Is dating necessary?

[squirrels]

I was talking to a friend of mine about women...he's pretty AFC so I take everything he says with a grain of salt. But one thing he said bothers me...he "claims", based on numbers that he admits to having fabricated from a wild guess, that guys who get to know women and have relationships with them "get more" than those who just pick up a random girl every weekend.

Now I know the really refined Speed Seduction guy is going to see a LOT of action from a lot of women. But I'm talking about the more common guy, like myself, the one who doesn't necessarily devote his time to studying and refining "the art of seduction," but just wants to be a man and enjoy living and enjoy women.

If you're not an intense PUA, then is dating part of the equation? I'm not saying steady, long-term relationships, or even exclusive relationships (maybe dating 2 or 3 girls at once), but does dating a girl and getting to know her on that level necessarily increase the level of intimacy, as long as it's done in a DJ way?

I've been thinking about sex and dating as two different things...I've never been much of a "dater," mainly because most women tick me off so much that I don't like to spend a lot of time with them if it's not spent in their pants.

What do you guys think?

 

[DYDevotee]

Well, dating a woman for a while lets you get to know her much more intimately than you otherwise would have with just sex. You'll learn things about her and she'll learn things about you, She'll also become more comfortable with her body around you, and she'll be more comfortable with your body....vice versa, this can make things a lot more erotic than if you were just looking for a one time screw with some stranger, sex turns into something different then, more an expression of love than of getting off. Quite romantic.

Also, I don't want to date most women either, the trick is to find that one(or two, lets get a little nuts) that you can spend time with, and get to know, and like.

So yeah, sex and dating are different. Just having sex is animalistic, but, to open yourself up to a woman who knows you, is human. There's trust there.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

dating implies a date - meaning a time and place to meet - so obviously if u dont know her u have to date - how is it possible any other way - r u going to parachute from the sky and land on your prey like a hawk after a chicken? - then have sex with her on the spot? - b careful with this approcah - u may land on a transvestite!!!!

 

[Revlis]

I agree with DYDevotee.

Dating is really the best way to see if the girl is LTR material (if you're looking for that). You get to know what makes them tick and the intimacy can increase a lot when you know her passions through dating.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Dating really is the best way to see if your compatible together...

"I was talking to a friend of mine about women...he's pretty AFC so I take everything he says with a grain of salt. But one thing he said bothers me...he "claims", based on numbers that he admits to having fabricated from a wild guess, that guys who get to know women and have relationships with them "get more" than those who just pick up a random girl every weekend."

Somehow, this doesn't sound right to me. Being an AFC he is making the assumption that the people that pick up random girls every weekend don't stick around with some of these girls that they pick up, or that some guys date multiple women.


You've got alot of good posts, squirrel, but on this one I'm gonna have to disagree with your post.

 

[xblitz44x]

There is a connection that we've been ignoring because our ego's get in the way which are blinded by posts of self-proclaimed "DJ's" ensuring us that girls are merely glory-holes with a half a brain. I enjoy the time I spend with the girl, the laughing that we do together, the cuddling, the kissing, the passion, the meeting of each other's family, the sharing secrets - way more then I do fvcking her tits.

 

[jbbrain]

i made a thread about this not long ago

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=13337

 

[T-4ze]

I concur.

I totally agree with this idea...I might slightly be biased to it just cause that's what I'm doing right now...been dating a girl for the past two months and things are a lot more intimate when we are alone. She trusts me to the point where I can do anything I want and get away with it. I haven't used this DJ board to exactly get laid 24/7, I've used it as more of a tool to improve myself. In the end, I still apply DJ skills for the main purpose of finding a girl I can spend time with outside of the bed. =)