Internalizing Confidence?

[cruisecontrol]

I've been going through the Bible religiously the past few days and in particular the Gospel according to Pook. I understand the self-confidence bit but putting it into practice is a lot harder that I thought. Basically, my confidence has been roller coastering and I can't seem to push through the approach anxiety at times. I feel like I should be faking it till I make it but havent had much success lately. Any advice on actually internalizing the confidence that I keep telling myself I have?

 

[DonJuanNJ81]

Listen to unstoppable confidence audio tapes by Ross Jeffries. You can find the system on the internet. And just man up. The most important confidence factor of all is the ability to truly be happy with yourself, without needing anyone. Everyone else is your life is just a bonus.

 

[zapras]

Listen to unstoppable confidence audio tapes by Ross Jeffries. You can find the system on the internet. And just man up. The most important confidence factor of all is the ability to truly be happy with yourself, without needing anyone. Everyone else is your life is just a bonus.

I totally agree with this. It's hard and it take alot of time. But take it one step at a time. And with every step it will become alot easier.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Let go of the ego and rewire your Identity

I can honestly say I have NO AA at most I'd feel something similar to AA which is when there is a challenge. The thing is you gotta truly visualize who you want to be...

- The mindsets you want to have
- The behaviors you want to have as a result of those mindsets
- Having your own criteria of success
- Your values
- The type of women you want looks wise and personality wise

Wrote this all down in DETAIL and then actually implement it. When this is completed you will find your confidence.

For me right now it's like everything clicked, I realized how money I am and I love my identity so much because...I created it. The world can't dictate my identity and as a result I don't end up becoming reactive because I know who I am.

This is when you can just walk up to a chick and everything just bombs, she's giggling and attracted before you even said a word, heck some of them will even open you.

At the end of the day you end up always having confidence no matter what the situation is.

 

[cruisecontrol]

Thanks for the advice. I've got a copy of Archer Sloan's Demonic Confidence that I never really got around to going through. I just listened to the first exercise (approaching 30 women and asking for the time) and one thing he alludes to at the end is the fear of change.

I'm thinking my problem atm is that I'm comfortable with my life as it is and that a fear of change is part of what is keeping me down. I'm going to try the journal thing, get my ass involved in some school clubs and hunker down with classwork. Oh yeah, and theres also that whole getting out there and meeting people thing