DoubleA said:
Besides, Fuxxx
How many guys or gals ..
Have moved in with ya "friend" and made a success of it?
I want to know and how long before it ended?
This is Real Talk. I'm starting to get the feeling members on the board are cutting up. It's OK to have the ONE STRIKE RULE; however, I wonder how do we move into the next stage without PARANOIA.
Someone tell me how it's done.
- AA
Let's see...
When I was 19, I went to a college with crappy dorms, 40 guys to one bathroom, and had an annoying roommate, but I happened to find one of the very few girls who had an off-campus apartment (rule violation, church college). That was a success, at least until school finished and I went back home.
Then I shacked up with a woman at the next college I went to after being together about four months. We got married three months later, mostly to get student loans for me and in-state tuition for her. Both of us came out ahead simply for the technicality of being married. Her rich family paid our rent for years and would often fly us down to the Caribbean resort they owned. Seven years later, she cheated a bunch and divorced me, but we had no kids and she paid for the divorce. I was already living 1,000 miles away from her, and I was upset, but it was really no big deal. Today, we are still friends. My girlfriend and I went out to eat with her in March when we were on vacation. I take satisfaction in her wanting me back very badly and regretting the divorce.
Then, last year, I moved in together with another girlfriend. Both of us have already been married, so we don't really care about that. I knew this girl from high school - she was my first real girlfriend when I was 16. Right after we moved in together, I lost my job and she paid all my bills for about six months until I got a new job. We rarely fight and have crazy sex every day. So yeah, things are pretty good.
As for "how it's done," I can only say that you just have to be good with women. I really believe that I could always find a woman to take me in and support me if I ever had to. I think the skill is mostly understanding the way that woman experience emotion, and the manner in which emotions rule their lives. These emotions are often like the weather, and there is no changing them. Don't hold a woman's emotions against her, because she did not choose them. Then learn that everything you say and do will push certain emotional buttons. These buttons are very powerful. When you learn to manipulate them, she will do whatever you like.