Is DJ lifestyle healthy? For South Indian?

[Canadien]

AS it stands, I am trying to move to the DJ world, from the family oriented lifestyle, I have had many cousins to socialize, so never had a need to go out look for friends until now.

But as my cousins move away, I'm starting to take on few of the DJ features like approaching strangers in a bus, and making more connection to new peoples around me...

But, How far should I push this? I am one of those philosopher kind of guys, I believe in Buddha, and I still believe in finding that true love?

So, I pick my girls, as I want them to be smart and real, not the fake kind that surround my world with sexy clothes and makeup, is that wrong?

So, Is going to clubs and bars really healthy, especially if I don't drink alcohol?

Another question is why the need to pick up so many numbers, and girls for that matter? Why can't a person approach one girl, sincerely get her number and date her?

Can the concepts from here be applied to long term commitements? Can real relationships be formed through all the pull and push, NEG, and other stuff being posted here?

I want to have healthy family life style along with thriving career, so will moving all out to DJ world affect my future?

Sorry for being devils advocate, but this is my turning point in my life, and I need some real thoughtful advice, as everything is changing for me right now, and I just want to affirm my position and see how far I can take this new found lifestyle...

 

[Monster]

Look, only you know what you really want. The DJ lifestyle isn't for everyone. Do what you think is right.

 

[stinkyape]

But, How far should I push this? I am one of those philosopher kind of guys, I believe in Buddha, and I still believe in finding that true love?

What Would Buddha Do? :rockon:

Would you buy your one true dream car without test driving all the other options? Perhaps it'll be easier to find your 'one true love' if you first try all the options. Also, maybe your 'one true love' was some girl who blew you off/will blow you off because you don't know how to approach her. Who knows!

But, as Monster said, what I or anyone else thinks is irrelevant. It's all about what you want. Good luck, whatever you decide.

 

[Last Man Standing]

To be a DJ you must surround yourself with hors!!!

 

[lookyoung]

My advice to you would be to do what your parents want you to do and marry an indian virgin. Your mindset is not one of a DJ. Your 24 and if you don't get it by now you probably never will.

 

[Last Man Standing]

My advice to you would be to do what your parents want you to do and marry an indian virgin. Your mindset is not one of a DJ. Your 24 and if you don't get it by now you probably never will.

I concur - a virgin, in mind, spirit and body is worth more than an infinite amount of hors!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Last Man Standing]

kkh

 

[Play the Game]

My advice to you would be to do what your parents want you to do and marry an indian virgin. Your mindset is not one of a DJ. Your 24 and if you don't get it by now you probably never will.

Have you ever met an indian girl?
They have the WORST attitude, they make American women look date-able.

All their movies consist of a girl running through the fields of flowers and some poor chump chasing her around the tree.

Btw you said south indian... that means you're Tamil?

 

[nicenomore]

But, How far should I push this? I am one of those philosopher kind of guys, I believe in Buddha, and I still believe in finding that true love?

The operative word is find .. that means you have to go out and you have to approach women to find your true love..........

So, I pick my girls, as I want them to be smart and real, not the fake kind that surround my world with sexy clothes and makeup, is that wrong?

No..on the contrary , its good to have standards with women. That is not enough, though....look what they will be needing in a man ...and try to build some of those qualities in yourelf too....


And my opinion : I dont mind if girls look sexy and wear makeup..as long as they have brains to back it up...

So, Is going to clubs and bars really healthy, especially if I don't drink alcohol?

no....you dont have to go to a bar to pick up women..it can be done anyhere , while you are shopping , at work , college.etc.....Yhe only advantage of a bar is that women go to be hit upon..to meet people..thats why its kind of lttle easy...

go to the HS Forum , the guys havent stepped in a bar yet , but they are actually doing good with women too....

Another question is why the need to pick up so many numbers, and girls for that matter? Why can't a person approach one girl, sincerely get her number and date her?

So that you know what you are looking for...... the more you approach , the more you will find out how to look for the traits you look for.....

Can the concepts from here be applied to long term commitements? Can real relationships be formed through all the pull and push, NEG, and other stuff being posted here?

yup.... pull push , negs etc are required to stand out..... and to differentiate from the rest of the pack.
Also , it means that you are not going to bend to a womans whim.....and thats great...

I want to have healthy family life style along with thriving career, so will moving all out to DJ world affect my future?

The DJ world is to compliment your present world not to replace it....

hope that helps...

also lookyoung , dont flame hm for starting out late......

man is a student all his life

 

[SharinganUser]

Being a DJ isn't about picking up chicks. It's about having a good time, meeting your goals, doing things that matter, uping your value as a human being, developing connections and then getting chicks.

If you want to be a DJ, that's great, but that doesn't mean you have to become a man ***** too. That is like saying a good martial artist will have to fight a lot of people.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Have you ever met an indian girl?
They have the WORST attitude, they make American women look date-able.

All their movies consist of a girl running through the fields of flowers and some poor chump chasing her around the tree.

Not bad attitudes - but the correct attitude - put this in perspective -- women are worthy of the chase - hors are not!!!! At one time American women were worthy - today they are not!!

 

[nicenomore]

@ Play the game

Indian girls are also hardest to pick up because the culture here enforces the promusciuty of women. $ex morality in india is valued.....

thats why its hard...

but dont give a blanket generalisation that all girls here have the WORST attitude
...being an indain , i disagree....there are some cool ones too......

of course , indian movies make men potray as real AFCs though i guess that happens in hollywood too.......

 

[lookyoung]

Have you ever met an indian girl?
They have the WORST attitude, they make American women look date-able.

All their movies consist of a girl running through the fields of flowers and some poor chump chasing her around the tree.

Btw you said south indian... that means you're Tamil?

I have worked and met tons. I work with a bunch of south indians (am in the medical field LOL). My place of work is like a fvcking ***** house!!!!!

Everyone has fvcked everyone. I have never heard of an indian girl fvcking anyone although I am sure it is happening with the new school indians.

Indian girls 95% of them are better than american woman. If you don't think so than I take it you have not dealt with many indians.

 

[Canadien]

well

My advice to you would be to do what your parents want you to do and marry an indian virgin. Your mindset is not one of a DJ. Your 24 and if you don't get it by now you probably never will.

I can change my mindset to get in line with average DJ, but I want keep my obsessions in check, I am already acquainted with many new concepts reading through DJ BIBLE and this forum.

And , I already successfully approached many girls, so now the question is how much do I allow girls to get in my head emotionally, as there will be a stage when things will move to next stage, but thats when conflict will start as I am getting used to temporary interactions, and anything serious would mean changing myself once again to get out of DJ mentality.

 

[nicenomore]

And , I already successfully approached many girls, so now the question is how much do I allow girls to get in my head emotionally, as there will be a stage when things will move to next stage, but thats when conflict will start as I am getting used to temporary interactions, and anything serious would mean changing myself once again to get out of DJ mentality.

The better you get ...women become less emotionally involved....you will have one-itis....its a disease..and theres only one cure...go approach 10 other women.......

As for the question of progression to something serious...chill....you can have a one night sand also...you need not go into relatonships

 

[djtdot]

Man I totally understand your position, I was also in your position. I am a southie too, from a conservative family at that, so you can imagine what kind of restrictions I had in terms of drinking etc.

"I want to have healthy family life style along with thriving career, so will moving all out to DJ world affect my future?"

No DJ lifestyle is not about getting laid(its a part of it), the focus is not on women, its on YOU. its more about living your life to the full. This DJ thingy is a mindset you should have and should strive to be the best in whatever you do. Read Pook's Be a Man post. Its excellent.

Most people here will agree that as you progress into a relationship you have to tone down your DJ skills, not completely turn it off though.

Now I am not sure whether you are ok with one night stands or not. If you are what is the problem? If you are not then you prolly need to find a right girl to be with. You think the first girl you find tomorrow is going to be perfect for you? No right? Then do you want to waste your time on her?No right? Hence you have to date many women to see who is right for YOU.

You know sometimes I think this whole DJ philosophy and techniques is just crap. It can be summed up in three words: BE A MAN. DJ = MAN. I think DJ is just a fancy shmancy word for MAN. That's it. No tricks to it. All the techniques and stuff are useless. If you are a MAN, you should not have any problems with anything, forget about the techniques and push pull whatever. Just be a man. Now most of the guys that first come to this website are nowhere near to a man. I wasn't either and I had to change.

Being a man would take care of half of your problems. You probably would never get a oneitis coz you will prolly be busy with building your life and so on. Being a man will make you stand out from the crowd. If you noticed there aren't too many manly guys out there. So you will be unique and the chiks will be surprised when someone is manly and does not kiss their azz.

Talk to your elders(if you have grandparents I say talk to them, coz the people in those days were clear about masculinity and feminity , today its not so clear) to see how men and women should behave. Also watch some old movies and songs too. Now if you are a Tamizhan, I can recommend you some nice movies and songs to see and understand how the whole thing works.

If you read DJ bible, it says that you should have eye contact, kino and all that to make a girl develop attraction for you. There is a song from a 60s Tamil movie called Padagotti. The song is 'thotal poo malarum'. In it there is a line which says "kangal padalam kaigal thodalmal kadhal varuvadhillai" which basically means "without eye contact and without touching a girl, love won't blossom". Boom there you go, half of the bible in a line from a song from the 60s. Amazing isn't it? A few decades ao nobody needed DJ bible and stuff. It was all obvious.

 

[djtdot]

BTW if you are in Toronto, we could meet up some time.