IOI Or Emotional Tampon?

[NorPacWolf]

Here's a snippet from a recent FR. Did I become this girl's emotional tampon, or was she telling me to make a move because she's now single? My wing and I recently met up with three girls (HB8.5 blonde, HB8 brunette, heavy set girl) we had number closed recently. We all meet up at a bar (meat market venue), and the blonde begins complaining to me about how it sucks that her boyfriend has recently moved away. She also begins hitting me a lot and just seems very frustrated overall: yelling, cursing.

Help me decipher this situation. My sense in retrospect is that this girl was begging me to close her. However, I was not the one who convinced her to come out. In fact, the blonde didn't return my call or text message so I wasn't sure if she was interested. Granted, I barely spoke to her last time I saw her, mainly because her boyfriend was there.

My wing got her out by getting the heavy set girl to convince all three to come out. Once we're there, I don't know how to proceed. It's a date, but I've barely spoken to the three prior to this night. So, am I in attraction (probably) or comfort? How to proceed?

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FR: THE THREE GIRLS:
...The blonde and I stand to the side. I just start to fluff with her and kino her. I put my arm around her waist and talk into her ear. I ask her about her job, and how things have been going since we've last seen them. She leans in talks into my ear also since it's so loud.

She complains about the fact that she's recently single.
blonde: "my fvcking a--hole boyfriend left me!"
me: "what?" I say in mock astonishment.
blonde: "yeah, he fvcking left me to go to california! a--hole!"
me: "that totally sucks!"
blonde: "...what's wrong with these girls around here? don't they know how to say excuse me?"
me: I start laughing.
blonde: "that's not funny! how does that feel?!" she shoves me hard with her forearm into my ribs. It's pretty painful. I push her back, gently.

The blonde continues to hit me hard, slapping me with her hand several times on my chest and arms. She just seems really upset by the fact that her man is gone.

The girls decide they're going to go back to the bar. K decides that the sarge with the three girls is over. My assessment is that while things are a bit tentative and awkward, I think it's normal for things to be a bit awkward at first. K repeats that he thinks that he's out and can't make any more progress with the girls. He wants to do a takeaway by not talking to the girls. Sarge over...

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Conclusion:
1. the girl makes a point of it to let me know she's single.
2. the girl lets me know she is not happy about being single.
3. the girl kinos me quite a bit, in the manner mentioned above.

Question: how should I have played this situation?

PS: all three girls seemed really passive, waiting for us to lead and make a move or to tell them to do something...


Wolf

 

[Desdinova]

The blonde continues to hit me hard, slapping me with her hand several times on my chest and arms. She just seems really upset by the fact that her man is gone.

This girl is an a55hole, and you shouldn't be tolerating this kind of 5hit from her, no matter how mad she isn't at you. NEXT.

 

[flexion_]

If a woman is talking about another guy it never looks good. And when they talk about another guy and hit you.. well...

You aren't going to figure out much until you isolate her.

 

[Phyzzle]

Dude, you've only met this girl once, for like 5 minutes.

You only met ANY girl once, for like 5 minutes.

I'm telling you, you've got to learn how to have a normal fvcking conversation outside of a club. With a female.

 

[grinder]

One behaviour that seems consistent with girls from the 3rd grade on up is: If they hit you they like you!

Don't sympathize or empathsize unless you want to be her best GIRLFRIEND!

You don't have to tell her to shut the fu*k up, but redirect her complaining to you and she getting to know each other and having fun.

Too much analysis: As has been said here many times, the only way to find out is to make a move!

You can decide if she's a crazy-flake later....

 

[Latinoman]

This girl is an a55hole, and you shouldn't be tolerating this kind of 5hit from her, no matter how mad she isn't at you. NEXT.

I agree.

 

[NorPacWolf]

Mystery Solved

I came across a post from Tyler Durden about "buying temperature" which basically addresses my situation exactly. His basic idea is that girls want to maintain some level of self control in the presence of a sexually attractive man, lest they release their inner slut all too quickly. There's even an example which is basically identical to the one I posted about: a girl was reaching buying temperature so fast, she started punching a guy to make him go away (i.e., anti slut defense).

This explains why I am getting punched so often, slapped, sh1t tested so frequently. These girls are READY FOR SEX. They are trying to buy themselves some time so that they can defer sex and not look like a total slut. Durden's post is a great read:

http://www.mysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=91

Too bad this girl succeeded in getting me off her ass. Grrrrr..... I'm not listening to you guys anymore. On a positive note, I feel comfortable assuming attraction. The evidence is overwhelming.

Wolf

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BUYING TEMPERATURE LEVELS:

-enough for her to sit there while you game her
-enough to show an IOI like a giggle
-enough to show an IOI and kino you
-enough to show alot of IOIs and ask you questions
-enough for you to venue change her
-enough for you to kino HER, and give her IOIs, and she still likes it (usually after qualification phase, because she now feels she EARNED your attention, rather than you just want to fvck her like every other guy on the planet)
-enough for you to get physical with her
-enough for you to fvck her


As EACH Buying Temperature increase, the chick will usually SH1T TEST you, as a way of TRYING to throw herself OUT OF STATE. She sh1t tests by doing things that if you react too seriously, she'll get upset and therefore be thrown out of state. By passing sh1t tests, Buying Temperature is AMPLIFIED. This is like when Eddy (whitedragonPUA) posted about his HBRugby Lay report She kept punching him all night. After he laid her, he asked her why. She said "I just thought you'd go away"... She knew she was hitting buying temperature, and didn't want to succumb to it so she sh1t tested by hitting him and hoped that he would back off and she would come down. Think back to when you tried to kiss a girl on a date, and she said "NOT YET". She doesn't mean NO. She ONLY means "I'm not at buying temperature yet.. Give me more gaming". Likewise, you try to venue change a girl, and she says "No. But I still want to talk to you". You keep gaming her, and a few minutes later you change venues. This was because you tried to ESCALATE PRIOR TO ATTAINING THE RIGHT LEVEL OF BUYING TEMPERATURE....