Is Europe A Dating Paradise For Asian Men?

[AsianPlayboy]

Having traveled to over 30 countries, I’ve seen firsthand how Asian men are treated differently in various cultures. While calling Europe a "paradise" might be rather strong (and clickbaity in all honesty), it’s undeniable that there’s a unique alignment between Asian masculinity and European cultural ideals if you don't want to limit your dating options.

Here’s What I’ve Noticed About Europe:

1. Fewer American Stereotypes: European women don’t automatically assume you’re American, they see you as Asian (whether Vietnamese, Chinese, or Korean). This means you’re perceived with curiosity and respect rather than through the filter of stereotypes influenced by Sinophobia or Hollywood.
2. Cultural Soft Power: Asian soft power, especially through things like K-dramas, K-pop, and Asian cinema, has left a positive impression on many European women. This gives Asian men an advantage that’s often overlooked back home.
3. Chivalry / Gender Norms Are Respected: European women still value acts of traditional masculinity, like opening doors, giving compliments, and dressing well. These behaviors, which can sometimes be labeled as “simping” in the US, are seen as attractive here.
4. Alignment with Beauty Standards: Asian men’s focus on grooming, fitness, and tailored fashion and less so on "bigger is better" often aligns with European ideals of attractiveness.

But let’s be clear, it’s not a cheat code. Traveling is multiplicative, not additive to an Asian man's dating successes. If you have no game in the US, you'll still have no game overseas because even if a place gave you a 125% boost, zero times 125% is still zero.

Confidence, social skills, SMV, and the ability create a dating funnel still matter.

Real Stories from Students I’ve Coached:

• Andy: Swiped his way to nearly 300 matches and had 11 dates in just two weeks of EuroTour
• Eli: After two years of no dates in the US, he matched with 100 women in weeks and had four incredible dates.
• Jason: Met a woman during the EuroTour from a cold approach and eventually married her.

Why This Happens:

• In Europe, Asian masculinity isn’t diminished by negative stereotypes.
• European women tend to value emotional intelligence, style, and effort in dating interactions.

Of course, racism exists everywhere, and Europe is no utopia. On the first two nights on EuroTour 2024, I had to take out two European dudes who were being racist to my students.

But the dating differential is tangible, and if you’re prepared with confidence, style, and social skills, you’ll notice it immediately.

Key Takeaways for Asian Men Considering Dating Abroad:

• Focus on style and grooming. European women notice effort.
• Be assertive but respectful; gender norms are generally expected here.
• Create a dating funnel to include night game, day game, and online dating / social media.
• Don’t expect the “Asian exotic” card to carry you. It’s about the way you present yourself.

Europe isn’t about being handed opportunities—it’s about having the right tools to succeed in an environment that values what Asian men naturally bring to the table.


Watch the video I made on this topic here.

 

[Westminster]

You might not want to hear this, but I'd say that Asian men generally aren't popular among European women - although there are, of course, certain exceptions.

 

[Gamisch]

European here. I have to debunk ( again and again and again) that European women are these old fashioned ready made wifes that like flowers and chivalry. Europe is the most Americanized place of all continents.

It's really popular here to say that European women are all that. They're NOT. Birthrates declining rapidly in most European countries. These opinions are mostly based on a three week vacation in one place..Europe is quite big with many cultures within cultures. That's like me going to Miami three weeks and then say American women are gorgeous, fit, ect while one third if the population is obese.

The grass is always greener on the other side...

Regarding Asian men: In my country there's a big Asian population and they never have any trouble finding women, even when they're short.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I will never understand why guys assume Asian guys have it so bad. Yes, they aren't going to get the creme of the crop blonde Margot Robbie that Chad gets, but that is with any other race. Black guys can the trashy version Margo Robbie that white men do not want to date, but that is only that. Outside that, if an Asian guy acts like the cool trending Asians, Kevin Nguyen bad boy type, or just has a non FOB personality then he will be fine in dating.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Gamisch,
Regarding "My Country",an acquaintence who has travelled the Caribbean tells me that the Chegros a Negro/Chinese cross are the most stunningly beautiful Women he has seen.

 

[Bokanovsky]

European here. I have to debunk ( again and again and again) that European women are these old fashioned ready made wifes that like flowers and chivalry. Europe is the most Americanized place of all continents.

Traditional, feminine, old fashioned values...all of those are euphemisms for "not fat". That is the main reason why American men like European women.

 

[cola]

I will never understand why guys assume Asian guys have it so bad. Yes, they aren't going to get the creme of the crop blonde Margot Robbie that Chad gets, but that is with any other race. Black guys can the trashy version Margo Robbie that white men do not want to date, but that is only that. Outside that, if an Asian guy acts like the cool trending Asians, Kevin Nguyen bad boy type, or just has a non FOB personality then he will be fine in dating.

A well educated, fit, non-ghetto black man is gonna get the same version of Margot Robbie you want .. and she is gonna make him jump through less hoops for the p*ssy too.

I hate when white men assume the white women who date black men are “trashy”..
I actually see more bombshell white girls with black guys than white guys bar hopping tbh..

Not all of us black men are in the ghetto setting cars on fire, a lot of us are successful, fit, high earning career oriented alpha males..

 

[SW15]

Black guys can the trashy version Margo Robbie that white men do not want to date, but that is only that.

A well educated, fit, non-ghetto black man is gonna get the same version of Margot Robbie you want .. and she is gonna make him jump through less hoops for the p*ssy too.

I hate when white men assume the white women who date black men are “trashy”..
I actually see more bombshell white girls with black guys than white guys bar hopping tbh..

Not all of us black men are in the ghetto setting cars on fire, a lot of us are successful, fit, high earning career oriented alpha males..

Black men can get some classier White women. Plenty of Black professional athletes get White women.

In terms of longer term relationships, I don't see that many Black men with White women. I think there's a fair amount of short term sex between Black men and White women.

These observations are more focused on what I've seen in USA major cities.

I will never understand why guys assume Asian guys have it so bad. Outside that, if an Asian guy acts like the cool trending Asians, Kevin Nguyen bad boy type, or just has a non FOB personality then he will be fine in dating.

I think this is about East Asian men and not South Asian men.

I will focus my response on East Asian men.

I have primarily seen East Asian men in USA big cities (either native born or immigrant at some point in life) with East Asian girlfriends. Many of them are STEM occupation dweebs though.

A cool looking East Asian man in the USA with a solid personality (not a stereotypical STEM dweeb guy) could get a White woman girlfriend.

 

[CornbreadFed]

A well educated, fit, non-ghetto black man is gonna get the same version of Margot Robbie you want .. and she is gonna make him jump through less hoops for the p*ssy too.

I hate when white men assume the white women who date black men are “trashy”..
I actually see more bombshell white girls with black guys than white guys bar hopping tbh..

Not all of us black men are in the ghetto setting cars on fire, a lot of us are successful, fit, high earning career oriented alpha males..

I am a black guy that grew up around rich white people. They will only go as far as fvcking black athletes behind closed doors. The second exception are white women passed the age of 40 because their racist parents and grandparents funding them are dead or senile by then. Other than that, they are dating the leftovers that white fudes don’t want. To the public eye, a you see is a pretty face and nice body with a black guy. You don’t see the skeletons and baggage that she’s hiding in her closet. This girl could be a single mom of 5 mixed kids from different black guys and have questionable mental illness, but all you see is a pretty face and nice @$$.

 

[cola]

I am a black guy that grew up around rich white people. They will only go as far as fvcking black athletes behind closed doors. The second exception are white women passed the age of 40 because their racist parents and grandparents funding them are dead or senile by then. Other than that, they are dating the leftovers that white fudes don’t want. To the public eye, a you see is a pretty face and nice body with a black guy. You don’t see the skeletons and baggage that she’s hiding in her closet. This girl could be a single mom of 5 mixed kids from different black guys and have questionable mental illness, but all you see is a pretty face and nice @$$.

idk man, this could be regional. I’m in the northeast. 3 black male friends come to mind with white wives I’d consider attractive.

2 of the guys are ex military, 1 of the guys is an engineer, all 3 workout regularly. None of the women had kids prior, mental illness I’m not sure about as people generally don’t disclose that but .. ymmv

I feel like a woman’s feelings are inside of her vagina. If you are banging her brains out, its no way she doesn’t want “more” eventually..

I feel like the barrier that stops a lot of women from ltr with black men is income because the attraction is undeniably there. White men can just often provide a better life. But when all things are equal .. I think we do just fine

 

[CornbreadFed]

idk man, this could be regional. I’m in the northeast. 3 black male friends come to mind with white wives I’d consider attractive.

2 of the guys are ex military, 1 of the guys is an engineer, all 3 workout regularly. None of the women had kids prior, mental illness I’m not sure about as people generally don’t disclose that but .. ymmv

I feel like a woman’s feelings are inside of her vagina. If you are banging her brains out, its no way she doesn’t want “more” eventually..

I feel like the barrier that stops a lot of women from ltr with black men is income because the attraction is undeniably there. White men can just often provide a better life. But when all things are equal .. I think we do just fine

I am not denying these scenarios. I am talking about black men dating the top tier country club Stacy white women. Black men can have sex with them if they are athletes or be the right place at right time, but these women will never date or fully commit to them. Hell, even the non white girls held this attitude and would only date guys of their race if they were superstars and lowered their expectations tremendously for white guys. I never started actually dating until I GTFO out of my hometown in to a more open minded city. If they choose to be with American white women, they will be limited to middle class and below. Since Asian men are more exposed to wealthier white women, they are more fooled in to thinking they can get the same Stacy their Chad friends are dating.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Black men can get some classier White women. Plenty of Black professional athletes get White women.

In terms of longer term relationships, I don't see that many Black men with White women. I think there's a fair amount of short term sex between Black men and White women.

These observations are more focused on what I've seen in USA major cities.



I think this is about East Asian men and not South Asian men.

I will focus my response on East Asian men.

I have primarily seen East Asian men in USA big cities (either native born or immigrant at some point in life) with East Asian girlfriends. Many of them are STEM occupation dweebs though.

A cool looking East Asian man in the USA with a solid personality (not a stereotypical STEM dweeb guy) could get a White woman girlfriend.

Why do you think South East Asian Men can pull better?

 

[Travel memoir21]

I am not denying these scenarios. I am talking about black men dating the top tier country club Stacy white women. Black men can have sex with them if they are athletes or be the right place at right time, but these women will never date or fully commit to them. Hell, even the non white girls held this attitude and would only date guys of their race if they were superstars and lowered their expectations tremendously for white guys. I never started actually dating until I GTFO out of my hometown in to a more open minded city. If they choose to be with American white women, they will be limited to middle class and below. Since Asian men are more exposed to wealthier white women, they are more fooled in to thinking they can get the same Stacy their Chad friends are dating.

man…lol haha these conversations are so freakin vain man

 

[cola]

I am not denying these scenarios. I am talking about black men dating the top tier country club Stacy white women. Black men can have sex with them if they are athletes or be the right place at right time, but these women will never date or fully commit to them. Hell, even the non white girls held this attitude and would only date guys of their race if they were superstars and lowered their expectations tremendously for white guys. I never started actually dating until I GTFO out of my hometown in to a more open minded city. If they choose to be with American white women, they will be limited to middle class and below. Since Asian men are more exposed to wealthier white women, they are more fooled in to thinking they can get the same Stacy their Chad friends are dating.

I honestly don’t believe that’s true. I know the type of white women you’re describing. They usually have millionaire parents.

These are the type of girls who socioeconomic status trumps all.
I believe they would ltr a black kid who also has millionaire parents, no problem. Remember, with rich people the only color is green.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I think this is about East Asian men and not South Asian men.

I see plenty of Indian & Middle Eastern guys here with MID white women. However, they can do wayyyyyy better if they stick to their race or date other brown girls, so I don’t get it. I understand why black guys date outside their race though.

 

[BadBoy89]

Regarding Asian men: In my country there's a big Asian population and they never have any trouble finding women, even when they're short.

What if they are bald?

 

[SW15]

I am a black guy that grew up around rich white people.

This is a good perspective.

I see plenty of Indian & Middle Eastern guys here with MID white women.

Mid as an exaggeration of what I have seen with Indian/Indian-American men and White women. Every White woman I've seen with an Indian/Indian-American man has been overweight.

I haven't seen enough men Middle Eastern backgrounds and White women to make an observation.

I am talking about black men dating the top tier country club Stacy white women. Black men can have sex with them if they are athletes or be the right place at right time, but these women will never date or fully commit to them.

This is close to what I have observed over time.

Most of my interactions are with bougie White women. I define as a bougie White woman as a White woman with a bachelor's degree or higher who works a basic white collar, office type job. Not all bougie women are affluent, belong to country/racquet clubs, or had parents who belonged to country/racquet clubs.

The best looking White women who are in the higher reaches of the upper middle class or the upper class (likely to have or have had some sort of country/racquet club type affiliation) are generally going to date White men. Even solidly middle class women who are in the cute range (around a 6-7.4) typically tend to stay with White men longer term.

Collegiate level Black athletes can have sex with White women on campus, especially if they have NFL/NBA prospects. This wasn't very much in the open at my college, but it happened.

At the professional level, Black athletes are having sex and sometimes getting into committed relationships with White women. There are cute and hot White women that are open to the idea of committing to a Black professional athlete (most likely NFL/NBA guy).

The majority of Black men in major cities are not NFL/NBA players.

The second exception are white women passed the age of 40 because their racist parents and grandparents funding them are dead or senile by then.

I haven't seen a 40+ White woman with a Black man but I don't regularly socialize with 40+ women. I can imagine that as possible for 40s/early 50s White women.

If an over 40 White woman starts dating a Black man, I figure it would typically be a single mom/divorcee White woman.

I wonder how often a 40+ childless White woman would date a Black man. If a woman is in her 40s-50s, her parents/grandparents are in the dead/senile stage and not likely to care about it. They also don't expect kids from her since she's gotten to age 40 and is childless.

What if they are bald?

Balding is an issue regardless of race/ethnicity. @Mike32ct is well known for promoting the idea that the Big 3 for 35+ men in attracting women are height, hair, and money.

 

[BadBoy89]

Big 3 for 35+ men in attracting women are height, hair, and money.

True.

What are the Big 3 for below 35 year old men?

 

[cola]

True.

What are the Big 3 for below 35 year old men?

Probably looks, height and social proof

 

[CornbreadFed]

Collegiate level Black athletes can have sex with White women on campus, especially if they have NFL/NBA prospects. This wasn't very much in the open at my college, but it happened.

At the professional level, Black athletes are having sex and sometimes getting into committed relationships with White women. There are cute and hot White women that are open to the idea of committing to a Black professional athlete (most likely NFL/NBA guy).

I dealt with a lot of cleat chasers on the apps. In fact, all my exes had dated athletes at some level prior to me. They "settled" for me because I was the second best option and they would start to play games as soon as their ex on the Green Bay Packers, New York Yankees, or Dallas Cowboys started following them on the gram. Most of these women just get tossed around and hope that they find the golden athlete that sticks around for her, remains an athlete, and doesn't possess the negative attributes of being an athlete....Spoiler alert, it will never happen lol.