Is a relationship a waste of time?

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Questions tend to end in a question mark. If it ends in a period it's a statement.
Maybe you should read a book on punctuation.
In written text, if a sentence starts with an interrogative word, most likely it will end with a question mark. But not all questions end with question marks. Some rhetorical questions do not end with question marks but rather with periods. Same with requests which when written, also end with a period.

Too bad, we have to do this here but since you insist on trying to be a smart-ass then keep going.
 

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For the majority of men, a relationship is not a waste of time. The majority of men need to get into some sort of relationship to get sex on a regular basis. Very few men are able to get regular sex without the relationship. Life is better with regular sex.
I had regular sex without being in a relationship for a long time.

But I get your point.
It can be challenging to remember that SoSuave forum participants are not a representative sample of men as a whole. The typical man with a blue pilled ideology towards relationships and who is a beta male never discovers this forum.

If the typical beta male isn't in a relationship, he's often swiping profusely on one or more of the apps trying to get dates. He might be going to bars and doing approaches though that behavior has diminished in the last 10-15 years. He's likely not doing any non-bar approaching of strangers (daygame). While he's swiping his life away, he's also an OnlyFans simp and/or compulsive porno tube website masturbator.

If a beta male manages to get into a longer term non-marital LTR, he's getting more sex though he likely had to lower his standards far enough in his swiping to get something. He's a pussie beggar. He might have even had to settle for a single mom if he's a 30s/40s guy with a woman close to his own age. Beta males who are in LTRs with childless women are often thinking about when they have to put a ring on it to keep the sex going.

If a beta male gets married, the relationship often decays into a lower sex relationship, especially after 1-2 children. The beta might start watching OnlyFans and porn more.

Most betas will need a relationship to get whatever sex that they can find. Most men are pussie beggars who settle for whatever mediocre to subpar pussie close to their own age that they can get, often from profuse app swiping.
 

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Long term relationships seem like a waste of time.

I can't find the meaning anymore of being in a relationship long term or even in a marriage unless you really find your soulmate.

I always said that a marriage is like a business in Cyprus. You get married and you invite 300 people that must come with at-least a minimum of 200-150 euros in an envelope to give it to the couple at the wedding.

Pretty good business don't you think?

You spend 30k on a weeding. You make 50k.

People tell me I'm crazy or out of the line. Yes, people who are religious and attend church every Sunday like a good slave. I was never into religion anyway, I don't believe that, I believe in science and physics.

I have been in various relationships through out my life and each time I was entering one I was feeling that I was wasting my time unless I was really happy and my soulmate was a high achiever as I was.

Being alone for the rest of your life is not probably a good strategy. I'm not saying that. You will have to leave a legacy at some point before you leave this planet.

A son or daughter yes, go ahead.

But unless you are going to be 100% happy in what ever relationship or marriage you are please eject and leave. Focus on what you want and if you want to be an astronaut then go for it.

You have one life, you should enjoy it 100% to it's fullest potential.

And I'm out.
I’m in one rn and the girl I’m with is amazing. It took countless heartbreaks and going through women to find her. She doesn’t have any red flags. Only thing I’d change is if she was a virgin but we can’t always get our way.
 

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If you get a partner out of it, someone that you know deep down is a ride or die even if you don’t stay that way emotionally, I think it’s worth it. I think my standard of trust is indescribable relative to what the average person is though and my ability to form relationships as a result is really low. My childhood was a disaster in the emotional leadership department
 

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Only idiots spend 30K on weddings. Smart people do it for 10K or less and make way more than that in wedding gifts so essentially it's free and the extra money can be used for whatever they want.
 
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