Is hiding the same as lying?

JonnyD123

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This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
 

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This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
Yeah, she lied to you. You don't just sleep with a friend(s) multiple times.
 

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Lying by omission.

Not really a difference between that and blatantly lying, the intent to deceive (or mask deception) is the same.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Why does it matter?

Every woman you meet will have sexual experience unless she is 12. Get used to it.
Did you even read what I wrote? I didn't expect her to be daddy's little virgin angel.
 

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Did you even read what I wrote? I didn't expect her to be daddy's little virgin angel.
I did.

I'm trying to tell you that its silly to worry about a woman's sexual history and who she slept with and who she didn't. That is one area where I don't ask and don't tell. Women will never be honest about that with you anyway.
 

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This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?

You're displaying insecurity. This will drive her interest down.

She has a past. You have a past. Dating someone for 2 months, she doesn't have to tell you anything she doesn't want to and neither do you.
 

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This girl I had been seeing told me about these two guy "friends," which I had no problem her talking to because I had platonic female friends (none of which I had ever slept with).

Fast forward 2 months and it comes out she has slept with both of them, multiple times, prior to us ever meeting. She failed to mention it because she "didn't think it was important," but I also failed to ask.

You think her not bringing that up from the get go is the equivalent of lying about it?
she was certainly lying to you, the problem is that she wanted to hide the nature of her relationship with those guys, not that she banged them.

it's a huge red flag that she wants to keep it secret from you what she has done with the guys she spends time with
 

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It's always safe to assume that if a chick as a close male friend at some point she fvcked him, or he wants to fvck her. This sort of thing does not bother me because I always expect this from women... but if this bugs you then dump her, because she isn't fun for you anymore.

Bottom-line when a chick STOPS being entertaining and STARTS being work, dump her, even if you think you love her. Life is too short to worry about sh!t like this.
 

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It's always safe to assume that if a chick as a close male friend at some point she fvcked him, or he wants to fvck her.

Bottom-line when a chick STOPS being entertaining and STARTS being work, dump her, even if you think you love her. Life is too short to worry about sh!t like this.
Any normal guy who is willing to invest time in a women wants to sleep with her - ever! Absolutely right.

Like I say: bring fun to my life or fcuk off!
 
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