Invited a chick to go see a movie; she didn't come

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She's given me a few signs of interest, she gets shy around me and laughs pretty hard at basically anything I say. We also have message fests on Myspace where she'll call me a "pimp" and **** so I figured why not give her a shot.

I don't know about the whole come over for dinner and watch a movie thing. Seems more like a 2nd/3rd date type of thing
 

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I talked to her today in class.

"So how was Norbit?"
"Huh"
"Norbit!"
"Oh haha, Norbit, were you too cool to show up or what?"
"haha no, I had plans like watching the Grammy's"
"ooooh yeah? Did Peter Frampton win?"
"I'm not too sure"

Then one of her girlfriends chirps in about Justin Timberlake so I left that conversation. We had a few more brief, funny, light conversations. I could honestly see me going out with this chick in a couple of weeks.

I don't think she's going to do anything tonight, and was thinking about mentioning if she wanted to get a bite to eat tonight but decided not to.
 

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Straight up burn. She chose the Grammys over you.

Next time be more personal.

Hey ____ I'm going to see Norbit tonight at 7, would you like to join me?

It's better to address women directly.
 

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itishe said:
I'm still legally defined as a child, so I figure I got another year to act like one. :moon:

The sooner you act like a MAN, the sooner you will get the p00n, so you're only hurting yourself there, junior.
 

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I'm hungry, think I should invite her out to eat tonight or wait a little longer seeing I last asked her out on a date on Sunday?
 

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I think I figured it out.

This girl is good friends with my ex, just as the chick I hooked up with two weeks in a row was. This girl has moral standards and I'm sure wouldn't dare do anything with me as long as she percieves there to be a connection between my ex and I. Even after that I'm sure she won't do anything because that would be betraying her friend.

God damnit!
 

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I'm really starting to communicate with this girl more.

That and she's going to Prom with me now.

She's really self-concious so any attention I give her she revels in.
 
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itishe said:
There's this girl I have in a few of my college classes. She's shy, and in my eyes very attractive and she's never had a boyfrience since 5th grade so I figure why not give her a shot. She's came to one of my parties and we talk once and a while, along with alot of commenting/messaging on Myspace so it's not like it was a cold approach.

Anywho I sent her a text tonight, here's how the conversation went:

"A few of us are going to Norbit at 7 if you want to come"

She replies, "Who's all going, and what message were you talking about"

"Luke, Kyle, Me and maybe Francine"

and after that she never replied. Ignore the "message" part, but is there anything I could of done better?
This is weak!!!!!!!! Why are you associating with the aggregate ??

Ask her to see you in isolation and on your terms!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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itishe said:
I'm hungry, think I should invite her out to eat tonight or wait a little longer seeing I last asked her out on a date on Sunday?
Thinking with your stomach, aye? That's good. Now act on it. Don't overthink it. If you wanna eat out, go for it. Stop waiting on us to tell you how to do everything.

Prom? Oh, that's so sweet :p White tie and white shirt with black suit is really in this season! Remember that.

You say she revels in your attention? Hmm... guess the young ones are like that. But that shouldn't mean you give it to her constantly. Make her work for it. She'll feel good around you.

Most importantly... focus on having fun and doing things you enjoy. As soon a you start overthinking it and planning it like a game of chess, you'll find you're not as powerful anymore.

Oh? And you say she wouldn't do anything to hurt her friend? Little dude, you need to realize the power you can have over women.

Watch the linked video of David D. (No one flame me for that... he makes a good point.)

Just learn to be a man, like so many have already just told you. Research this website for that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mV_9f4xvpzI
 

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itishe said:
I think I figured it out.

This girl is good friends with my ex, just as the chick I hooked up with two weeks in a row was. This girl has moral standards and I'm sure wouldn't dare do anything with me as long as she percieves there to be a connection between my ex and I. Even after that I'm sure she won't do anything because that would be betraying her friend.

God damnit!

You obviously don't know women then. Girls as you've probably read a million times before are led into decisions based on their emotions, aka how they feel. If you know how to create attraction and escalate those feelings, she will justify her actions by saying she "couldn't help the way she feels."

Also the fact that you were with one of her friends, and hooked up with another only elevates your social value in her eyes. Girls are curious creatures by nature, they want to figure out what the big deal is about someone/something. Use this to your advantage and stop chasing her. Show interest, be confident and lastly STOP TEXTING HER WHEN YOU ASK HER OUT!!




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Today she texted me, but I didn't get it to later. Anywho I replied, and I asked her what she was up to. She asked me then, then proceeded to ask me what I'm doing this weekend. I told her we should hang out, she said that'd be cool and then asked what I wanted to do.

Booyah.
 

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itishe said:
Today she texted me, but I didn't get it to later. Anywho I replied, and I asked her what she was up to. She asked me then, then proceeded to ask me what I'm doing this weekend. I told her we should hang out, she said that'd be cool and then asked what I wanted to do.

Booyah.

That's cool bro, but I still think your only strung up in a knot over this girl. If she called you tomorrow and said she only likes you as a friend, you'd be devastated. Also, learn to lead and take charge, rather than the other way around. You could dominate this girl with a little game.




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I suggested going to a party with me or going to a show. She said, "a movie sounds good!!". I replied, "alright sounds good, I'll call you this weekend".

I'm not tied in a knot with this chick, I'm just showing enthusiasm. I wouldn't be devestated if I got the friends speech, one because I know it won't come, two because I'd just go for some more of my ex's friends.
 

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itishe said:
She's shy, and in my eyes very attractive and she's never had a boyfrience since 5th grade so I figure why not give her a shot.
This is what you're led to believe.

itishe said:
She's came to one of my parties and we talk once and a while, along with alot of commenting/messaging on Myspace so it's not like it was a cold approach.
With all these channels for attention ho'ing are you sure she is available as you describe?! LOL!

itishe said:
Anywho I sent her a text tonight, here's how the conversation went:

"A few of us are going to Norbit at 7 if you want to come"

She replies, "Who's all going, and what message were you talking about"

"Luke, Kyle, Me and maybe Francine"

and after that she never replied. Ignore the "message" part, but is there anything I could of done better?
Seems like you were txt'ing her before.

BTW, you're out and I will tell why. You pre-qualified her as being something that she is definitely not. If she is very attractive as you described she has some attention. Heck, if she is at college age she will get attention even being ugly.

You throwed Z- game just out of laziness and hoped you were the only one giving her a shot.

Damn this game is getting old fast... "shy", "nice" girls. Gaaah.

You say you got her hooked, so I may be wrong. Here it is anyway...
 

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itishe said:
I suggested going to a party with me or going to a show. She said, "a movie sounds good!!". I replied, "alright sounds good, I'll call you this weekend".

Why are you suggesting to take her to a party?? So all the other c*cks can chase after her?? LOL If your going to truly GET this girl you need to elevate the existing attraction, that's what I meant by leading. So far she's calling the shots no matter what you think. Second of all its never a good idea to hangout with a chick on the weekends in the beginning. Go out during the week, especially if your just going to see a flick.

I'm not tied in a knot with this chick, I'm just showing enthusiasm. I wouldn't be devestated if I got the friends speech, one because I know it won't come, two because I'd just go for some more of my ex's friends.

Maybe you misunderstood me a bit. What I meant by "tied in a knot" is too interested too fast. Does that make sense? When you lead with your emotions you turn into the girl and your judgement gets clouded. Things might seem fine right now but if you don't take charge soon this flame will fizzle.




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Ok boys, let's hear it. What should I do from this point on? No matter what I do, I do like a girl, lazily, don't pick the right day, got the wrong mindset.

I have a date set up with her, I don't know if you want me to pull some James Bond suave off or what, but tell me Master Pimps what I should do now.
 

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Well I got a date this weekend with her at a movie. Any tips? I'm gonna try to get a kiss close or perhaps even a make out session going.
 
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itishe said:
Well I got a date this weekend with her at a movie. Any tips? I'm gonna try to get a kiss close or perhaps even a make out session going.
Hey bud, how old are you?
 
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