Is anybody here this much of a failure?

[CokeDrinker]

Today I was on the train heading home, and this tall hb 7 or so is waiting to get off, and before the train gets to her stop she turns her head around and we make eye contact stare at each other for a good 5-8 secs(she had this sorta **** me look in her eyes), like she was basically telling me to get off and talk to her, or maybe even fvck her since she had a bag of grocerys or something with her, which mean't where she lived was close by. What did I do? Nothing. I haven't had sex in forever too. WTF. I dunno she was too tall for my liking since I'm only about 5'9, but still who else is this lame? I mean damn even though I get girls checking me out often enough, I don't often get a blatant come on like that.

 

[Mavrick]

We've all been there, but you have to confess to yourself that p*ssy ain't going to be throwing itself at you. You gotta work for it. You have to get out there and try. You have to start conversations. It's you that has to do this. Without trying, you'll end up with whatever comes to you. Which probably won't be much.

 

[horaholic]

A lot of us on here would have chickened out too. Thats why we are all here. I'd like to say that from what I've learned, I would have made the move, but sometimes, I dont go for it either. I was cashing my paycheck at a casino a few months back and I was walking back out, and some good looking chick sitting at a slot machine was staring at me. I wanted to go for it, but I was in my painters clothes, and felt like I just looked like dogshyt, so I just smiled and kept going. This is weird, cuz I met the hottest girl I've ever dated in my painting clothes. It was different though, cuz it was at my local bar, and it was summer, so I was t-shirt and shorts, and not paint covered winter hat, and a dirty nasty painters coat.

You need to get out and start approaching. Every girl you see. Even if it is just saying hi, and walking away. Get used to it, then you will NEVER miss an opportunity like that again. Also, you will be making your own opportunities.

EDIT: Cokedrinker. Dont forget about the missed connections board on craigslist. You have nothing to lose by posting there. Hell, she might post one for you. I check that out every day.

 

[Furyguy]

You need to get out and start approaching. Every girl you see. Even if it is just saying hi, and walking away.

Yeah.

I say hi to every girl that makes eye contact with me. It's habit now.

I was that much of a failure, before, too! Some of us just end up that way without realizing what happened. Now I'm only slightly a failure. It gets better.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Like these guys said,,we've all been there,,so it's natural to have that kind of mental block or something or whatever u wanna call it happen.

I believe someone said that it's all about confidence or feeling confident. The more experience you have with something,,the more confidence you get.

It sounds like since this hb totally caught you offguard (you never had this exact situation before),,you lost your confidence for a moment. Happens all the time. Next time you'll do better,,I can guarantee that. Meanwhile,,like Fury mentioned,,if you want to improve yourself at this,,just say Hi to every girl you make eye contact with until it becomes a habit. Or my personal favorite,,after eye contact walk up to her and say: "Do you want to say hi or continue flirting from a distance?"

 

[edger]

I was cashing my paycheck at a casino a few months back and I was walking back out, and some good looking chick sitting at a slot machine was staring at me. I wanted to go for it, but I was in my painters clothes, and felt like I just looked like dogshyt

And these guys say what a guy wears matters

Anyhow, to the original poster, I chicken out all the time like this, and then kick the sh*t out of myself.

 

[MisterMcGee]

painters garb is hot cause its raw, just like construction dudes. so yes, what you wear counts.
dont think youre proving anything right/wrong cause of one example. do you know what proof means? evidence? logical thought processes that lead to proving or disproving a hypothesis?

 

[edger]

do you know what proof means? evidence?

I think the proof is clear in what he wrote, as well as what I've been able to see on account of my own observations while in the field too. So there's your "proof".

 

[ElStud]

Just go up there man. It isn't that difficult. And you're a failure cause you didn't talk to one girl? Wow man lol you've got some confidence issues. If she blows you out, great. Guess what man I get blown out all the time. But the thing with me is, I don't let it affect and I go up to other sets right after that and get interest. If she tells you to f*ck off there are still millions of other beautiful women in the world to talk to.

 

[horaholic]

Just go up there man. It isn't that difficult. And you're a failure cause you didn't talk to one girl? Wow man lol you've got some confidence issues. If she blows you out, great. Guess what man I get blown out all the time. But the thing with me is, I don't let it affect and I go up to other sets right after that and get interest. If she tells you to f*ck off there are still millions of other beautiful women in the world to talk to.

If she's giving fvck me eyes, and still blows you out, or tells you to fvck off, you have SERIOUS issues. I cant count how much pvssy I've passed up from girls eyeballing me, and being too much of a douchebag to go talk to them. Im WAY better now, it just took me thirty freakin years to get it!

 

[Freeman]

Today I was on the train heading home, and this tall hb 7 or so is waiting to get off, and before the train gets to her stop she turns her head around and we make eye contact stare at each other for a good 5-8 secs(she had this sorta **** me look in her eyes), like she was basically telling me to get off and talk to her, or maybe even fvck her since she had a bag of grocerys or something with her, which mean't where she lived was close by. What did I do? Nothing. I haven't had sex in forever too. WTF. I dunno she was too tall for my liking since I'm only about 5'9, but still who else is this lame? I mean damn even though I get girls checking me out often enough, I don't often get a blatant come on like that.

Like others have been saying-it happens man-trust me I know-but dont start on that "Im a Loser sh^t" please man-what you gotta do is take that anger you have about passing up that opportunity and use it-so the next time you wont let that BS happen