Involved With An Older Woman--part Threeee...help

vs3

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ok guys
a billion thanx for openinig up my eyes. but.......i still believe that i shud go on. jus c this.....i called her up n asked her out for some coffee, instead she asked me to come over at her place for the same (coz she was alone), the next day if she was free. she said she wud call me up to tell me if she was free. (coz she has a business to look after as well). the next day she called up but said her friends r coming over for lunch. i said fine then make it some other day. she said ok. i hung up the phone. now shud i call her again to ask if i cud come over? or shud i wait for her call? or is there anything else u guys suggest? coz i feel this is my best chance till date to get physical with her. wat say?
 

Pimp-sicle

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Oh my what a AFC!!!

Bro she called like she said she would and said she has plans. This is classic chick games at its best. In all likely hood she knows you want her and she's trying to amplify that by being unavailable right away.

A DJ would wait this situation out for a couple of days. If you don't hear from her then MOVE ON!! DJ's don't chase girls around and beg for attention. And if you don't change your desperate attitude your going to blow any chance you had with this broad.


Just relax and let things happen bro. And you should be talking to 3 or 4 other girls anyways, are you really that AFC??


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vs3

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hey i know her more than u do, don't i?

hey pimp-sicle
wat u said might b true but not in my case. i may b losing her but i still feel i can pull it off. suggest something practical abt wat i shud do next.
 

Gangster Of Love

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Dude,

why are you still trying to find ways? you only want replies that tell you what you want to hear. Yes, you know her more than any of us, but the AFC shades are imparing your vision and objectivity. It is so clear to anyone here. Listen to me now kid. She is trying to avoid you, avoid contact with you. But she won't come out and say it, so she has to find ways to make it seem inconvenient. Stop it now!!!! Stay away. You are starting to suplicate. Remember Ross Jeffries' quote:

"He who suplicates, masturbates."


The only chance, if there is any left, is for you to walk away, and be ready to never look back. If she cares, sooner or later she will reach out. But don't count on it, move on, get better; learn a new skill.
 

Walden

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Vs3 I don't mean to be uncool here but read that post , a man doesn't think that way.
 

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vs3, how old are you?? How old is this chick youre talking about??
 

Jet Jockey

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vs3:........ Notice something here...She only wants to "get together, when she is really bored. If she has other friends, or anything else, to do "she can't make the time.

Personally I think you need to read the Bible. I am not trying to be harsh here, but I can't tell you what you want to hear, cuz it isn't reality. If you call her, you may or may not get laid, but I can gurantee you one thing. You will come across as someone who has nothing to do but think of her. I think you'd be stroking her ego.

If you would just read the Bible....

Here is a excerpt from something you would find there....It is by Pook. it applies here to your situation. now read carefully and let it soak in.

Being a Don Juan is not a net sum of smooth manuevers and methods but of your own outlook on the world and on women. ANYONE can memorize 'techniques', but FEW can change the way HOW they think. Women will be able to sniff out the former. But with the latter, women will be clawing each other for you.

A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.

This must be stated because it brings us to the subject of 'desperation'.

In the end, we are all desperate with desire. We wouldn't be looking for tips and answers if we did not desire a girlfriend or MULTIPLE girlfriends (being a bit ambitious, aren't we? http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/wink.gif). We all want a woman (or women http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/smile.gif), but our desire and feelings brings out the desperation traits within us.

Where I work, I ask the women why they found a co-worker to be so desperate. Here are some of their answers:

-always giving the women attention.
-calling all the time (and calling immediately once getting the number, immediately returning a call, etc.)
-taking every opportunity to talk to them (and telling everything about yourself)
-always available.
-NEVER willing to walk away (NEVER willing to disagree, ALWAYS supplicating).
-etc.

What theme can we find in the above? It is that the man puts the woman on the pedestal rather then himself.

Imagine if a woman did all of the above to you. Imagine if a woman was OBSESSED with you, always calling you, always available, and always spending her free time FOR YOU. Any interest you had for this woman would soon evaporate. Why? Because in your own mind you are thinking two things: "No one else must want her," AND "If I can get her OBSESSED about me, I know I can get BETTER girls to be interested in me." Her desperation is turning you off. The same is true for women.

Women are not attracted to desperate men. Period. I've told my co-worker this and his response: "Well, that is just who I am." Eventually, he will realize that the only common denominator in his pattern of crash and burns will be HIM. So if anyone has told you that you're desperate, consider that its true.

There is a KEY to removing desperation forever. There is no simple 'trick' that will kill the desperation. It will not be in how you dress, how you talk, or where you go for dates. No, the KEY is in how you think.

The KEY to killing desperation (and attracting crowds of women) is to THINK and BELIEVE that you are The Great Catch.

Desperate guys do not do this. They see the woman as the prize rather then themselves. They see that the woman must be 'wooed' rather then them. They will, thus, supplicate and become a 'nice guy'. (And nice guys finish LAST.)




Get the picture????? It's a learning process. But you have to excercise control and will power. Best of luck to ya!!!
 

Howie Farkes

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You're not in a place where "getting physical" is gonna be easy (or even possible) to achieve. When a chick digs ya it all becomes easy - trust me. When she wants to get jiggy she'll let you know in no uncertain terms.

Unfortunately for you, this woman has no problem ditching you for her friends or whatever. Point being she finds other things more compelling than your company so you're in a hole that's difficult to dig your way out of - and I don't know how to help you with that.
 
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