is confidence really all you need?

[CrazyGoNuts]

I've read up on alot of stuff that has been posted in these forums and obviously confidence the #1 thing. Looks must count for something, no? I mean I always believed that mutual attraction is necessary for something to work out. I know that, personally, I wouldnt care how confident some girl is when she approaches me if I dont find her attractive nothin is gonna happen.

Its hard for me to feel confident when I really dont think highly of myself in the appearance department. I am 6'0" and only 150 lbs and I have a big nose and I know chicks dont like it. Ive been with some cute girls before so I know its not impossible, but one has to admit it does cut your chances down quite a bit.

What does everyone else think?

 

[jbbrain]

ok, funny thing

I have a friend..from croatia..wicked guy. But thats besides the point.

He has a HUGE nose, is probbaly 5'11, around 135-140lbs..but is the snarkiest, most "no-shame" I dont give a **** kind of guy out there.

Hes not hideous, but hes not your typical "looker" either..he pulls it off because he's so comfortable with himself..

Let me tell you something..He pulls more girls than youd care to know.

If anything, listen to my story.

 

[Player_Supreme]

With women it's not just about the looks. Looks may get you looked at but if you don't have that aura of confidence and presence...you will not get your foot in the door.

I've seen an Ugly buck-toothed Mack pull vanilla women and turn them out, to where they end up giving him money and ****...This man's comment through his bucked teeth to me was "I don't fawk unless I get paid"

I think the Double Your Dating guy talks about how attraction isn't a choice in his material. He explains how attraction for women isn't about the looks.

And I've seen this guys photo...and I guess he is 100% correct...he too has quite a snozzer...as do I.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Yeah confidence is good. Would you want to hang around a girl that is always depressed/doesn't seem fun to hang out? Nope, you want to hang out with a girl that's all action and smiles right? There you go.

 

[LostbutFound]

Yeah jbbrain, I got a friend kind of like that...

Hes 27, and from Portugal. hes about 5'9" but hes got a beer belly on him, he looks like hes having a baby!!! But hes slept with over 60 something girls (this is the pimp friend I was talking about) what does he have...confidence...this kid will go up to any girl you point out without second guessing....He just dont give a sh*t.

Now hes got a close friend who is this good lookin Italian guy, muscular, ripped to the bone, got it all...but hes shy. Hes only slept with 20 somethin girls. Yeah thats still good, but if you seen these two together and you went just by looks, you would think the Italian kid has gotten with more...but he hasnt because he is shy...He kind of relies on his looks to attract them, which it has worked, but my other friend with the confidence is way up there on the score list....

 

[CrazyGoNuts]

yeah my supervisor at work is the same way, he is this short little guy from Ecuador but he gets so much ass its not even funny. Whenever girls come in to work I can see him go to work and girls love him. He always tries to "show me the ropes" or so he says but it seems like everything he says would never work even tho he has probably had sex with at least 80 girls in the last 10 years.

I guess its only a matter of time before I get my confidence built up a bit. Most of my buddies dont understand how I can talk to girls like its my job yet dont get much ass. Talkin to girls was never really the hard part, its gettin them to "want" me that I always have a hard time doin, its like they talk to me cuz I am cool but god forbid I wanted to hook up

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
With women it's not just about the looks. Looks may get you looked at but if you don't have that aura of confidence and presence...you will not get your foot in the door.

I've seen an Ugly buck-toothed Mack pull vanilla women and turn them out, to where they end up giving him money and ****...This man's comment through his bucked teeth to me was "I don't fawk unless I get paid"

I think the Double Your Dating guy talks about how attraction isn't a choice in his material. He explains how attraction for women isn't about the looks.

And I've seen this guys photo...and I guess he is 100% correct...he too has quite a snozzer...as do I.

I don't recall telling you I was ever buck toothed Playa..

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I agree confidence is a intoxicating trait to women. Looks are definitely important but if you can't match it with confidence then it won't matter at all. Good looking guys with no game will get to lay chicks simply because they're attractive, but they won't be able to keep 'em.

Now when your good looking and confident, your pretty much set, you'll get any girl you want....



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[InLawsHateMe]

Confidence is important, very important.... but you can't talk the talk, unless you walk the walk.. and again, confidence has something to do with 'the walk' too.

What I mean is.... you can talk the talk, but make sure you've walked hella lot before talking about it.

 

[Chemistry]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
Now when your good looking and confident, your pretty much set, you'll get any girl you want....

Confidence can help you negotiate looks in some scenarios but to be that god, havin both in abundance will take you places... just so happens tho that a lot of good lookin guys will fall back on their looks alone givin the ugly dude who strives to improve his game on the daily, gets that ass...

 

[Porky]

What's the most important feature of a girl to a guy? It's one of several things - ass, face, chest, legs, stomach, or (lastly?) personality.

I was talking to a girl I'm partying with this weekend. You know what the most important things in a guy are to her? Shoes, clothes, personality, face. In that order. Swear to God. SHOES.

Women don't think logically, mate.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by Porky
What's the most important feature of a girl to a guy? It's one of several things - ass, face, chest, legs, stomach, or (lastly?) personality.

I was talking to a girl I'm partying with this weekend. You know what the most important things in a guy are to her? Shoes, clothes, personality, face. In that order. Swear to God. SHOES.

Women don't think logically, mate.

You know what? Put it in her butt, and we'll see where SHOES is then.

 

[CrazyGoNuts]

even so, shoes and clothes are still a shallow way to judge people but we all do it anyways. The shallow stuff is what sparks the relationship but who you are keeps the flame strong, thats what I always say. I dont get many girls but when I do I can keep them for as long as I want. My friends on the other hand need to find new ones every other weekend sometimes.

Quality > Quantity

 

[ScrewIt]

i actually disagree, i feel a nose is the most important feature that adds or subtracts to your attractiveness

look at tom cruise. i bet if he had a smaller or different shaped nose, he would NOT be as handsome as most chicks claim him to be

Me and my bro look alike as many ppl have said, but the only differnce is that my nose is better looking than his. thus making me better looking than my bro

 

[Chemistry]

Its all proportions...

There's the kinda ideal that is portrayed in the magazines that a few people possess, but if you've got a big nose as long as that is balanced out with strong cheekbones and a strong chin then its cool... the problems come in when you've got no chin, no cheekbones AND a big nose

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Ashley Chuckles
Its all proportions...

There's the kinda ideal that is portrayed in the magazines that a few people possess, but if you've got a big nose as long as that is balanced out with strong cheekbones and a strong chin then its cool... the problems come in when you've got no chin, no cheekbones AND a big nose

good thing you pointed that out as each physical feature of the face benefits the other. it just has to be balanced out you could say

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by Ashley Chuckles
Confidence can help you negotiate looks in some scenarios but to be that god, havin both in abundance will take you places... just so happens tho that a lot of good lookin guys will fall back on their looks alone givin the ugly dude who strives to improve his game on the daily, gets that ass...

Its a good feeling to have both....



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