Is being a ripped guy equivalent to a girl having a hot body?

[blinkwatt]

Exactly, I'm 5'9 and 160 lbs and I NEVER get approached. A couple of years ago, when I was around 130 lbs (same height), I would get approached like every time I was alone at the bus stop or even walking on the street: I remember girls straight-up telling me "You are awesome, I couldn't help but come and meet you" or asking my friends for my number.
But hey, I was also approached by people looking for a fight, since I was pretty small, so it's better now

Something isn't right. It's really simple guys,if you look good,people will approach you. Doesn't matter what you height is(unless she is like 6 2 and your 5 5,even then I've seen it happen),nor weight.

Look at it this way,you see a chick you really think is drop dead hot,you approach don't you?

Bottom line is being in shape helps,it's not everything.

 

[eko]

girls started to notice that I've been going to the gym a lot (gained 20 lbs over 4 or 5 months) and they even thought I was threatening or something and had reservations because they thought I was a player.... one thought I just wanted to use her and didn't want to have anything to do with me... it took some time to get to know her and to let her see that wasn't the case

 

[floydtheater07]

Here's the thing. It does seem that a guy having a hot body is not the same as a girl having a hot body. Let's face it, we may eventually get into a long-term relationship with someone based on emotional factors, but we like our women to be physically attractive. I still don't fully understand the female mind, but with girls, that doesn't seem to be the case. They put more stock in other aspects of a guy. However, one of the things that girls love as confidence in a guy, especially if it is natural and not forced. Now, maybe this doesn't hold true to everyone, but I have found that when I lift and start to look good, my confidence skyrockets. I don't see the point of worrying about girls approaching you. Go out and get 'em yourself, and man, after a good workout you'll feel comfortable doing it. I'm a naturally shy person and it takes a lot to bring me out of my shell, but if I put in a good run or hit the weights, I'm out there flirting with every attractive girl I see (and scoring, of course). So yeah, lift and stay fit. It'll get you the attitude tha'll get you the girls.

 

[blinkwatt]

I'm fairly certain that women are intimidated by in-shape guys.

Just as guys are intimidated to go up to hot chicks. In the end,if you look good enough they will approach and come up to you to make comments.

 

[Interceptor]

The other day I was at Walgreens and this hot MILFy Latina cashier was totally eye fcking me whil I was walking down the asile. I pretended not to notice until I caught her looking ast my package (no, not my purchase, my meat and potatoes, fellas) and then she turned away and concentrated on the cutomer in front of her.
I thought nothing of it. By I think I might have smirked a little.
So I go up to her and this chick totally starts acting as if I'm not "that hot" and whatever. Ignoring me in such a childish manner, I thought it was hilarious. Turning her head away and not talking to me. She's interacting with me while her head is turned totally 90 degrees away from me to avoid eye contact.
INside I was laughing my ass off. And I was still polite and talking to her.
She realized what she was doing but her pride wouldn't let her just be herself
She got busted, and the she turned 180.
I tell you , it was funny.

 

[bigjohnson]

Being a rich guy or famous maybe would be closer to being a hot guy. Basically for guys looks are the #1 thing we see in a woman. What do women see in guys?

Power.
Security.
Validation.
etc.

So it's not the same, but of course chicks dig a built guy.

 

[blinkwatt]

Then I guess I look like absolute crap. Only girls that comment on my toned arms or six-pack are coworkers or friends.

Not necessarily crap,but not enough to attract attention from strangers.

Look at it this way.

You see a chick that you know at a pool wearing a two piece,she gained a little tone and definition from when you last saw her. You would comment on the gained definition if it stood out enough correct?

Now imagine seeing the same chick from a stranger's stand point. She looks hot and has a nice body. Do you have the balls to come up and say something to her?

It's easier to comment on something when you know the person,but when you put in enough time and effort random people will start coming up to you.

Hope that clears things up.

 

[Slone]

I got approached a lot more when I was 160-180 lbs. Now I'm 210 and I don't get approached as much and girls I don't know seem to check me out from the corner of their eye and hide their thoughts more. The difference now is that after I've broken the ice and started to talk to girls, now girls act like I'm much funnier and more interesting. I don't know if it's because I've gained some confidence since then or if it's that I'm bigger. Either way, I feel like girls are more intimidated initially but once they decide I'm not an arrogant **** they warm right up.

I feel like being a ripped guy is more important when you have your shirt off, otherwise being bigger is more important. Either way, a nice body can create some initial attraction and a good first impression, getting your foot in the door, but you definitely need some game to close the deal.

 

[Adone]

Look at it this way,you see a chick you really think is drop dead hot,you approach don't you?

Actually no. Most guys that actually approach girls, limit themselves to the ones that look in their league, that is 7s, maybe 8s. That's why I suppose that girls (who are usually a lot more shy than their male counterparts) will more likely approach a cute skinny guy than a cute muscular guy.
What I suppose they think is "This guy looks nice, but since he's skinny, he probably doesn't have too much confidence, so he may be waiting for a girl to approach". Au contraire, when they see a guy with the same face but a muscular body, they will think something different along the lines of "He's cute, but he probably has the balls to approach girls. So if he were interested, he would probably have approached me already".
Most AFCs who are trying to get out of their status do this also (at least, I acted like this with girls for a lot of time: I would only approach girls who looked nice but shy, because I thought they were easier to get).

 

[st_99]

Here's the thing. It does seem that a guy having a hot body is not the same as a girl having a hot body. Let's face it, we may eventually get into a long-term relationship with someone based on emotional factors, but we like our women to be physically attractive. I still don't fully understand the female mind, but with girls, that doesn't seem to be the case. They put more stock in other aspects of a guy. However, one of the things that girls love as confidence in a guy, especially if it is natural and not forced. Now, maybe this doesn't hold true to everyone, but I have found that when I lift and start to look good, my confidence skyrockets. I don't see the point of worrying about girls approaching you. Go out and get 'em yourself, and man, after a good workout you'll feel comfortable doing it. I'm a naturally shy person and it takes a lot to bring me out of my shell, but if I put in a good run or hit the weights, I'm out there flirting with every attractive girl I see (and scoring, of course). So yeah, lift and stay fit. It'll get you the attitude tha'll get you the girls.

I'd say this is very important. The fact that you think more highly of yourself is just as, if not more important, than your body.

So, yeah... I guess lifting is a WIN WIN. You're hitting girls with 2 angles now. Looks and confidence. Throw in some humor and that HB is screwed, you got'er.

 

[Interceptor]

The thing with RAFCs is that they often confuse Confidence with Arrogance.
That is not a good way of looking at things.
I'm confident and easily spotted as the Alpha in any group of people. Yet I always get IOIs from young teenies to MILFs. I'm confident, yet not arrogant.
Bottom line, I'm approachable, and I can approach when I see the right woman for me.

 

[Charm]

Being ripped is going to help you tremendously attract females. Whether it makes you equivalent to a girl is irrelevant. It will help you appear and be perceived as being more desirable by the greater majority of sexual counterparts.

 

[mrRuckus]

Actually no. Most guys that actually approach girls, limit themselves to the ones that look in their league, that is 7s, maybe 8s. .

Okay saying 7s and 8s is contradicting the first part.

The other day I was at Walgreens and this hot MILFy Latina cashier was totally eye fcking me whil I was walking down the asile. I pretended not to notice until I caught her looking ast my package (no, not my purchase, my meat and potatoes, fellas) and then she turned away and concentrated on the cutomer in front of her.
I thought nothing of it. By I think I might have smirked a little.
So I go up to her and this chick totally starts acting as if I'm not "that hot" and whatever. Ignoring me in such a childish manner, I thought it was hilarious. Turning her head away and not talking to me. She's interacting with me while her head is turned totally 90 degrees away from me to avoid eye contact.
INside I was laughing my ass off. And I was still polite and talking to her.
She realized what she was doing but her pride wouldn't let her just be herself
She got busted, and the she turned 180.
I tell you , it was funny.

I think you mispercieved this entire thing. Ego much?

 

[tmpgstx]

Aaaaah, women are funny creatures aren't they? Some will show utter disdain and be pissed off that you look good.

Being big strong and healthy appeals to the protection and masculinity elements that the more effiminate females seek out in a male.

If you are too intimidating, she has to know she can trust you. Being charming and funny get you that trust.