Introduction

[judoguy869]

Wuts up guys?

I just wanted to introduce myself... I have been browsing these boards for a while but just made an account.

A little about myself I went from a 2 1/2 year relationship, spent one month single and I am now currently in a 3 year relationship. It is hard though because she wants to settle down and I still feel like I am way to young for the wife and kids thing. It is a sticking point between us, she says she is willing to wait however, so we will see.

Anyways I am like 5'9" , 170 lbs... compete in Judo (practice 4 x a week) and lift weights. I currently attend a military academy after spending a few years at a civilian UNI, (Rutgers) and 2 and a half years in the Army. I know some of you are against the military but it is my life choice and I did not come here to debate about it, although I am open - minded to many views.

Just wanted to give you a brief intro about myself, lately I have been trying to talk to more women because I have zero women friends. I used to have the attitude of "**** you, I have a girlfriend get away from me you dumb slut", haha it was the ultimate challenge. It never worked though.

I have been trying to get some sort of social life back together in case this relationship goes south so I do not have to start from scratch with no social circle. It has been going hard tho.... alot of the women make it hard to talk to them and although I try to "confidently pursue" I feel as though I am coming off as a "creeper" or "stalker".

I will post the email I wrote to this one girl in my class, do not rip me apart too bad.

" Wussup Gina ?

How was your weekend? Mine was awesome. I went to the city and met up with some friends, it was really fun.

How has track practice been? Its soooo cold outside, I dont know how you do it !

Judo is fun , but its really tough on the body. Anyways, I was gonna call you but I am so busy this weekend so I figured I would just shoot you an email to see what is up.

TTyl

p.s you looked really cute in class on monday even though I saw you trip haha
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ok well let me know what you think.

thanks.

 

[judoguy869]

oh yea, i forgot to say that I wrote this on Sunday afternoon and she still hasnt responded haha.

she is about a 7, nice tight body, runs cross country, shy, 19 yrs. old

 

[horaholic]

Honestly, it sounds like something one of her girlfriends would have wrote to her. Im not ripping on you, just offering constructive criticism.

How was your weekend? Mine was awesome. I went to the city and met up with some friends, it was really fun.

How has track practice been? Its soooo cold outside, I dont know how you do it !

Lets be honest. Neither one of you care about each others weekend. You dont care about her track practice, she doesnt care about your judo. You want to avoid questions like that. Especially through an email. I think that email was a good sized step towards the friend zone.

You should have went straight to the phone call, teased her a little, and made her laugh, kept it short, and invited her to come along with you (insert date idea here. Preferably, an action date) on some night. Read the DJ bible, and study up on C+F. Keep in mind, you're a big, strong, military, judo guy. You have to realize how intimidating that can be. You need to emphasize playful, smiles, fun, and humor as much as possible. Make her feel safe to be with you. You definitely have the 'protector' vibe going for you, just make sure she doesnt have to worry about YOU. If you give off a creepy, stalker vibe, its bad enough, but couple that with your military/judo background, and you will be avoided like the plague. Give her the 'big teddy bear, that you dont want to fvck with,' impression. Some girls like the badass, tough guy thing, but if you're not careful, you might scare them off.

Good luck

 

[judoguy869]

thanks for the advice. It just sucks because she didnt even awnser me haha

I try to come off as friendly and smile, but its hard when she doesent even want to talk to me

oh well , I guess Ill just chalk it up to a learning experience

 

[The Bat]

Yeah bro fvck the email thingy. You got to grab your balls with one hand, and pick up and dial her number on your phone with the other hand.

You did too much BSing in the email. Just remember not to do that on the phone next time. Go straight for the kill.

And how is that relationship going aside from the fact that she wants to tie the knot? Any stumbling blocks or obstacles? Reason I ask is because there may be some, and you aren't telling us or you are denying them yourself, otherwise you wouldn't feel the need to sign up and start posting on a seduction forum.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Didn't you say that you are in a 3 year relationship and just wanted to make female friends?? I'm confused about the purpose of that email.

If you go out hanging with new female friends all the time, your girlfriend is going to get suspicious, and not in a good way. If you want to make female friends without raising alarm, they're gonna have to befriend your girlfriend, too.

It sounds like you are either testing the waters or looking for validation from other women, which is why that girl in your class didn't respond to you.

 

[judoguy869]

Yes, I am in a three year relationship. The purpose of the email was to prove to myself I still have game in a sense and have other options.

I think my biggest problem is that I have never really interacted with any girls. I was very shy in middle school, went to an all-boys high school, had a gf at Uni and then was in the Army.

I basically have no clue how to even chat w/ girls. It sucks. I mean my g/f's have both loved me but it was really hard meeting them.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

The Victory Unlimited New Recruit Briefing:


Consider the information you get here as WEAPONS for you to sample. Pick out a few, try them out, use them on a few FIELD MISSIONS, THEN decide whether or not THAT weapon is worthy to be added to YOUR arsenal.

If not, then throw it away and yank another big assed Uzi from off the DJ Gunrack. Do this until you get SO comfortable using the techniques, strategies, and weapons that you INTERNALIZE THEM---and they become a part of who YOU are. You must focus on becoming a LIVING WEAPON.

Never change anything you like about yourself (ESPECIALLY if it's working) just because the DJ Bible or some famous poster says it's Wack. Filter your training here through the lens of behaviors that you have ALREADY battle-tested for yourself. Is who YOU are working? Or is it NOT?

Dont' fall into the trap of HORIZONTAL THINKING and assume like many here that ALL women are EXACTLY the same. Yes, there are MANY similiarities, so ONLY those that break the mold in a POSITIVE way should merit more than 5 minutes of your concentrated attention. But until one rises to the top by the BEHAVIORS towards you that she exhibits, treat them all the same.

Continue to focus on being a better man. SoSuave is just a headquarters, a training ground, a military school for you to use to build yoursef into a TRUE MASCULINE MAN. In MY branch of the SoSuave Armed Services, this is defined as a MAN who rules himself----and is NOT ruled by women, his hormones, his weaknesses, OR the 'half-assed" opinions of other people. So BATTLE-TEST every goddammed thing...

As you go about your missions, you will find that there are women that you need to use only a minimum amount of strategies, techniques, and weapons to engage. And you will also meet women who REQUIRE that you use your WHOLE arsenal in order to engage. Much of this depends on how high that woman's interest in YOU actually is.

Growth into a mature man is often predicated on how well you can discern the two apart, AND how DEDICATED you are to ONLY engaging those women that you suspect will ultimately ADD to your life rather than detract from it.

Welcome to the War, soldier.

You HAVE been briefed.




Soldier on!