was just wondering what you all thought.
Is humor really all it's cracked up to be?
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I know this funny guy. super funny. hits on women.....challenges them...the whole DJ package.
The other day a girl said, "I don't see how anyone can love you." This led to a gangbang by like 10 girls on his ass. I was watching and laughing. What do you think?
The other day a girl said, "I don't see how anyone can love you." This led to a gangbang by like 10 girls on his ass. I was watching and laughing. What do you think?
of course!
just about any maxim or stuff magazine you read, the majority of the girls they interview will almost always say they want a guy that can make them laugh.
you can be serious all your life, but dont do it in front of a chick.
you need to relax sometimes and just enjoy and laugh while you can about things
just about any maxim or stuff magazine you read, the majority of the girls they interview will almost always say they want a guy that can make them laugh.
you can be serious all your life, but dont do it in front of a chick.
you need to relax sometimes and just enjoy and laugh while you can about things
This is a good topic, sort of a chicken/egg topic though.
To me, humor is very key, and as said above, it helps to exude confidence if you do it right. People like being around funny people in general. True that it won't necessarily make a girl fall in love with you, but it generally won't ever hurt you to be a funny guy.
This girl who I work with (she's engaged to a good friend of mine, so nothing's gonna ever happen) loves being around me because I have a good sense of humor that she really takes to. We see eye to eye as far as the type of humor. That's pretty key as well. If the girl and you find different things funny, then your jokes won't work to well on her.
I guess I think that it goes back to those days when we were younger and we teased the girls that we liked in grade school. It was a form of flirting at the age of innocence. This is merely an advanced stage of that type of thing I guess.
I was at an Abercrombie store yesterday (my favorite store to meet females since they're always hot) and there's this girl there that's so unbelievably hot it's ridiculous. I had her help me choose some clothes, just to gauge what she was like. asking her opinion on a few. She was responding well to my jokes, which I guess was a good sign. I will probably go there tomorrow and ask her out. I'd be surprised if she didn't have a BF though, but only one way to find out...
To me, humor is very key, and as said above, it helps to exude confidence if you do it right. People like being around funny people in general. True that it won't necessarily make a girl fall in love with you, but it generally won't ever hurt you to be a funny guy.
This girl who I work with (she's engaged to a good friend of mine, so nothing's gonna ever happen) loves being around me because I have a good sense of humor that she really takes to. We see eye to eye as far as the type of humor. That's pretty key as well. If the girl and you find different things funny, then your jokes won't work to well on her.
I guess I think that it goes back to those days when we were younger and we teased the girls that we liked in grade school. It was a form of flirting at the age of innocence. This is merely an advanced stage of that type of thing I guess.
I was at an Abercrombie store yesterday (my favorite store to meet females since they're always hot) and there's this girl there that's so unbelievably hot it's ridiculous. I had her help me choose some clothes, just to gauge what she was like. asking her opinion on a few. She was responding well to my jokes, which I guess was a good sign. I will probably go there tomorrow and ask her out. I'd be surprised if she didn't have a BF though, but only one way to find out...
if you're a humorous guy, then it indicates:
you're fun to be around
you know how to have fun
you can lighten up ppl's moods even when they're down
in general, you feel good about yourself, and you know how to make ppl feel good
you can be humourous and series at times when needed, so basically you have the best of both worlds
think of the opposite, a guy that doesnt even know a thing about humour...
if u were a girl who would u want to be with??
Just think about it, Humour will work towards your benefit in all aspects, mainly dealing with people in general. they tend to like a guy who can throw in humor or crack a joke every now and then.
a small office where i work, i at least throw in some humor stuff or joke when i talk to my 2nd boss, he does it to me, i do it to him. he likes me better compared to the other 2 dudes in the same position as I. my main boss is more serious, but occasionally when i get the chance ill throw in a joke when i talk to him, and yea pretty much most of the ppl like me cause i can be a funny guy sometimes. the other 2 dudes are less liked and less talked to cause they focus on their work too much, they dont know how to relax, slack off some bit and ahve a chat with others. im somewhat of a slacker at work, but hey i still get the job done.
Humor is NOT all about cracking jokes. it's a part of everyday life, it's also an important aspect of holding a conversation with someone. If you were all serious with a girl or guy every time u meet them, they would think you're a pretty boring person.
It should be an important part of your personality, it's an ideal trait to keep with you.
you're fun to be around
you know how to have fun
you can lighten up ppl's moods even when they're down
in general, you feel good about yourself, and you know how to make ppl feel good
you can be humourous and series at times when needed, so basically you have the best of both worlds
think of the opposite, a guy that doesnt even know a thing about humour...
if u were a girl who would u want to be with??
Just think about it, Humour will work towards your benefit in all aspects, mainly dealing with people in general. they tend to like a guy who can throw in humor or crack a joke every now and then.
a small office where i work, i at least throw in some humor stuff or joke when i talk to my 2nd boss, he does it to me, i do it to him. he likes me better compared to the other 2 dudes in the same position as I. my main boss is more serious, but occasionally when i get the chance ill throw in a joke when i talk to him, and yea pretty much most of the ppl like me cause i can be a funny guy sometimes. the other 2 dudes are less liked and less talked to cause they focus on their work too much, they dont know how to relax, slack off some bit and ahve a chat with others. im somewhat of a slacker at work, but hey i still get the job done.
Humor is NOT all about cracking jokes. it's a part of everyday life, it's also an important aspect of holding a conversation with someone. If you were all serious with a girl or guy every time u meet them, they would think you're a pretty boring person.
It should be an important part of your personality, it's an ideal trait to keep with you.
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Most women don't have a sense of humor
First, I agree with everything above, it shows confidence, a relaxed state, etc.
I've thought about this often because I'm not always a big wise-cracking guy.
Here's what I think: Most women are humorless or do not have the ability to be quick-witted or funny. Seriously, how many women do you know who are drop-dead funny, who make you laugh your a$$ off? I know a few who make me chuckle, but not laugh really hard.
Many of my guy friends are frickin' hilarious, quick-witted, and just downright funny. One could be a stand-up comic.
I think humor has escaped most women and they find it amusing because they can't seem to pull it off. Look at women comedians, all their material revolves around BASHING MEN!
Look at men comedians, they can talk about ANYTHING. George Carlin can talk about cats and dogs and make you crack up; Cedric the Entertainer goes through a whole routine without talking about women, addressing the ghetto, black style, etc.; Bill Cosby can talk about the family; Seinfeld every day life.
Go to Comedy Central and women comedians just bash men.
Women are not very quit-witted, funny, or have creative sense of humors.
If you have a good sense of humor women find it incredibly amusing because it's something they can't pull off -- that's why it's attractive to them.
First, I agree with everything above, it shows confidence, a relaxed state, etc.
I've thought about this often because I'm not always a big wise-cracking guy.
Here's what I think: Most women are humorless or do not have the ability to be quick-witted or funny. Seriously, how many women do you know who are drop-dead funny, who make you laugh your a$$ off? I know a few who make me chuckle, but not laugh really hard.
Many of my guy friends are frickin' hilarious, quick-witted, and just downright funny. One could be a stand-up comic.
I think humor has escaped most women and they find it amusing because they can't seem to pull it off. Look at women comedians, all their material revolves around BASHING MEN!
Look at men comedians, they can talk about ANYTHING. George Carlin can talk about cats and dogs and make you crack up; Cedric the Entertainer goes through a whole routine without talking about women, addressing the ghetto, black style, etc.; Bill Cosby can talk about the family; Seinfeld every day life.
Go to Comedy Central and women comedians just bash men.
Women are not very quit-witted, funny, or have creative sense of humors.
If you have a good sense of humor women find it incredibly amusing because it's something they can't pull off -- that's why it's attractive to them.
Re: Most women don't have a sense of humor
and for some reason women are attracted to things they dont posess/have. such as personalities or traits. you could say opposites can attract as well as similarities. both sexes may be interested in what the other has to offer them, because they feel they it's something they dont understand, hoping they can learn from each other.
almost like insecure low self-esteem girls. undoubtedly they will stick to the guy that presents himself with confidence and knows how to have fun as well as socialize.
i agree with this. i've rarely or never seen a woman try to be funny or use any humor at all!!
and for some reason women are attracted to things they dont posess/have. such as personalities or traits. you could say opposites can attract as well as similarities. both sexes may be interested in what the other has to offer them, because they feel they it's something they dont understand, hoping they can learn from each other.
almost like insecure low self-esteem girls. undoubtedly they will stick to the guy that presents himself with confidence and knows how to have fun as well as socialize.
Often, hot girls havent HAD TO develop personalities because they've usually been praised and given everything simply for being "such a beautiful little girl."
I think this applies to guys as well: the handsome, "matinee idol" guys (James Dean, Paul Newman etc.) are portrayed as the "strong silent" type. Whereas, the big mouth comedians are usually particularly skinny, particularly fat or strange looking.
Some might argue that girls often find humour so appealing because they want to be entertained like "little princesses", and leech the wit and vitality out of you.
Theres this one girl, my friend, who is the ONLY girl I have EVER met who is genuinely funny. She has sharper wits than me or anyone else I know. And although shes quite pretty too (roughly HB7) I fell for her BIG TIME just because of her sense of humour.
I think this applies to guys as well: the handsome, "matinee idol" guys (James Dean, Paul Newman etc.) are portrayed as the "strong silent" type. Whereas, the big mouth comedians are usually particularly skinny, particularly fat or strange looking.
Some might argue that girls often find humour so appealing because they want to be entertained like "little princesses", and leech the wit and vitality out of you.
Theres this one girl, my friend, who is the ONLY girl I have EVER met who is genuinely funny. She has sharper wits than me or anyone else I know. And although shes quite pretty too (roughly HB7) I fell for her BIG TIME just because of her sense of humour.
Re: Most women don't have a sense of humor
Being funny is like gold when it comes to people in general, not just women. I have known people who have been very successful in whatever they do because having that ability gives them a certain charm that isn't easily achieved by other means.
Women definitely fall for it, as long as your sense of humor is not too off the wall or difficult to understand. I've seen guys bomb because they try too hard. Sometimes if you're not funny, you're just not funny. To me, it's almost on the same lines as being physically attractive. Some people are born with it. I believe both things may be improved, but it's almost easier to make yourself look better than it is to make yourself funnier, because to look more physically attractive, just pay more attention to your clothes, hair, shoes, body, etc., and that's it. However, being quick-witted is a certain state of mind that isn't that readily achieved without a ton of practice and even then, it won't always flow.
I have to agree with this as well, I have a lot of very attractive lady friends who try to be funny all the time, but in the end, all I find myself doing is giving them a courtesy laugh at best. Then, they laugh like crazy at every little thing I say that is even remotely humorous, even if I don't find it that funny.
Being funny is like gold when it comes to people in general, not just women. I have known people who have been very successful in whatever they do because having that ability gives them a certain charm that isn't easily achieved by other means.
Women definitely fall for it, as long as your sense of humor is not too off the wall or difficult to understand. I've seen guys bomb because they try too hard. Sometimes if you're not funny, you're just not funny. To me, it's almost on the same lines as being physically attractive. Some people are born with it. I believe both things may be improved, but it's almost easier to make yourself look better than it is to make yourself funnier, because to look more physically attractive, just pay more attention to your clothes, hair, shoes, body, etc., and that's it. However, being quick-witted is a certain state of mind that isn't that readily achieved without a ton of practice and even then, it won't always flow.
I dont believe humor is the great cure all that makes women weak in the knees. How many stand up comics have girls drooling at them? Humor with little or no confidence will put you in the friend category.
But with confidence and non AFC tendencies and its huge...
But with confidence and non AFC tendencies and its huge...
I know a couple girls with great senses of humor, one is drop dead gorgeous and the other is fat obese
Its obvious why I fell for the HB, but my funny fat female friend? whats the attraction?
She makes me feel comfortable, and that is the essence of being funny
Look at it this way, why arent we ALL just having sex with each other as soon as we meet? Why cant you go to a HB and say "lets fvck?"
THEY DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE with that type of intimacy
What comedy does is Break that wall of uncomfortability between people, and then once they feel comfortable with you, sex is easy
somehow when you make people laugh, they trust you, they like you, you bring possible joy to their lives
So it pays off to have this very powerful weapon on your side, but its not the ONLY thing involved with attraction, but it opens up doors for women to listen to your game, then you work it from their
Remember, once you open the door, you can go anywhere, but if its shut, you are constantly struggling to open it
Its obvious why I fell for the HB, but my funny fat female friend? whats the attraction?
She makes me feel comfortable, and that is the essence of being funny
Look at it this way, why arent we ALL just having sex with each other as soon as we meet? Why cant you go to a HB and say "lets fvck?"
THEY DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE with that type of intimacy
What comedy does is Break that wall of uncomfortability between people, and then once they feel comfortable with you, sex is easy
somehow when you make people laugh, they trust you, they like you, you bring possible joy to their lives
So it pays off to have this very powerful weapon on your side, but its not the ONLY thing involved with attraction, but it opens up doors for women to listen to your game, then you work it from their
Remember, once you open the door, you can go anywhere, but if its shut, you are constantly struggling to open it
You answered your own question. Humor makes people feel comfortable and let's them know that you're fun to be around. Essentially humor is an appetizer. It piques womens interest. However that's about all it does. I've seen very funny guys get women interested in them and then fail to close because they suddenly become stand up comics on the date. Another pitfall here is that you can get so caught up in being funny you forget to listen to your date.
Humor is great and should be in the arsenal of every player. You've just got to remember that humor coupled with kino, and getting your target to talk about things she likes (eliciting values) in order to create sexual attraction is deadly. So...humor is a tranquilizer but humor mixed with sexual attraction is a one way ticket to six feet underneath her covers with her on top.
Humor is great and should be in the arsenal of every player. You've just got to remember that humor coupled with kino, and getting your target to talk about things she likes (eliciting values) in order to create sexual attraction is deadly. So...humor is a tranquilizer but humor mixed with sexual attraction is a one way ticket to six feet underneath her covers with her on top.