Is giving compliments really crucial to your game?

[ScrewIt]

when to really compliment a girl. does giving compliments sparingly really help your game?

when i was AFc last yr, i give compliments occasionally to some girls i knew or even liked, whether if it's a good job they did in class or looks. well i learned my lesson then that i was just feeding their ego and it wasnt helping my game.

now that im moving towards djism, i find myself not giving compliments at all. This is probably not a good thing. I use C&F with confidence, but i think my game is lacking because i dont use compliments at all.

when i do comments sparingly, should it be on what they wear, how they look, how how good they did in class.

 

[DEKKA]

compliments are beneficial to the point of where they are beneficial and detrimental to the point where they are becoming detrimental.

does that make sense?

compliments are a good way to make insecure females feel better about certain things, and about you. most females are highly insecure and need those kind of reassurances. the point at which it becomes detrimental to you is when they come off as contrived and fake.... like you're trying to get something. if they are cheesy and lame or done in an afc puppydog pathetic way then, yeah, you shouldn't be doing it.

-J

 

[ScrewIt]

i guess the whole concept of acting disinterested and "unneedy"
somehow took a shot to my brain where i just cut off giving away compliments.

i do know that when you overdo compliments, girls will be on to you and know your after them/sex

 

[DEKKA]

one thing i see a lot is newbies going overboard in the right direction. true, indifference is a powerful ally... at times... at times. also, realize that some ways of thinking only work with the very hottest women(i.e. neg-hits). acting disinterested however might completely fvck over your game. females are humans too and you have to demonstrate interest and not be afriad of showing your sexuality. if you are hiding something in an effort to please a woman than you are committing the deadly sin of supplication. just change your perspective. maybe instead of playing the "disinterested" game you should demonstrate the interest you have, keep her on her toes with c&f, give some compliments, then disappear for a while. play the hot cold game. that way you can be yourself but balence it out and keep her wanting your man-sized c0ck.

-J

 

[ScrewIt]

kinoing and C&F w/o the compliments and acting somewhat disinterested has fu*ked with my game a few times already.

thanks for the tip, i needed to refresh my memory where i was lost on the dj path. ill try to remember to throw in compliments.

 

[iqqi]

follow this advice:

compliment someone if

* it is genuine compliment
* they deserve it
* you aren't saying it with an expectation of something in return

 

[rben69]

Good question. I have had the same problem. I never compliment any girls, it has been so intergrained into me that compliments are bad that all I usually do is bust their balls and be c&f.

Maybe I should throw in some compliments here and there, it would be very unexpected so would probably work well. "Wow, he has never complimented me before"

Looking for more points of view on this.

-Ben

 

[louis]

One idea is to emphasise their actions, not their looks.

Example:

Instead of:

'You look stunning'

it could be:

'Good choice of outfit'

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Nothing wrong with compliments even though I tend to compliment on nonusual things like when a girl matches her makeup and clothes (colours) or has a cool hairdo or whatever.

Just make sure the compliments are sincere, preferably unusual/unique and do not go overbord with them.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Give genuine, specific complements without drowning her. She'll appreciate if you notice and acknowledge the little things about her. The things that most people either don't notice or don't acknowledge.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Give genuine, specific complements without drowning her. She'll appreciate if you notice and acknowledge the little things about her. The things that most people either don't notice or don't acknowledge.

yes the little things, these are the best things to compliment. cause it will be different every time as long as you NOTICE something different about them. they will be glad to hear the compliment cause you actually pay attention to them and was sincere about it.

unless some AFC's who say you're cute or hot all the time...which gets real dull and soooo "you're no different than the pimp on the street"

 

[Porky]

A very good friend of mine recently said to me "Matt, you never compliment me. You just tease me." Since I've started complimenting her very sparingly I can tell that she really appreciates it. Just saying that I like her pants puts a big smile on her face.

If you rarely give compliments, girls know that they're sincere. It's like candy - if you get it constantly, you get sick of it. However, if you only have it once or twice a week it's a real treat.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Porky
A very good friend of mine recently said to me "Matt, you never compliment me. You just tease me." Since I've started complimenting her very sparingly I can tell that she really appreciates it. Just saying that I like her pants puts a big smile on her face.

If you rarely give compliments, girls know that they're sincere. It's like candy - if you get it constantly, you get sick of it. However, if you only have it once or twice a week it's a real treat.

hm..that sounds good, i guess i havent lost my chances yet with these HB's!! it's stil possible to catch up.

but dont you think that if you never give compliments to them. then all of a sudden you throw one or 2 at them, they think you've taken a sudden interest in them (like them)?