Is being generous to your close friends simping/weak?

SargeMaximus

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Lately I been wondering about this because I’m naturally a very giving and cheerful person and I like to be nice to people. I don’t do it to buy kindness. If people are sh*tty I just cut contact and not be nice to them anymore and idgaf, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m perceived as a nice guy because of this trait
 

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No. I think it’s only simping/weak if you are specifically doing it to seek approval. And as long as you know your boundaries and assert yourself if people try to take advantage of your kindness.
Absolutely. And I’m only kind to people I’m acquainted with. And I don’t stay acquainted with people who aren’t also civil. Thanks for the reply
 

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They may not see it as simping or weak but if it's habitual they may come to expect it.
 

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I treat people the way
I want to be treated, being polite and respectful.

Respect is a two way street.
I respect you and you respect me.
Don’t know why this is so difficult to understand.

When this doesn’t work.
I point out their disrespect, if choose to
do so in a non combative argumentative tone.

From there
I move on from them.
They no longer exist to me

Lastly,
I don’t have to respect anyone
I just have to not disrespect anyone.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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I treat people the way
I want to be treated, being polite and respectful.

Respect is a two way street.
I respect you and you respect me.
Don’t know why this is so difficult to understand.

When this doesn’t work.
I point out their disrespect, if choose to
do so in a non combative argumentative tone.

From there
I move on from them.
They no longer exist to me

Lastly,
I don’t have to respect anyone
I just have to not disrespect anyone.
You seem like an all around good.guy
That is rare these days
 

SargeMaximus

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I treat people the way
I want to be treated, being polite and respectful.

Respect is a two way street.
I respect you and you respect me.
Don’t know why this is so difficult to understand.

When this doesn’t work.
I point out their disrespect, if choose to
do so in a non combative argumentative tone.

From there
I move on from them.
They no longer exist to me

Lastly,
I don’t have to respect anyone
I just have to not disrespect anyone.
I’m with you all the way except I don’t point out disrespect. I’m not out to change people. If they disrespect me I accept and adjust. Usually this means less contact or immediate nexting
 

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I treat people the way
I want to be treated, being polite and respectful.

Respect is a two way street.
I respect you and you respect me.
Don’t know why this is so difficult to understand.

When this doesn’t work.
I point out their disrespect, if choose to
do so in a non combative argumentative tone.

From there
I move on from them.
They no longer exist to me

Lastly,
I don’t have to respect anyone
I just have to not disrespect anyone.
Man, you need a third line for the first stanza lol
 

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This is a good thread.

The West has deemed “niceness = good for mind“. It’s good for the powers that be in the West that men are nice, men are polite, there is gender equality, gender neutrality. They are trying to make men as weak and feminized as possible; Why? Keeps them in rich, keeps them in power, keeps the hot girls for themselves.

The East it’s “niceness = he is gay.” You have to be a little direct, a little rude, little to the point. As always said here, men should dress well. eat well, exercise, make money, don’t waste time, go for the girl you want.

That’s why a man should always “make a move as fast as possible.”
If he doesn’t, he could be considered somewhat “feminized“ or “gay”.
 

SargeMaximus

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This is a good thread.

The West has deemed “niceness = good for mind“. It’s good for the powers that be in the West that men are nice, men are polite, there is gender equality, gender neutrality. They are trying to make men as weak and feminized as possible; Why? Keeps them in rich, keeps them in power, keeps the hot girls for themselves.

The East it’s “niceness = he is gay.” You have to be a little direct, a little rude, little to the point. As always said here, men should dress well. eat well, exercise, make money, don’t waste time, go for the girl you want.

That’s why a man should always “make a move as fast as possible.”
If he doesn’t, he could be considered somewhat “feminized“ or “gay”.
What does any of that have to do with my OP? I’m talking about being good willed and good natured not being indirect. I’m more direct than anyone, just look at my posted text screenshots.

seriouesly baffled how you think this is relevant
 

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I have the one female friend. She needed some money because she'd started a new job and had to
switch from weekly to monthly pay leaving a shortfall for a few weeks. A hardworking Polish girl trying
to make her way in the UK, something I admire. Hooked her up with a loan so she could get to and from
work and feed herself. She transferred the money back to me today, her first pay day at the new job, text
me first thing this morning for my bank details so she could return the money. :up: I did it to help her,
not because I want to bang her, she's way too fat for my taste, and I'm nowhere nearly black enough for hers.
 

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Sometimes Im just in a generous mood. I´ll just do it and not worry about if someone thinks Im simping or weak.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

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Its fine. As long as you are not giving gifts to win favor, but because someone has your favor.
 

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Stop doin that dude. Thats a sign of weakness and i bet its a one way street. When was the last time your friends were generous with you? Exactly.
 
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