It's really been weighing on me as a guy who's ready to settle down. I'm seeing someone right now and don't know if I actually ever want to get married.
The statistics say that the divorce rate is around 50-56%, and 80% of the time it's the woman who initiates the divorce. So considering I would likely never pursue divorce myself, if there are 100 marriages and half of them result in divorces that's 50 divorces. 40 of those divorces are initiated by women. So I would wager the probability of me getting divorced is 40% if I ignore all the individual factors of my marriage.
The thing I notice is the following which I believe contributes greatly to this statistic:
1) A lot of guys getting married aren't top tier men, physically. Out of shape, balding, unattractive face, etc.
2) A lot of guys getting married are marrying women with no jobs, or low paying jobs, resulting in financial problems for the family. This incentivizes women to divorce because they get a payout, whereas a woman who makes good money wouldn't be as willing to throw it all away just for a bit more.
3) A lot of guys getting married simply don't understand female nature. They have no game and are basically nice guys. This kills attraction.
4) The women that these guys are marrying are predatory women who slept around in their 20s and started getting desperate as they got older. They settled so they could have the wedding and the kids but didn't think things through long term.
So all that being said; can that 40% number be mitigated by the following, to the point that divorce is almost a non issue?
1) Be in the top 10% of men physically.
2) Make good money and marry a women who makes similar or even more money.
3) Understand female nature and don't be a simp.
4) Vet the woman carefully. Make sure she's not the type that slept around in her youth and tries to settle later on.
5) Stay close to her family.
I look at celebrities who have gone through divorce and it doesn't make the situation appear any better. Guys that are rich, famous, and extremely good looking are facing the same fate. Only thing I can think of is that the women they picked are trash, or that they themselves relied on being rich/famous/attractive to carry their relationship, but never developed any game.
What's the solution?
The statistics say that the divorce rate is around 50-56%, and 80% of the time it's the woman who initiates the divorce. So considering I would likely never pursue divorce myself, if there are 100 marriages and half of them result in divorces that's 50 divorces. 40 of those divorces are initiated by women. So I would wager the probability of me getting divorced is 40% if I ignore all the individual factors of my marriage.
The thing I notice is the following which I believe contributes greatly to this statistic:
1) A lot of guys getting married aren't top tier men, physically. Out of shape, balding, unattractive face, etc.
2) A lot of guys getting married are marrying women with no jobs, or low paying jobs, resulting in financial problems for the family. This incentivizes women to divorce because they get a payout, whereas a woman who makes good money wouldn't be as willing to throw it all away just for a bit more.
3) A lot of guys getting married simply don't understand female nature. They have no game and are basically nice guys. This kills attraction.
4) The women that these guys are marrying are predatory women who slept around in their 20s and started getting desperate as they got older. They settled so they could have the wedding and the kids but didn't think things through long term.
So all that being said; can that 40% number be mitigated by the following, to the point that divorce is almost a non issue?
1) Be in the top 10% of men physically.
2) Make good money and marry a women who makes similar or even more money.
3) Understand female nature and don't be a simp.
4) Vet the woman carefully. Make sure she's not the type that slept around in her youth and tries to settle later on.
5) Stay close to her family.
I look at celebrities who have gone through divorce and it doesn't make the situation appear any better. Guys that are rich, famous, and extremely good looking are facing the same fate. Only thing I can think of is that the women they picked are trash, or that they themselves relied on being rich/famous/attractive to carry their relationship, but never developed any game.
What's the solution?
