anonymous12345
Senior Don Juan
Approaching is in general risky. That's why so few men dare to, they chicken out, wanks off or swipe. It's the burden of man because of the asymmetry in interaction between the sexes. While man poses a physical threat to women, the woman is a legal and social threat to him. Many men knows this and therefore don't dare to approach (sober). In Scandinavia this isn't acknowledged in media, there's a systematic bashing of men, while women are on a pedestal. I want to do something about this at some point. But maybe we mostly need better men.
Gym or some kind of regular is in particular risky. If you mess up such that a girl complains, you're out or got no strikes left and basically have to stop at that venue. I've burned myself at night game, but I approach without a flinch at my gym. Statistics is beyond lousy, though.
In this app/pr0n and swipe age, people talk and approach less. During soon a year in two decently sized cities I've seen two men cold approach.
I got a comment from a bouncer once, and he was kinda balanced. He said a girl had complained, but as having had an impression on me (and I haven't had any alcohol) he said that I hadn't necessarily done anything wrong and that we're all being social, but that some girls are very young (18+) at that place and not used to talking.
My opener to that girl was "Nice bracelet, have you been to India?". The last comments was (me): "Hey, do you wanna talk, or?"(yeah, crappy game though) She: "No thanks, it's fine." Me: "Sure, have a nice evening", returned to the bar. Then she went to the bouncer. This is the kind of risk in a middle-sized city in Scandinavia, I'd say. I don't think it would have happened in Miami or NYC, because of more worldly city life. But hey, the greener grass.
Gym or some kind of regular is in particular risky. If you mess up such that a girl complains, you're out or got no strikes left and basically have to stop at that venue. I've burned myself at night game, but I approach without a flinch at my gym. Statistics is beyond lousy, though.
In this app/pr0n and swipe age, people talk and approach less. During soon a year in two decently sized cities I've seen two men cold approach.
I got a comment from a bouncer once, and he was kinda balanced. He said a girl had complained, but as having had an impression on me (and I haven't had any alcohol) he said that I hadn't necessarily done anything wrong and that we're all being social, but that some girls are very young (18+) at that place and not used to talking.
My opener to that girl was "Nice bracelet, have you been to India?". The last comments was (me): "Hey, do you wanna talk, or?"(yeah, crappy game though) She: "No thanks, it's fine." Me: "Sure, have a nice evening", returned to the bar. Then she went to the bouncer. This is the kind of risk in a middle-sized city in Scandinavia, I'd say. I don't think it would have happened in Miami or NYC, because of more worldly city life. But hey, the greener grass.