Interesting situation could use advice

Ma3stro

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So I met this chick a few weeks ago at the bar. Solid first impression, had a nice time with her and her two friends, got her number and even a kiss after just meeting. Cool. I went away to Miami for a week so didn't really talk at all, but after I came back I texted her to hang out. She responded and we kept up good communication. Not too much on my part really only communicating to set up date.

I picked her up on Saturday and went to the bar. Sat across from each other just had a few beers. Really casual conversation and a lil flirting here and there but the vibe was going in the right direction. I suggested going to another place so we walked down a few blocks and stood at the bar. She was all over me at this point. I initiated kissing but she really was into it and took it to the next level. Lip biting, tounge, people were staring. I brought her to the dance floor posted up against the wall and we danced for a bit. Things were getting heated so I suggested going back to my place to smoke. She agreed.

On the way back to my place, she blatantly stated "we aren't ****ing btw". I paid no mind and answered with a sarcastic "yea,ok." We smoke and soon after she's straddling me. It's on I'm thinking. I slowly try to escalate getting her clothes off and she was a lil resistant. Ok np. Few seconds later my futon basically fell and she with it LOL. It was really quite funny she was embarrassed. After that she wanted to leave so I drove her home thinking another night I'll get lucky.

So a few more days go by send some rapport texts, lil flirty texts basically saying how she was dancing sexy and loved her red outfit( blondes in red weakness). Very receptive the whole time. She even initiated texts on me asking how I was, or telling me what she was doing when I didn't even ask. We made plans to hang out on Saturday to go dancing. Then the day of I get a lateness excuse that she had to "drop her brother at school". Okkkk....then a few minutes later she flat out says that she isn't interested in me and doesn't want to go on a date and that she's sorry. I was pretty shocked at this point but replied with a simple "ok thanks anyways" and that was that. Haven't heard from her since.

So my question is what happened? My first instincts says boyfriend caught her. Second thoughts are maybe she just lost interest in me. If it's the latter than fine, but if she has a boyfriend I'm still pretty keen on getting some from this chick. Just wondering thoughts on how I should proceed? im not only focusing on this one chick so it's not to great of a concern I've just never been rejected this way. Any non-toxic advice would be appreciated.
 

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Ma3stro said:
On the way back to my place, she blatantly stated "we aren't ****ing btw". I paid no mind and answered with a sarcastic "yea,ok."
"we aren't ****ing btw" is standard ASD for women who usually are the ones ****ing. I feel your response was good, but I would have left the sarcasm out of it.

Few seconds later my futon basically fell and she with it LOL. It was really quite funny she was embarrassed. After that she wanted to leave so I drove her home thinking another night I'll get lucky.
I feel you may have been able to handle this situation differently. If a woman were to "fall" or do something mildly embarrassing in my presence, I'd of course initially show my concern, but I would very soon after try to make light of the situation. If you can turn her embarrassment into a smile or a laugh - this will naturally make her comfortable and further draw her to you, rather than having her want to leave because of an embarrassing situation. This is Charisma, and this is one of the ways guys who don't have much else going for them can somehow get women.

So a few more days go by send some rapport texts, lil flirty texts basically saying how she was dancing sexy and loved her red outfit( blondes in red weakness). Very receptive the whole time. She even initiated texts on me asking how I was, or telling me what she was doing when I didn't even ask. We made plans to hang out on Saturday to go dancing. Then the day of I get a lateness excuse that she had to "drop her brother at school". Okkkk....then a few minutes later she flat out says that she isn't interested in me and doesn't want to go on a date and that she's sorry. I was pretty shocked at this point but replied with a simple "ok thanks anyways" and that was that. Haven't heard from her since.


So my question is what happened? My first instincts says boyfriend caught her. Second thoughts are maybe she just lost interest in me. If it's the latter than fine, but if she has a boyfriend I'm still pretty keen on getting some from this chick. Just wondering thoughts on how I should proceed? im not only focusing on this one chick so it's not to great of a concern I've just never been rejected this way. Any non-toxic advice would be appreciated.
Question: Why did you want to see her again after she initiated sex, then cut it short and made you drive her home?
 

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Not sure why another thread got created, but anyways thanks for responding. As for why would I want to see her again, I guess I really shouldn't. Thats why I come here. Again thanks for the tips. Love to keep getting feedback and improving.
 

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Ma3stro said:
Not sure why another thread got created, but anyways thanks for responding.
Just saw that. No problem.

One last piece of advice:

As for why would I want to see her again, I guess I really shouldn't.
I think we all understand WHY you would want to see her. The point I was trying to make is that, in the following days, you may have come across as desperate-needy. And that was why she was no longer interested. Especially after she left you high and dry. A man of high quality with other options would have wiped his hands of her, unless possibly she explained herself to him and asked him for another chance. You required none of these but gave her a free pass instead. She recognized this, which could have made you come across as desperate. Not only that, you continued to flirt and give her added attention.

She got you, rather easily, and it didn't take much = no longer interested.
 

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Agreed thanks man. My next endeavors will be tighter. Areas I slipped that were careless.
 
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